i have a boyfriend right now and he wants to marry me, but my ex-hubby wants to reconcile...i dont know what to do because i can feel that i still love him...but im so afraid to be hurt again...and im kinda confused because i was thinking for some reasons why my ex-hubby wanted to get us back...maybe he just want to use me just to see his son...or maybe he really still loves me?!im kinda confused about that and one more thing i alredy have a boyfriend who's very serious and who loves me and my child...and he accepted me for who and what iam and ready to marry me and to be a dad of my child... so what do i need to do?im so confused...
2007-01-30 04:55:29 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
your ex is your ex for a reason. move forward, never look back.
2007-01-30 05:00:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
You got divorced for a reason, so remind yourself of those reasons... Don't rush and get married, it sounds like you have a really good boyfriend, I would tell the ex he can see his child, but don't let it go further. He may see that you are actually happy and can't stand that it's not with him, so he'll do and say whatever to get you back. Be careful, I wouldn't fall for it.
2007-01-30 05:34:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i might get married on your boyfriend first in the past you do something. i may be with the ex through fact i've got faith after divorce you may placed your toddler first instead of working around with a boyfriend through fact there is not any dedication there except you at the instant are not shacking up and having intercourse with him. Do what's ultimate to your son, not for you.
2016-10-16 07:29:36 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well he is an ex for a reason.hold on to what you have with man. He treats you right and your child, move on and marry him.sometimes the past is just that remember you broke up for a reason.You should get a lawyer for advice about the child.your ex is still the father. I wish you the best.
2007-01-30 05:04:49 · answer #4 · answered by canteloupesweet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i hate to break it to you, but 99.9% of people who say that they will change DON'T. if you go back to him, it's almost certain that you will be having the same problems that you had before. you divorced him for a reason, so you need to stick with it. there's no point in putting your son in the middle of a bad relationship all over again, all that it will cause is more pain for all parties involved. you can let your ex be a father to your child, there's nothing wrong with that, but that doesn't mean you have to sacrifice your happiness with another man.
2007-01-30 05:05:00 · answer #5 · answered by LoriBeth 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please dont do anything in your present state of mind. In fact never make a decision under duress/pressure. A decision is NOT necessary, it you cant feel comfortable about making it.
There is NO hurry. Just take one day at a time. SOMETHING will tell what you need to do, and WHEN. Keep your eyes and ears wide open. Enjoy your independence. You may decide that neither is right. Most of all believe in YOURSELF!
2007-01-30 05:07:30 · answer #6 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Reconciling is a hard thing to do. But why does boyfriend need to step in and be DAD to your son?
2007-01-30 05:06:12 · answer #7 · answered by jude 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hubby had his chance and that is why he is the EX.
I say marry the boyfriend. You talk more affectionatley about him then the ex.
Just rememebr why you ex is your ex and take your child out of the equation.
2007-01-30 05:03:29 · answer #8 · answered by Simply Lovely 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The definition of stupid is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.
In that is the answer I'd give you. He's your ex for a reason.
2007-01-30 05:01:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
you have to weigh the pros and cons to make your decision. Who will love you more? if you get back with your ex, will you have a happy life? which person does love you more? which one is more sincere? which one will you trust more? hope these questions will help you with your decision.
2007-01-30 05:03:40 · answer #10 · answered by Jon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋