so i've been dating this guy for 2 months and recently we had a talk about marriage and he said he wouldnt marry anyone outside his culture because its too complicated........and i am outside his culture......we are from different countries........and from what i understand his parents wont take me in either
but what i dont get is that he says he loves me and he once called me his wife in a joke manner....and he talks about kids with me all the time.....and he holds my hands and cares about me..........he wants us to live together and once when we were at the store and he saw a sign what do you see urself in 20 years, he asked me what do you see "us" in 20 years like?
so am i wasting my time with him , i really have no clue??
2007-01-30 04:58:05 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You need to have a deep discussion about whether he means it or was just saying that to see how you'd react. If he really thinks he needs to marry someone in his culture, DUMP HIM AND DON'T LOOK BACK.
He wants to have his cake and eat it, too. He wants the good times with you but he's already got a ready made explanation on why he can't get more serious.
I wish I'd listened to my instincts when my exhusband said his family didn't think it would work between us becuse we were from different cultures. His mother made my life a living HELL! The marriage ended in divorce and I'm sorry that I wasted my time with the racist b@stard!
2007-01-30 05:14:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wasting your precious time. I don't know what you are really wanting people to tell you cause you answered your own question. "I've been dating this guy for 2 months and recently we had a talk about marriage and he said he wouldn't marry anyone outside his culture"!!!! Listen..you really want to know whats going on...he is string you along. He is telling you what he thinks (and probably knows) what you want to hear from him. Your just a piece of a** to him. Plain and simple. He doesn't want a long term future with you. He wants a short term fling.
2007-01-30 05:29:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've had two good friends get into relationships with people from different cultures and/or religious beliefs. They had great relationships the entire time; but in the end, the one from another culture married into what their families wanted for them. And they wanted it too. I watched one of my friends in a relationship for three years with a girl and ultimately she married someone else. He's still not over it. Run away!
2007-01-30 05:27:03 · answer #3 · answered by A B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's always the chance of him changing his mind. But at the same time you can't worry yourself to death your entire relationship in hopes that he will change his mind. If he loves you, he would want you to be happy. A piece of paper doesn't prove anything. At the same time, him sacrificing what his family thinks might be the only way for you to truely find happiness. Either way, one of you will have to sacrifice. Either you'll have to sacrifice the fact that you may never be his wife, or he will have to sacrifice his beliefs and values for you. That's your choice. And whatever you chose, you need to be fully comfortable with. Also, I would decide sooner than later. You've only been together two months. 5 years down the line he might still think the same, and itll be that much harder for you.
2015-08-17 13:57:45 · answer #4 · answered by tori 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is true that it can be complicated and challenging for you, but that depends on where he comes from and what religion he belongs to. You can be from different countries and still have a great marriage but that depends on the circumstances. Definitely listen at what he is saying and look at the red flags he's waving at you. Move on and keep him as a friend. You can learn a great deal about his culture.
2007-01-30 05:46:30 · answer #5 · answered by jeob32 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to marry him, you are wasting your time. He has already told you that he cannot marry someone outside of his culture. At the end of the day, this is a dealbreaker...love him for what you have now, but do not expect a ring to ever come.
2007-01-30 05:05:50 · answer #6 · answered by Back in the game... 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
think of of it this way, maximum individuals get extremely under pressure over the in regulations and you havent have been given to stress approximately this anymore! in the event that they're strict muslims they have been by no skill going to be happy as of direction they might have needed their son to marry a muslim. Your fiance ought to have mentioned something on on your father approximately donning shorts as a exchange of coming by using you yet i'm a huge believer in respecting different peoples cultures extraordinarily once you're of their united states so it isnt something which you ought to have have been given disappointed with him approximately you ought to have only asked your fiance to ask your dad to develop into trousers.
2016-09-28 04:50:23 · answer #7 · answered by aharon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you want to stay in " Limbo " ? He will tell you anything you want to hear as long as he gets what he wants. Since he won't marry out of his culture and his parents won't accept you, dump him and move on.
2007-01-30 05:13:02 · answer #8 · answered by ray ray 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if your plan is to get married to this guy; then you better move on. From what he told you he is ether never getting married or is looking for the right one; for to make his mommy and daddy happy> next case
2007-01-30 05:15:55 · answer #9 · answered by sea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that different cultures is not a logical reason in this world . if you love each other , you can marry . do not waste your life .
2007-01-30 05:14:20 · answer #10 · answered by MASOUD A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋