i have no problem with him being gay he is 21 and i will always love him she always has something to say like he is to skinny stuff like that and her son is sitting in jail......why does she think he is any better?
2007-01-30 05:12:51 · 31 answers · asked by ? 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
yeah, just ignore her.
2007-01-30 05:19:19 · answer #1 · answered by currious 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hmmmm....If this person is saying stuff right to your face then I would have to straighten this person out about how this makes me feel, and say it strong then walk away, since this person is saying it right to your face they know what they are doing and the damage they are doing to you emotionally and obviously doesn't care so why should you care when you let them have it with both barrels and screw their appology I wouldn't even stick around for that. And put some space between you two, like never occupying (spelling) the same place at the same time, don't ever get within ear shot of this persons conversations again if they only spew negativities. Misery loves company, when people have unhappy lives they tend to become busy bodies and sometimes don't even realize how negative they've become. Poof make them suddenly invisable to you. Be strong and Good Luck to you.
Update: If you don't have the courage to tell this person off write down all your feelings in a journal on a daily basis until you feel better about it.
2007-01-30 05:27:03 · answer #2 · answered by jupitor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a hard situation no matter how you look at it. Talking about someone else is not good unless they are there to defend themselves anyway. I think al ot of times people will talk about others just to make themselves feel better.
I wouldn't worry much about her saying he's to skinny though that's no big deal its when she would put him down just because he is gay or the way he lives his life.
My best friend since kindergarten wound up being gay but I always knew it. He was always different liked to stay clean when I was always covered in dirt from playing sports. and stuff. After graduation he came out to all his friends, and many of them then rejected him. He was then afraid to tell me but when he did I said I already knew. He was so happy that i was still talking to him it was unbelievable. I then found out what our other friends said and did to him and I was mad at them for it, and don't think I talked to them for a long time even now I just say hi and stuff but leave conversations to my closest friends. Many of them were always trouble makers too. So perhaps its just a way of coping not that its right and they need to realize what they say can hurt not only the person they speak badly of but the ones that care for that person to.
My guess is that she hears a lot of stuff about her son and just wants to vent on yours because she doesn't stand up for her own son in any way.Not that jail time is good but you know what I mean.
Good luck with what ever decision you make.
2007-01-30 05:34:44 · answer #3 · answered by Tigger7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is most likely someone against a gay sexuality. So she thinks her son is better because her son is not gay. If she would rather have a son in jail than a gay son there is something wrong with her opinions
2007-01-30 05:20:31 · answer #4 · answered by !~K.RoCk~! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can conveniently avoid her, do so. I don't mean rearrange your whole life, but don't shop in the store where she works, if something like that is the case.
If you can't avoid her, then take the high road. Be friendly, but a bit aloof, and don't mention her son. Show your support of your own son by putting his picture on your desk, mention that he earned a college degree or was elected as fraternity president, etc.
If you really want to get her goat, kill her with kindness. Be her best friend, and be in her face about it. Talk to her, invite her to lunch, chatter about your son, and give her a cake and tell her that your son baked it for her.
But that would probably be overkill...
2007-01-30 05:24:17 · answer #5 · answered by Ralfcoder 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could always say "well at least he's not in JAIL". But that would only bring you down to her level. Yes, you are doing right....ignore her. She's only trying to make herself feel better about her son by belittling yours. It's not going to work though.
2007-01-30 05:20:46 · answer #6 · answered by kj 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
people like to talk, sometimes they have little to say but they still want conversation. She seems to have a connection to you because you both have sons. I'm sure she means no harm. Why not find other things you two have in common. Or, talk about something else to bring her out of the doledrums or to change the subject.
2007-01-30 05:20:19 · answer #7 · answered by sophieb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, you know your child. Gay, straight, skinny or fat, he is YOURS! Yours to love unconditionally. No other will ever love your son like you do.
Ignore anyone that tries to tell you any different.
She picks on your kid to lessen the impact of her own pain with her child. Have sympathy for her, but do not engage her.
Best wishes and many hugs!
2007-01-30 05:21:00 · answer #8 · answered by dorkmobile 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a great mom. I don't think that you should ignore them. You should come up with some snappy comebacks and stick up for him! Don't say anything bad about her son, but make sure that your son knows that you're going to bat for him.
2007-01-30 05:19:53 · answer #9 · answered by barbara_in_missouri 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would put this person out of my life or at least stay away as much as possible. Does she know that he is gay. If so tell her that you are not prejudice and you believe in equal rights and that she has enough to worry about without commenting on your loved ones.
2007-01-30 05:19:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are doing the right thing by ignoring the lady because she is not helping; she is only making things worse by saying negative things about your son.
2007-01-30 05:17:35 · answer #11 · answered by Budman 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋