2007-01-30 04:44:41 · 37 answers · asked by Danny D 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
He obviously has a problem with being without her. He is trying to use guilt to keep her with him. He is purposefully playing off her emotions to get what he wants. She needs to go ahead and leave him. Right before leaving tell his parents or close family of his that he has threatened to hurt himself before if she were to leave him. That way they can keep an eye out for him. Although this is usually just a ploy and the guy doesn’t go through with it.
2007-01-30 04:51:44 · answer #1 · answered by prettyblueeyes101010 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds petty and grasping at straws. He very much possibly f'd up on a number of things, and is trying to hold on to what little hope he has for the relationship. I would call him out on it, call his bluff. Let's see if he can put his money where his mouth is. if he hurts himself, that's his stupidity. Tell your friend she deserves better, especially if he done her wrong for whatever amount of time they've been together. Do you want your friend in that type of situation? The more I think about it, this relationships sounds abusive. Not physical, but mental and emotional by way of keeping her trapped in it. She needs to draw the strength to leave and move on with her life.
2007-01-30 05:36:29 · answer #2 · answered by Andrew B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is using emotional blackmail. She should just leave him. She can't be happy just being with him so he doesn't hurt himself.
Tell her that what he CHOOSES to do is HIS responsibility, NOT hers.
When she leaves him, it is possible, although I think unlikely, that he will harm himself....but that would have nothing to do with her. She is free to make her own choices and so is he.
This guy is trying to MAKE her stay with him and that's not right.
How long is she prepared to stay just for this reason? Ask her. There will never be a time when he says 'ok, go, I won't hurt myself' so she may as well leave him now.
He may be upset...but that's life...she's not exactly happy herself by being with him.
Support her to do this.
Good luck and best wishes.
2007-01-30 04:54:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know they always say that but don't go through with it and if so it was his free wil to hurt himself don't stay because he threatens to hurt him self if she want out then she needs to just leave she is makeing it worse by staying !!
2007-01-30 05:09:03 · answer #4 · answered by JINE GIRL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Inform his parents about the threats, then leave him he is playing mind games on her, he is responsible for his own actions, if she feels that he is serious and their are no relatives of his that she can contact then she should contact social services, he needs help, help that only a professional can provide. if he is threatening to harm himself the next step might be to harm her.
2007-01-30 04:50:54 · answer #5 · answered by reshadow31 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He just wants to see if he is awake and not dreaming when she says she going to leave him and not the same old cruel dream where she walks out the door and his happiest and fondest wish in his life has finally come true and she has finally really actually has left his life after promising, er threating, so many times before.
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2007-01-30 05:10:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is just using emotional blackmail and he knows it works because she stays with him. I think she just gotta go through with it and leave him. Tell his parents/mate that he threatens to hurt himself if she leaves him She shouldn't stay with him just for this reason.
2007-01-30 04:49:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Weather she realizes it or not, that's an abusive relationship! She needs to get out, because eventually, he will start to threaten to hurt her! She needs to leave and tell his family or the cops he needs help! But for her own safety, she needs to go!!!
2007-01-30 04:49:42 · answer #8 · answered by purpledragonflyjrh 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her just to leave him dont worry about what he says he will do it isnt her fault and he is only saying this because he knows it works. She must do what she must and if i am completely honest the sooner she leaves the better he dosent seem to right in the head.
Hope this helps
2007-01-30 04:48:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been in similar situations. This is the boyfriend's passive/agressive attempt to control. Your friend needs to realize that she is not responsible for the guy. He makes his own decisions and if he should hurt himself, it is not her fault. She should not stay in such an unhealthy relationship.
2007-01-30 04:49:12 · answer #10 · answered by Laura S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋