Hi,
I am in love with a person and we r planning to get married. we live in 2 different countries. however when i tell him about something that bothers me in him and ask him not to do it, he says he wont and says he is sorry but in the end does it again. the thing that bothers me is when i call him, he doesnt answer me coz he puts his mobile on silent when he sleeps and he doesnt call back. i told him that i get worried about him when he doesnt reply and told him to at least msg me or call back.
we do chat always and he always comes online after like 30 mins or 1 hr after i call.
it really hurts me when he doesnt call back. what should i do?
2007-01-30 05:39:10 · 9 answers · asked by sarah 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sarah, do yourself a favor that will prevent you from suffering years of turmoil, and trauma. PAY ATTENTION TO THE RED FLAGS that are not only waving, but practically sticking you in the eye.
Find someone you can get to know on a very personal basis....not just online.
Take it from me, because I KNOW what I'm talking about!
2007-01-30 05:45:41 · answer #1 · answered by a_lot_smarter_now 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have any questions at all about someone do not marry them. I have been married for 1 yr 7 mo now and discovered 6 mos into the marraige I had made a mistake. Now I have been working on my marraige for a year and I am ready to separate. I had reservations about things but decided I wanted to try it. Marraige is not a pair of shoes that they don't fit right you can just throw them away. Put it off until you are sure.
2007-01-30 05:48:44 · answer #2 · answered by browneyedgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well of course he puts his phone on silent while he's sleeping. Do you want people waking you up while YOU sleep? Don't be so obsessive. What are you going to do when you get married - poke him in the ribs all night to wake him up to talk?
You sound very insecure. I wouldn't plan on marrying anyone until I could not have a nervous breakdown over him not answering the phone the instant it rings. If you continue to hound him you will only push him away anyway. You need some therapy to get over your insecurity.
You know what they say - you can't be loved until you love yourself.
2007-01-30 05:51:45 · answer #3 · answered by Queen of Cards 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How much time or see this man your getting married to. How much do you know him? You can't get to know a person unless your physical around him.If that bothers you can you imagine when your married, how many times he not going to call him, when you need him to. Do you think you can know a person because you two chat alot. It's not like you can drive to his house in go out in have dinner. How well do you really know him. How much time do you spent with him besides the phone or e-mails. It don't sound good. Read ten stupid things women to to mess up their their lives by Dr. Laura C. Schlessinger
2007-01-30 07:14:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well how often do you call him? If youre talking about him not calling you back within a few minutes, then I think youre asking too much of him. Especially if he's sleeping. It sounds like you want him to be at your beck and call, even if he's sleeping or sitting ont he toilet, which isn't fair. Maybe youre too insecure to have a long distance relationship. I'm not trying to be mean, I would be too insecure too.
However, if by not calling you back, you mean he waits a few DAYS to call you back, well then, you don't really have a relationship.
2007-01-30 05:47:05 · answer #5 · answered by stripedbook 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Different countries, different time zones. Figure out what time you are trying to contact him, and make sure its convient. Long distance relationships are difficult, for many reasons. Don't let the time difference be a problem. Too many other important issues need to be addressed, like you trying to change who he is. Already trying to change a person is not a good sign.
2007-01-30 06:09:11 · answer #6 · answered by sweetpea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to read someone in a close relationship. I would think that it would be next to impossible when you're countries apart.
PLEASE heed what you are feeling. COMMUNICATE openly with each other. Do NOT overlook these things that bother you.
They will NOT go away. But will indeed grow larger. So PLEASE do NOT marry until you are able to reach settlement in your mind and heart regarding these issues. And PLEASE tell me that you have actually met each other face to face.
2007-01-30 05:56:49 · answer #7 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't OWN HIM...and cannot tell him what he can, and cannot do for starters!!! If you don't like what he does, don't marry him, but whatever the hell you do, you can't change him.
As far as "what do I do? Quit calling him....he doesn't answer only because he knows you're only going to ***** at him for something he did again!!!!!
2007-01-30 05:46:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
let him sleep
2007-01-30 05:46:13 · answer #9 · answered by gabby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋