Aged 37, first child just born a week ago, earning good money doing a job I don't enjoy anymore. I want to do something different but I don't know what.
I can't just quit can I? I have responsibilities, like mortgage and another mouth to feed.
Aaargh - does it get better?
2007-01-30 04:43:07 · 8 answers · asked by bw_r005t3r 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
I was 37 when my little girl was born 3 years ago, i moved jobs when she was 6 months old, and yes it does get better and yes you do have responibilities.
Put your family first which ever way you choose to turn and you won't go far wrong,,,
2007-01-30 04:53:33 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations on the baby! Sounds like me about ten years ago. What I found was that all the earthly things I was getting - wife, kid, job, hobbies - just didn't do it. I was always looking forward to the next thing. I suspect you may be feeling this now because now you have a child and you may have been expecting that to solve your longing, but it doesn't.
Lots of guys have their midlife crisis, I think, for exactly that reason. Nothing satisfies them. Some fool around with other women, some buy the car they always wanted, some take up bungee diving or snowboarding. They may get divorced hoping to find fulfillment. They may bounce around careers, like a friend of mine. But, ultimately, nothing satisfies them. At least, that's the position I was in. I don't know if it applies to you.
It was then that I realized that only God could satisfy what I wanted. Everything else rusts, or breaks, or will let me down eventually. God is the only one who will always be there and never let us down; and with him all things are made new. They may not be any better, objectively speaking, but they become much more bearable.
I suggest that to try and narrow it down, you read "Mere Christianity" by C. S. Lewis. Or feel free to contact me personally at gbisaga@yahoo.com. Best wishes.
2007-01-30 12:59:28 · answer #2 · answered by Gary B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First Congratulations on becoming a daddy,second there are no guaranties in life but change is good sometimes, you seem to be a responsible man so I suggest you stay where you are until you have a plan B,and no matter what you do make sure that you and your wife are on the same page. As for it getting better... yes and no. Maybe a vacation would be good to get you through this trying time.
2007-01-30 13:28:51 · answer #3 · answered by Georgewasmyfavorite 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try and be content with what you have got [at the moment] life is full of changes i would not say you have a midlife crisis it is another change in your life[Daddy] it used to be said life begins at 40 now days its 50 so when is this so called mid life crisis [60] enjoy being a Dad
2007-01-30 13:19:50 · answer #4 · answered by Jim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
congrats on the new arrival, i wouldnt think about changing jobs just yet, wait until u r more settled in with your new baby and in a couple of months then review your options and u wouldnt want to worry your partner as i am sure she is having a stressful time as it is adjusting to the baby good luck for the future
2007-01-30 12:52:07 · answer #5 · answered by gem 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i cant promise that it will actually get better but in time it will seem better when you realise how lucky you are. You have a baby a job and a partner that loves you count your blessings my friend
2007-01-30 12:50:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wait till you get wrinkles, go grey, then I would start to worry. Just chill and enjoy what you have got. Some people would give their right arm to have what you have. DON'T WORRY, BE HAPPY!!!!!!
2007-01-30 12:51:30 · answer #7 · answered by Honey 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no not really u r lucky
2007-01-30 14:02:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋