My entire pregnancy they have been horrible to me.....we had been engaged for a year and a half and found out we were pregnant 3 months before the wedding, they said i was white trash... and because i refuse to go to thier house EVERY SUNDAY i am also evil...his 5 sisters write me HORRIBLE emails about anything and everything. They now just completely ignore the fact the we are married, and keep inviting him out every weekend and trying to put this guilt trip on him!! How can i make them stop !?!?! i cant handle them anymore!
HELP
2007-01-30 04:57:43 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
also he never goes to their houses and rarely talk to them. He has training during the week so i only get to see him friday nite through sunday night and they expect him to spend a day of that with them.......he has his own family now!
2007-01-30 04:59:04 · update #1
Since you've done everything you can, from what it sounds like, it's time for your husband to act like a man and stand up to his family. He should not be allowing them to make you miserable, especially not when you're this far along in a pregnancy. His first commitment, now that you're married, needs to be to you and your child, and he needs to show that by having a talk with his family. If they refuse to listen to reason, you and your husband need to tell them, together, that they will no longer be welcome in your life, and if your mother-in-law wants to see her grandchild, she needs to start cleaning up her act.
2007-01-30 05:06:33 · answer #1 · answered by Jenn 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just keep living your life and ignore them. One day they will realize that they are missing out on his life and the life of the baby you are carrying. It will take a while for this revenge to take full effect but it will. The best thing you can do is to be the adult and show your child all the love and attention it will miss from its grandparents and aunts and cousins. Your children will see how their fathers family treats you all and they will understand someday. When it is time for the baby's birth, go to the hospital and don't tell them. Don't tell them the baby is born or anything about it. Wash your hands of them. This is the best way to get revenge without getting revenge.
2007-01-30 13:56:01 · answer #2 · answered by country girl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Does your husband know ablout these emails? You need to let him know what is going on between you and his family so it can be addressed appropriately. You are bringing another member into their family whether they like it or not and they need to understand that he now has a family of his own and needs to spend as much time with you as possible. I hope your husband will share the same view. His guilt should lie with the decision to leave his wife for his family not the other way around. He needs to understand that there is absolutely nothing wrong with spending his free time with his family, I am sure if his parents neglected their family when they newly started they may not be the same family they are now.
2007-01-30 13:17:01 · answer #3 · answered by redz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
During my pregnancy, my in-laws wanted me to abort. They said they would rather see us living under a bridge then be supportive of our choice to keep and raise a baby at our "young" ages. We were 19 and 20, but married.
MY parents screamed at me everyday, even though I was already sick and stressed enough as it was. I cried all the time, and thought that by the time our child was born, we wouldnt be speaking to any of our family.
DO NOT BE VENGEFUL! As a soon to be parent, you have to make wiser decisions. Ignore them if you have to. Once our daughter was born, it was like everything changed and the past 9 months hadnt happend at all. They showerd us with gifts, love, and support. My mom even helped take care of me for 3 weeks after a difficult birth. I know it seems impossible now, but they can change. My in-laws are now our most eager babysitters, and have bought us a car, a king-size bed, a digital camera, baby stuff...
My point is, give it time. Babies melt hearts and heal wounds. Good luck, and God bless. If things dont change for a while after the baby is here, the worst revenge you could exact on them is not letting them see their grandchild.
Remember, you are going to be a parent. You now have to think before you make decisions "would I want MY child to make a choice like this?"
2007-01-30 13:11:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I personally think you should block their horrible emails. And concider changing your phone number because it would seem to me that even your husband isnt that interested in his family right now. Ignore them. They seem to be the ones that cant handle you. Just put them at arms distance and only talk to them if you have to. YOu dont need this kind of stress in your pregnancy.
A way to get even (and this may get me booed) is not let your inlaws in on anything to do with the baby. No birth date, no milestones nothing. And when they come asking why you havent said anything to them, tell them until they can grow up and stop being rude, you do not want them around your child or knowing anything about him or her.
2007-01-30 13:06:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
So, I'm assuming they called you white trash because you got pregnant before you were married? What, did they forget their son had a part in it?
They won't change and they probably will try to tell you how to raise your child, ect. I say have your husband talk to them and say if they can't support the both of you and treat you with respect they won't be able to have anything to do with the family or grandchild until they do.
2007-01-30 13:22:23 · answer #6 · answered by kittynala 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't talk to them all that much or sees them then you probably don't have anything to worry about but to be on the safe side when the baby is born ask him to have them stay away while you are in the hospital and that the two of you will let them know when it's okay to come over and see the baby. Congratulations and good luck to you.
2007-01-30 13:07:58 · answer #7 · answered by guysmommy_09142001 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all you are wanting to know how to get even with them let me just say that two wrong's do not make a right.You need to be the bigger person.Kill them with kindness.As far as their e-mails go all you have to do is ignore them just delete them and don't respond they will get bored of being ignored and they will eventually stop.You said yourself that your husband hardly talk's to them or goes to see them so what is the problem.Talk to you husband and tell him how you feel it is his family and it is his job to deal with them.You are getting ready to have a baby and this is no way to raise a child you need to be the bigger person and let the small crap go.Don't sweat the small stuff it's so not worth it.
2007-01-30 13:22:05 · answer #8 · answered by Maureen B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both should just ignore them and not play into their immature antics and games. This will make you the bigger person, and if they want to act civil, then, and only then, will you speak w/ them. Do not respond to E-mails, do not answer the phone when they call, and if you run into them put on a happy face and act like nothing they do or say bothers you. Eventually they will come around.
2007-01-30 13:06:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
"'Get even with""? thats not very mature.
I am sure thy are inviting both of you- you said you are refusing to go to their family functions. Be mature enough to know that his family of nurture may not be perfect- but neither are you. Having a baby before you have a secure future may not have been ideal. I'm sure that wasn't the plan they had for their son/brother.
If these people are writing you horrible emails why haven't you blocked them?
2007-01-30 13:10:50 · answer #10 · answered by professorc 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋