My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 3 years. We are really into each other, we like being together and spending time together (we haven't had sex), his family loves me and I love them, my family likes him and he like them, just my family is a little over protective of me, they go by the rules and want me to finish school and then get married, I say that’s not a bad idea but the problem is that I will finish school when I’m like 26 and him when he's like 28 we thinks that’s to far away because then we have to wait till hes done with school to start thinking about marriage, so if we get married at that age, we will have to have kids like almost soon because we want kids but we want to be married for like at least 4 yrs then think about kids, we have done a lot of thinking we know its not just we get a ring and there. We know there’s a lot of responsibility like buying a house, paying rent, buying stuff to survive, pay for school. So when should we get married?
2007-01-30 03:57:52 · 2 answers · asked by yadira 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
BTW he is 19 i am turning 19 in Feb, and we live with our parents right now. And plan on going to Universities after our first 2 years, which are like 4 -6 hrs away from where we live now.
2007-01-30 03:59:47 · update #1
Take it from me, you are too young. I also had a plan of when I wanted to get married and have my babies at and guess what...I am 31 and still not married or any kids but I met the love of my life and we are settling down just fine. There is no schedule for life, it comes and you just go with the flow. Don't put time limits on yourselves, that will drive you nuts! Love each other everyday like it is your last and get married in the future, when you are done school and can give each other stability. Enjoy each other first too before you have kids, they change everything, so take this time to be with him. If he loves you and you love him, then it will survive and thrive and when you are more mature and get your "wild" days out of your system, then settle down, but you are so young, have fun!!!!!
2007-02-02 17:10:37 · answer #1 · answered by Rhode Island Red 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with your family but on the other hand your both old enough to decide for yourselves at this point.
2007-02-02 19:25:58 · answer #2 · answered by Thankyou4givengmeaheadache 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋