I broke up with her today. Now everything I see reminds me of her. It's driving me mad. She was always so nice to me but that 'spark' wasn't there for me anymore you know. I feel so bad.
2007-01-30 04:11:49 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
your dealing with it now by talking yourself through it, the best thing was that you were honest to your own feelings and didn't prolong the relationship.now you and your ex can find someone else who you will love hopefully for the rest of your days.loving somebody is a thin line,when you find it its so over whelming.i wish you luck in love and salute you for being honest to you and her.x
2007-01-30 09:10:40 · answer #1 · answered by PASTY 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like that spark IS there, but you were in denial, and now you're realizing how much spark was left otherwise --- you'd be happy that you left her.
My advice for you is to soul search your heart ... ask yourself the real questions that made you give up a valued person in your life (Ie: overdeveloped Ego ... low self worth ... sex addiction ... only u can answer this)... and fix , and apply it to the next person you're ready to open up to.
I wouldn't recommend trying to repair with her (unless you're married) ... you've broken her heart ---> let her recover and find a happy life!!! Don't keep her around as a friend eithor 'cas that's just cruel --- Don't think that just because you've lost the spark that she has done the same; she's probably crying her eyes out and in pain.
You can't always pick who you love ... you can only hope and pray that the one you love can love you back. You're not a jerk for not loving her in the same way ... but recognize that she's in this place of pain at least before you go and search 4 friendship.
2007-01-30 05:30:17 · answer #2 · answered by Giggly Giraffe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First make sure you are sure about your decision.
If you are sure, then you need to go through the stages of grief. because it's like losing someone to death, in a way.
I recently broke up with me bf of 2 years, More of his doing than me, but whatever.
I was sad, i cried. I was mad, i felt hate for him, I wondered what did i do wrong, realized, nothing.
I am getting through it one day at a time, and that's all you can do.
Do not go back and revisit the past, because you will try to rationalize it, and want to get back together.
You yourself admitted that the 'spark wasn't there' anymore.
why prolong the agony? let it go, be happy with the choice you made.
The feelilngs you are having right now are normal, but in time they will lessen, before you know it you won't even think about the person anymore.
Good luck, but please make SURE it is what you both want/need, because there is nothing worse than thinking you are over something/someone and then a month down the road deciding , only to find out it's too late, that you still have feelings.
2007-01-30 06:01:11 · answer #3 · answered by lil' angel 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Some great answers here. Lil angel for example is so right. Be sure then move on.
Actually this will make it easier otherwise you cannot deal with it. It deals with you. Let it happen. The pain is the struggle against the natural process. Its immense, massive, overwhelming. Its like things will never get better. But they do. Much better. Better than before. Give it time. Really.
2007-01-30 09:01:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I thought you have already asked this wuestion before. My friend no need to feel guilty...try someone else...I broke the relationship three dayz back...and I am also feeling it difficult for time being..as I still waiting for emails and phone calls..She used to call me on specific timings. like in Morning she used to wake me up and before going to sleep, she always called me. But what can I do...I am just trying to forget all the things. We were in contact with eachother for more than a year...her voice is still in my ear and reminding me of her. LIfe is like that...one you are with someone and you have to loose that person....It can be happen if the person died/leave without informing you. Don't think too much.
2007-01-30 07:18:01 · answer #5 · answered by Dumboo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why do you feel so bad you ended it didnt you?was the spark ever really there if not you did the right thing if it was and you feel bad you should have tried much harder relationships even great ones need to be worked at sometimes just be sure you are not throwing away a good thing.good luck
2007-01-30 07:09:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is hard, for a while that person fills, you they are almost part of you.
When the spark has gone, it does help if you can stay friends.
Then think of coping with one day at a time, get out as much as you can. It will take time, but the day will come when you think, I had a nice time today.
Love is wonderful, but it bl**dy well hurts...
2007-01-30 05:26:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time, time time... Its not easy to break away from someone you once loved. Keep busy and try to enjoy the freedom of being single by doing the things that you enjoy and seeing friends you have not seen in a long time. Good luck.
2007-01-30 05:46:26 · answer #8 · answered by lulu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to do things that you enjoy that you didn't do with her, i.e. avoid the sort of things you did together for a while, get together with good friends and go to new places and do new things. Ask them not to mention her again to you and eventually you may start to think of her less. I warn you it probably will take time, but unfortunately there's nothing you can do to speed up the process.
2007-01-30 06:33:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sadly
2007-01-30 10:26:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋