I have had a problem with our life in the bedroom Its not my wife its me dI have to watch porn to get in the mood the problem is its the males on the porn that turns me on I have also found myself going on gay websites I need to talk to my wife because I am actually considering trying this with a contact I have made I love my wife dearly but for the last 10 yrs I have had this problem So question is DO I TELL MY WIFE? DO I TRY THE RELATION TO SEE IF I REALLY WANT THIS BEFORE I HURT HER? or DO I JUST LEAVE HER? DO I KEEP ON WITH THE PORN AND LIVE IN AN UNSATIFIED LIFE WITH MY WIFE?
2007-01-30 05:23:30 · 12 answers · asked by goforit 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
sweetheart, talk to your wife. let her know what's going on with you. be honest about everything. you're not happy, and you need to let her know that, and the reasons for it. it's only going to hurt both of you if you keep secrets. you'll feel a lot better when you talk to her and get all of this off your chest.
Best Wishes
2007-01-30 05:41:31 · answer #1 · answered by atiana 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a bit too serious for this website I think. One thing I woudln't do is try it out BEFORE telling your wife. This is cheating and it puts her at risk (even if you use a condom theres still a chance to get herpes or aids and other STD's, doncoms can break) I think you need to be honest and sit her down and tell her this. You also need to make a decision, on how important sex in and of itself is to you. I don't know if your wife is your best friend or if you still love her or if you have kids, but although you deserve happiness, is sex really all there is to make you happy? Is it that important enough that you would leave your family and your life as you know it? This is a touch decision. I'm sorry I'm not much help.
2007-01-30 13:40:11 · answer #2 · answered by stripedbook 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a married man you owe it to your wife to be honest
and up-front with it. If in fact you admit you are gay and
are gay and un-happy with whom you are married to now
then you need to let her know. Eventually your marriage
should end if you would rather be with a man than with a
woman, because you will hurt her more and continually
if you stay with her and still have your flings with other
men. So do talk to your wife and tell her what it is that
you really want and that will probably be enough to end
the relationship. Remember also is this definately what
you want before ending the relationship with her.
2007-01-30 22:20:41 · answer #3 · answered by RudiA 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, difficult choices. The closest would be to communicate with your wife, BEFORE taking any kind of action. But then again, only YOU know your wife. However she's probably posed the question, what should she do with a husband who's no longer interested in her. Thus you're fully aware how important your communication is at this time. 2nd choice would be to speak with a professional counselor to help you both sort it all out.
2007-01-30 13:41:16 · answer #4 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest that you work on this with a counselor. I hope that you won't explore outside of your marriage while with your wife. In would be dangerous, and it could ruin your marriage (if you find out that you want to stay).
Keep in mind, if you choose to divorce your wife, that it will go much, much more smoothly if you divorce while by yourself (not leaving her for someone else). Try to keep her adjustment to a minimum.
2007-01-30 13:46:06 · answer #5 · answered by Faith 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would you want her to "try someone out" first to see if she wanted something before telling YOU? Of course not! It's not right. Just like you have the right to see if that life is what you want, SHE has the right to decide if she wants to wait on you while you play around and find out. Did you just say your wedding vows, or did you mean them? Get OUT of the relationship if it's not satisfying, because if you "try this", you're hurting her anyway. (Unless she's okay with it.)
2007-01-30 13:42:48 · answer #6 · answered by a_lot_smarter_now 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You my friend are gay and not coming to terms with it too well. Before you pick-up some nasty disease and bring it back to your wife, I would tell her that you are gay and you need to find some man on man love.
2007-01-30 13:33:13 · answer #7 · answered by Simply Lovely 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
are you for real if you are unsatisfied in your marriage tell your wife talk to her and tell her how you feel if you are unsatisfied maybe she is also think about it. Do you have children if you do think about their feelings if you don't then why don't you go ahead and be a man and tell your wife she has the right to know.,.......................
2007-01-30 15:20:59 · answer #8 · answered by what gives 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk with your wife. You may very well not be gay and as such cheating or leaving may find you changing your mind.
2007-01-30 13:33:42 · answer #9 · answered by Richard Bricker 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If you are on a "Wiener Hunt" you are gay. Tell you wife so "She can leave you"
2007-01-30 14:20:17 · answer #10 · answered by Jonathan I 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋