Can love be uncondition if money is not involve?

Question

I have noticed most survey finds it to be the #1 cause of Break-up in a relationship? Agree or Disagree?

Answer 1

Love? Or *attraction*? Or *safety* and *comfort*?

Often we equate "love" with romantic involement. And often enough, romantic involvement means intimate (including sexual) affection. The reality is that in many cases, sexual attraction is based off of anything but love. It can be physical, or it can be mental, but even mentally speaking it is usually based on some perspective of stability in the other person.

Stability, while indeed involving a person's mental state of being, is most influenced by their financial reliability. Thus, money does indeed become a major factor with some women, even with those who do not believe themselves influenced in that manner.

Despite feminist movements to establish the basic biology of men and women as identical, women are still the carriers and caretakers of children. The "fairness" of nature is not in question here. At present, the average woman finds herself disadvantaged when going through pregnancy and early childcare in comparison to men (at the very least, physically, especially during pregnancy). Because of this, many women find importance in a man's potential to suppliment the disadvantage. The most common value to achieve this is with financial ability.

The invention of currency (money) insured this to be the case. Prior to currency, a man's value (among men and women both) was determined by property. This could be land, or livestock, or crops. Regardless, these things established a "monetary" success.

Eventually, currency came to represent the going value of these things. Naturally then, currency became important alongside of property. Later on, such values as investment banking (stocks, bonds, etc.), credit rating, and even educational/occupational credential became a sort of potential financial value.

What does this all have to do with "love"? Since love and affection are often confused, and affection is often confused with attraction, and attraction is often based on *stability*, and stability is often based on financial potential... it is uncommon (but not unheard of) for so-called "romantic love" to exist despite deficiencies in finances.

With other "love" (those situations not involving intimacy and romance), it is not only possible, but often stronger than money as well as other values. The phrase "blood is thicker than water" comes from the idea that family is most important. Family does not require monetary stability to establish ties. It relies on *kinship* as a primary value. Kinship has existed long before property ownership, as far back as the earliest foraging tribes.

Answer 2

Agree.

Answer 3

Um, I'd have to say agree, my last lover thought that I should keep HER!

Answer 4

romance without finance is a nuisance