I need some serious advice. Its going on 2 yrs of being broke up with the man I planned on marrying.We broke up over the dumbest stuff and he dated other girls and I dated other guys just because I was angry at him.I know that was imature. It seems like I not ever getting over him. I begged him for months and months to take me back even going to his work and begging him and he just kept turning me down. So I let go and quit well a few months had passed and we ran into each other one night and we talked and it seemed like my prayers were being answered and everything was great the feelings were there still he even said so. The next morning we had plans to hang out and he said he couldn't and said that it wouldnt work. Its been about a year since that happened.
Its been 2 yrs since we broke up and Im still missing him Im so depressed I dont know what to do he wont talk to me. I regret this every single day I want him back I know in my heart that I love him and it can work. But how do I
2007-01-30 04:02:49 · 7 answers · asked by Blondie<3 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
get him to quit being stubborn and give me another chance. I cant move on like this I've tried and its not working.
Can someone please help me ??
2007-01-30 04:03:45 · update #1
i can give you some words to think on but it will not be what you want to hear. first of all...leave him alone. he doesn't want you. if he wanted you then he would come after you. as it stands...you are going after him and nothing turns a man off more than a woman chasing after him. men are programmed to hunt and pursue and chase everything from women to property to businesses and everything in between. it's how they are built. women are built to nurture. second...you need to find a way to get over him. you are giving him WAAYYY to much power over you by you chasing him and by letting him see how upset you are. you came up to his job? are you crazy? that in itself can get him fired (depending on the circumstances) and that is even more of a reason for him to stop talking to you. you sound despearte also (that is also another thing that turns men off). get some activies to do, learn some new hobbies, hang out with your friends...anything...just stop bothering this man and stop chasing him. he is out there dating other girls and you are just sitting there being upset? get out and get your social life going on girl. i'm not saying this to hurt your feelings...i just wanted to point out somethings to maybe get you to think and change your approach to this situation.
2007-01-30 05:15:05 · answer #1 · answered by cfalways 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can NOT make someone love you. You just can't. You can change everything and it still won't work. There is NOTHING you can do to change it. NOTHING. It really sounds like you are obsessed. You should speak to a counselor about this. Get out and meet people and have fun. Even if this guy was "perfect" for you, there will be others that will be just as perfect BUT will love you back. Don't objectify yourself. By going to his work, you made yourself look needy and desperate. NO man wants that. I am sure that after you left he told everyone that you were a psycho. The only thing you can do is move on and be happy. youmay find yourself in a better situation with a better person. But only after you deal with your obsession with this man and the "loss" of the life you thought you were going to have.
2007-01-30 12:39:39 · answer #2 · answered by Proud Momma 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to get some counseling cause this sounds as though you were co-dependant upon him and that is not a good thing. Plus the counseling will teach you how to get on with your life minus him . I feel for you I really do .But seriously get some life skills counseling and you will be all the better for it . It is just best to forget him and move on . good luck honey.
2007-01-30 12:56:37 · answer #3 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't. You move on. You take it day by day. I know it's not what you want to hear, but it's what you should do. For you. How many time's will you continue to humiliate yourself for a man that clearly does not want you. If after two years, he hasn't taken you back, he's not going to. Get on with your life and move on. It will take time, but eventually, you will get over him. Best of wishes...
2007-01-30 12:48:30 · answer #4 · answered by onecrazypeach 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh you ain't gonna like this.........grow the fuc* up and move on, if he were to take you back, it would be for sex......because you are wanting him back so much, it sounds like you would do just about anything to get him back, and he would take anything you offered, and then when he got bored, he would leave you, again...it is obvious he does not want a relationship with you, or he would have called, stopped by, or even made an effort to see you, but he hasn't..........you are setting yourself up for a nervous breakdown, move on and know you had a great thing with him....there are others out there who would be willing to settle down with you. all you have to do is stop looking and just be yourself...........
2007-01-30 13:00:19 · answer #5 · answered by phishsports 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How many different ways does he have to tell you that he isn't interested in you. You FU*KED so deal with it and get on with your LIFE. Learn from this lesson and don't be such a BRAT in the future.
2007-01-30 13:19:05 · answer #6 · answered by Monty L 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to accept the fact that you tried and he DOESNT wat you...i know it hurts but its 2 years already .dont waste another 2 years...move on
2007-01-30 12:27:27 · answer #7 · answered by can u ♥ moi? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋