My ex and I are still co-habitating a residence and I recently decided that sharing a house with him was just not working since the breakup. I got an apartment for now and have been slowly moving my stuff out, he found out about the apartment and has been threatening me. He abuses me mentally and verbally and has recently gone so far as to throw things at me and raise his hand like he is going to hit me and says all the time that if I say another word to him he is going to shut me up for good. What can I do to get away from him safely? I have never been treated so badly by anyone and I am honestly scared of him and his family....Help me with some advice please!
2007-01-30 03:15:07 · 10 answers · asked by BOBBIE 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
stay at your new apartment and keep the door locked . call the police on your cell phone . Make a police report on him and his family. Are they clannish ? his family I mean . If they are then definately file a police report against them as well.I dated a man that had a clannish family and i always ended up with slashed tires ,broken windows and other such incidents . they did not leave me alone untill the cops paid them a visit and told his mother that if her kids did not stop bothering me they would be thrown in jail . And he also told her to stop lying about where her kids were then she would go to jail as well for abeiting criminals. So you see you must file the police report and do not act scared of them . Cause then they will see it is getting to you . You have to be strong and stand up to them and seek legal help . good luck to you.
2007-01-30 05:15:52 · answer #1 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just get out now and leave before this gets worse!!!! Move now and do not wait... Do not let him know where you are for at least a few weeks either.... You do not need to call the police as of yet BUT you do need to get out even if it is to a friends of family members house. Get out while he is at work and do not leave a note or anything... If you need help call a local abuse hotline or even call or email dr phil at http://www.drphil.com You will need to get a court order for a restraint order against him as well! You may even want the police there if need be when you move out.
2007-01-30 12:22:11 · answer #2 · answered by Fast Steve 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should call the police and tell them the situation. What they will do is send a car over there to supervise you while you take all your belongings out of the house. They will be more than happy to do so and I would do it quickly because it sounds like things are getting pretty bad.
2007-01-30 13:09:10 · answer #3 · answered by Tamra 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you are ready to move out but it's just a matter of getting your belongings out safely...i would call the police department (non-emergency, not 911) and find out what you need to do to get a restraining order (or if you even need one....maybe the police will escort you to get your things??).....if you don't want to go to all that trouble, then i'd just bring a bunch of friends/family (especially any strong male types) with me to get my stuff-you are not likely to have problems with him......and make sure you get all your stuff (make a list of important things before going there) and then lose his phone number and end ALL contact....
good luck
2007-01-30 12:23:01 · answer #4 · answered by SNAP! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Report him and get a police escort to move all of your things out at once. He still thinks he can control you and you have moved on..good for you, but let this be a lesson. You break up with someone, its also time to move out, within a month...or sooner.
2007-01-30 12:20:58 · answer #5 · answered by Pandora 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Either report him, or get a friend (male) to go over there and get your stuff with you. Try to go when he isn't there and get everything at once. If he still bothers you after that I would definitely get a restraining order against him!
2007-01-30 12:21:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the police
2007-01-30 21:36:07 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just leave. even if it means leaving all of ur possesions there. u need to get away from him. no matter what kind of abuse it is, mental, physical, or mental, its still abuse. people may think that mental or verbal isnt as bad as physical, and its not, its worse. cutes, and bruises heal, emotions, feelings and memories, last a lifetime
2007-01-30 12:21:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
file a report..
2007-01-30 12:21:48 · answer #9 · answered by can u ♥ moi? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, report him
2007-01-30 12:19:26 · answer #10 · answered by Joe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋