Kisses? I swear that I would never have continued to go out with him in the first place if he kissed this bad when we first met. The last two years it seems like he's a fumbling, awkward desperate teenage boy when he kisses me. It's so messy and probing and goes on forever- I can't breathe. I have tried hinting to him that I don't like it- like backing off or making a big gesture to wipe my face with the back of my hand but he doesn't get the problem. He thinks kissing this way is sexy and a turn on.
We have had our problems and I know it's possible that I am losing interest in him because he's hurt me. But I can't be imagining things, nor could I have been so swept off my feet 8 years ago when we started dating that I did not notice that he's a horrible kisser!
Should I spare his feelings because he's been a jerk to me in other ways and just tell him GROSS!!!??
2007-01-30 05:11:36 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why don't you "teach" him how you liked to be kissed? Have him close his eyes and lay it on him. Tell him he's not allowed to do a thing and just to enjoy it. Make sure you tell him that you are going to kiss him the way you like to be kissed or he might miss the point of the whole thing.
2007-01-30 13:26:04 · answer #1 · answered by KL 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like it may not be his kisses that have changed, so much as your reaction to them. Remember, that of the two of you involved in this relationship. You are the one you can most easily change. Look for way to change the way you feel, and discuss with him how the two of you can strengthen your relationship. If your love for him is strong, his kisses will still thrill you.
2007-01-30 13:23:52 · answer #2 · answered by dbake50 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
personally if i was you i would tell him if he wants to kiss you like that to go lower and aim at a completely different body part. Just kidding i think the best thing for you to do is tell him the truth in marriage the truth is always the best course of action.
2007-01-30 13:22:23 · answer #3 · answered by freefinally101 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should hint anymore. I think you need to come right out and tell him that the way he's kissed has changed and you don't really like it, then teach him how to kiss you the way you like.
2007-01-30 13:42:46 · answer #4 · answered by stripedbook 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question you need to answer is did he change or did you?
This could simply be an indication that you do not want to be intimate with him. This them becomes just another thing you have to complain about.
You need to rethink your relationship because this is not working, apparently for either one of you.
From here it is not his kissing, which probably has not changed,
but your attitude toward him.
2007-01-30 13:37:18 · answer #5 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well u dont have to be rude to get ur point acrossed just be honest.. just tell him how u feel.. and ask him to do something different, "id wait untill he's in a decent mood though" if u do it while he's being a jerk as u put it, he could go into defense mode instead of actually listening..
2007-01-30 13:27:00 · answer #6 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
spare the man's feelings. it sounds like he's trying... i think maybe you should give him a crash course in kissing - 101 and maybe that will not only fix his kissing problem but maybe even bring you guys closer together. try it out... you have nothing to lose.
2007-01-30 13:21:06 · answer #7 · answered by martha1314 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well in a relationship you have to be honest with oneanother you have to let him know that when he kisses like that its a turn off i been with my husband for 5 years men they dont really know what woman like they only know what they like so we as woman have to guide them in the direction to what you like and how you like it..you said that you neaver really notice that he kissed that bad before maybe hes tryin something new in the realationship to spice things up or you are just using that as a excuse to get away from him because you are not interested in him anymore but either way you have to be straight forward to him and let him know that you dont like what hes doing in a nice matter and dont be rude to him about it.. i hope that this will help you out.
2007-01-30 13:23:11 · answer #8 · answered by sweetsss 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you don't like something that your husband does, just let him. It's better to let him than for you to endure something u don't like. Besides, it could make your relationship better. Remember, communication is a great tool for making a relationship last.
2007-01-30 13:18:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋