been married for a few years,and i love her very much,but as a
human,i also need touch.they say sex isnt everything,,but none the less it is very important.what should i do.i have had many talks with her.and nothing seems to work.i have even offered for us to be open about what we talk about
2007-01-30 04:52:10 · 21 answers · asked by doug 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Counseling is always an option. You must fix this problem fast as it will only get worse. You may resort to cheating to fufill your needs, or worse yet, divorce.
Fix it fast or get out now!!!
2007-01-30 04:57:01 · answer #1 · answered by Back in the game... 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'll just throw this out there and see if I get my ears boxed!!! Doesn't sex get old with everyone?? Huh?? It's the same person for years!! No?? How about all those people who fibbed about their prowess and now there are a million pills like Viagra and all the others on the market??? And the guys doing those commercials are NOT OLD MEN!!!! Somebody is nuts and not telling the truth!! Can I say, humbly, that sex is not all there is to a marriage and that you should clear it with the Little Woman before you open your marriage up to all kinds of hurt and infections? I think it's great that you are trying to let her know you're bored!! Most men would have washed their marriage down the drain by now but you are trying to give her hints that you need more spice!! I'm on your side and I'm a woman!! There you go!! Find out how You feel about it by trying to picture yourself in Her place and do some hard thinking about what you would want to do or you would want to happen! Give her a chance!! And don't cheat!! Ask first!! She has invested her time too!! Good Luck!! Sounds like a normal, sensible man to me!! Maybe I'm the crazy one!! More Good Luck!! @8-)
2007-01-30 05:07:42 · answer #2 · answered by Dovey 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to spice it up. Men need variety and women don't understand that. Sex and emotion are mostly tied together for women, for men they aren't. If the sex is dull and routine, it is natural to want something new, althought for the sake of the marriage I wouldn't set out on cheating. Speak to your wife and see how she feels about do something else, new, risky.
2007-01-30 04:59:21 · answer #3 · answered by jude 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you are saying that you are having sex with your wife, but it feels cold like a prostitute.
If your wife use to be more loving, then obvisiously something has changed in your relationship and maybe it has nothing to with sex but it has entered the bedroom and you are feeling it.
2007-01-30 04:59:10 · answer #4 · answered by Simply Lovely 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can tell you that you are correct. you need the touch and there's nothing wrong with it as a matter of fact that should be at least a portion of your relationship. Try just doing something exciting with her maybe she's bored with the sex that you bring her. Honestly speaking though.
2007-01-30 04:59:01 · answer #5 · answered by sweetpoetry1507 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Experiment with some toys and various types of games to make the act more exciting. Look up www.alt.com and see if there is any thing that trips your trigger,so to speak.
2007-01-30 04:59:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Frankly, maybe you are boring her. I mean, when it feels like some chore we have to do for the man, it becomes no different than washing the dishes. Women need excitement, too. Change your approach, woo her like you did when you were first dating, touch her in non-sexual ways, surprise her. You need to warm her back up and make her want to jump your bones.
2007-01-30 05:00:24 · answer #7 · answered by Shelley L 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try counseling first, but since she doesn't want to talk to you about your sex life, I'm wondering if she'll be willing to talk to a stranger about it? Keep voicing your concern in a nice way, don't try to make her feel guilty or feel like your ganging up on her, and keep trying to encourage her to talk to you about what's wrong or what she wants. Good luck!
2007-01-30 05:01:56 · answer #8 · answered by akv_8781 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-16 07:29:29 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe try spicing up your love life. Try toys, lubes, whatever it takes. Make sure you are making her feel good about herself and that she is comfortable with everything that is going on. Obviously you had good sex at one point, so figure out what you use to do and try that again.
2007-01-30 04:58:24 · answer #10 · answered by joniwarren22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋