can you give me any website for good marriage councelling?

Question

my marriage is on the rocks,though it was not going good from first only.the worst part of his character is he wants to rule in my life,takes me always granted.wht he wants i have to do..he will decide wht i should do in my free time.wht i should talk with my friends.if i shout on the same ,he says you got to be used of it...i sometime feel to commit suicide only.i have one three years son.i always think of him.thats why wants to save my marriage so he wont lose any of his parents.please help.

i actually from india and hindu by religion.here i m with h4 visa.and cant even talk with my inlaws too.

Answer 1

www.divorceasfriends.com

I've been married a year and a half, and it's been hell. I've moved out now...the site has some helpful info.

Answer 2

The worst part of his character nobody has a worst part its just a part that doesnt suit you. You have to do what he says no you dont you chose to. You chose to enter and now you chose whether to stay or leave. There is no one person who is to blame in a marriage breakdown you must take responsibility for your part. Marriage is about two people learning to live together happily two personalitys are not automatically suited you must work to make it so. Dont walk into marriage councilling wanting to change him. See YOU have to change YOU only he can change himself a councillor cant and to do that he must want to change you cant make that choice for him.You must learn to stand up for your rights not with abuse or shouting or blame, just to say no. A good place to start with any relationship healing is to watch how you argue start every conversation with l not you . its human nature if you start to blame (using the words you do this and that) automatically the other person will defend themselves and you will never get your point across. eg. You take me for granted ...would work better as... I feel hurt when i cook tea and you dont say how nice it is. This shows him how you feel. Commiting suicide.. I lost my brother recently from suicide he left a baby and a 3 year old. Never let a marriage get you that low. Children in the end are better with one parent who loves them and can show warmth and affection than two fighting and arguing. Your children will watch the behaviour in the house and that will be their role model. decide if its a healthy one. I wish you all the luck and i hope you make the right decisions for all of you what ever they may be.

Answer 3

I don't know the way of life but just a little in your country. But I can tell you what I would say if you were from the usa. First of all never think about suicide. That is Satan trying to ruin your life.You have children and what you do affects them for the rest of their lives. Do you believe in God? If you do then pray for wisdom on your situation. God did not mean for a marriage to break apart. Unless he is not faithful, or he is physically abusing you. Don't live with him if he is hurting you. Sounds like he has a controlling nature. If you know it won't work for you and your husband, then you need to leave him. I will pray for you and your marriage and children. I am here if you need me to talk.
you can go to:family.org or type on your browser Family Focus this specializes in helping families and marriages

Answer 4

I can recommend a couple of great books that give great insight and you will be able to relate to. You will learn a lot too, it'll be a wake up call. Trust me, these books are life savers and I highly recommend them. Quit your destructive behavior and start giving him a little more affection, appreciation, encouragement and support. Try it! A few more kisses, hugs, and i love you's and I can guarantee he will be more than willing to return the favors. Men are very simple creatures. Make the first move, why wait for him? I also use www.family.org.

Answer 5

Never stay in a marriage for the sake of your child/children.
They need a happy, loving environment. Unhappy parents do not teach them good things. Children learn from what they see and experience. With that said, do a search by typing marriage counseling online. Then click on the items that come up, to see which ones sound good to you.

Answer 6

Any form of counseling will artwork when you're open-minded and is prepared to look on the topic matters from diverse element of view. yet with marriage counseling both part ought to decide on it to artwork. i tried both couples and human being counseling and not in any respect something grow to be operating because my ex had to apply it as administration and that i had to end a painful relationship. What extremely helped me throughout the time of that element grow to be a homework task of making a time-line of the relationship which confirmed me what the relationship grow to be and the way it failed. now and again you ought to diminish your loses because you may not fastened yet another human being in hardship-free words your self. try to be straightforward with your self and your major different must be too. do not waste you money in case you may not agree in this difficulty

Answer 7

I see your point of staying and trying to work it out. But the question is: "What are you going to do when you son is not a child anymore, and you are possibly still in the bad marriage". My parents stayed married mostly for kids, I wish they didn't. It seems to me that you got a master, rather then a husband.

Answer 8

Tell him one of these days you might add poison to his food or crush his head when he sleeps. This will make him have sleepless nights and lose his apetite.
OR
Ask him to take care of his child and warn him that you dont mind leaving him and his child for good.

If he still continues, leave him for good.

Answer 9

I don't think a website can help. Pray and ask God to help you and He will not disappoint you.

Answer 10

Try http://www.marriagetoday.org or http://www.drphil.com You can also call your local church and see if they can help you out at all. Suicide is not worth it trust me.