Ive been married for 4 months and me and my husband are having some problems in the bedroom...he has no problem "getting it up" but halfway through it seems he can't stay hard. I can't help but wonder if he's already bored with me, or if there's some other issue. Ive tried different positions, cutting back on how often we have it, all sorts of things. I don't want to ask because its such a sensitive subject to men, but is there anything I can do to help?
2007-01-30 05:26:23 · 12 answers · asked by hopek2006 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
he has minimal weight gain...under 10 lbs...Ive actually lost weight...no kids...we're both 20...he got laid off from work for a couple weeks but he doesnt seem like it bothers him.
2007-01-30 05:38:10 · update #1
o yeah...btw jose...your an @$$hole!
2007-01-30 05:40:10 · update #2
NEW QUESTION!
I guess I obviously HAVE to talk to him about it...
what's the best way to approach something like that? I don't really just want to sit by him and say, "Why won't it stay hard?"
2007-01-30 05:44:18 · update #3
Is he taking any medications? That would be the first possible problem. Have either of you had any weight gain? Do you have kids? Is he facing more stress at work than usual? Stress can cause high blood pressure which will lead to this problem.These are just some possibilities for his problem...
How old is he? If none of the above apply, he should see his doctor for an ED pill and to make sure it's not being caused by another health problem.
2007-01-30 05:34:14 · answer #1 · answered by Back in the game... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please let him see a doctor. Perhaps also his mind strays form what he is doing . Rule out the other woman thing. if he was seeing another woman theree is a good chance he would not get it up for you. Since he does and have problems keeping it hard it can be concentration or some medical problem .
Also , are you sure you are not turning him off in some way / This happens and the woman does not know it until a quarrel starts and it comes up . (No offence please ) Iin this light , I suggest that you both sit down and be quite open about it. You are husband and wife and should be able to discuss the most intimate of things at all times. I know this will definitely help if the problem is not medical.
Good luck
2007-01-30 05:40:34 · answer #2 · answered by rowell1608 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have been married for 5 years & it dosn't get any better with time. My husband & I used to have a great sex life, but he started having the same problems. I felt the same way as you at first,then I came to the realization that is was his body having problems and it had nothing to do with me. I talked with my husband about it and realized that it was taking a toll on him too. You and your husband should talk to a doctor and find out what is wrong. Erectile disfunction can be caused by all sorts of things.
2007-01-30 05:36:26 · answer #3 · answered by lil momma 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The best time to talk about sex issues is OUTSIDE the bedroom, the WORST time to talk about sex issues is INSIDE the bedroom.
Hubby may have either mental issues, (stress, etc) or physical issues. First talk about and rule out the physical issues, go to a good doctor. Also talk about his J.O.B. etc.. together figure out if there are outside stressor issues which he can’t leave at the front door when he comes home.
It’s completely wrong to assume there’s something “wrong” with you. OR assume he’s bored. Be willing to look at all the possible issues involved.
2007-01-30 05:41:07 · answer #4 · answered by logicalanswer 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What it sounds like is that he could just have psychological issues with keeping it hard. He also may not be very motivated to have sex. I mean I know it sounds harsh and everything but it's possible. If they're no longer attracted to you like he used to then you have to spice it up more!
2007-01-30 05:51:27 · answer #5 · answered by lover4ne1 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The fact that you are uncomfortable talking to your husband about this suggests that you are not really intimate with each other. That is a problem in and of itself. You must discuss this with him!
2007-01-30 05:33:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Nothing wrong with seeing a Doc for a check up.
no smoking, no booz, or drugs, and no no no no materbation.
speaking of drugs... does he take any meds? that could be a cause.
I doubt it's you. Sensitive subject... tell him to man up and get help!
good luck
2007-01-30 05:35:30 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like it could be a medical problem. Have him go in for a check up before it gets worse.
2007-01-30 05:38:16 · answer #8 · answered by CLM 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes! Talk to him about it. I would speculate that there is something on his mind that is creeping in while having sex. I doubt it is stress but it could be.
2007-01-30 05:31:43 · answer #9 · answered by Richard Bricker 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
first you need to talk to him about it, then you need to get him to a doctor, it can be a sign of problems, and it is best to rule that out early to ease eveyones minds
2007-01-30 05:30:56 · answer #10 · answered by tigweldkat 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋