I'm embarresesd about asking my wife to spank me. What should I do.?

Question

I dont want her to get upset and have future problems? Any Ideas

Answer 1

You should start by putting your interests into writing, detailing what it is about spanking that appeals to you. You told us that you want her to spank you, but you haven't said why you want her to. Is it sexual for you, or perhaps therapeutic? Do you feel a need for discipline? Once you know what you're trying to ask, you can then further educate yourself about those kinds of spankings involved. I've separated spankings into six characteristics.... erotic, sensual, therapeutic, playful, disciplinary and punishment. With the exception of disciplinary and punishment, they may mix and match freely in a spanking.

Erotic - Erotic spankings treat the bottom as an erogenous zone, stimulating the target’s sexual centers. A spanking of this sort might be given as a form of foreplay prior to an actual sexual act, or it may be an act unto itself. It is not unheard of for an erotic spanking to not only lead to arousal, but direct release, as well.

Sensual - Sensual spankings focus on the sensations created during the act of spanking, whether that be pain or otherwise. Spankings of this sort tend to be slow and methodical, allowing the spankee plenty of time to savor each sensation. A common use of the sensual spanking is to slowly build up to a crescendo of pain, triggering an endorphin release. The effect is a pleasurable “high” that is commonly referred to as “subspace.”

Playful - Playful spankings are spankings whose purpose is just to enjoy oneself and have fun, rather than having any particular focus or reason for the play. Impromptu spankings given for lighthearted bratting, or just for the fun of it, are playful spankings. Roleplay spankings (teacher/student and the like) would also fall under the heading of playful.

Therapeutic - Therapeutic spankings are given to facilitate a release of or relief from some tension that the spankee is experiencing. The reasons for this are varied, but include sexual release and stress relief. Stress relief, by itself, could just about be its own category, as this could include any form of physical, emotional or mental stress. Depending on the spankee and the type of stress to be relieved, a therapeutic spanking could end in a cathartic release of tears, an endorphin rush, or simply a release from the guilt of some wrongdoing.

Disciplinary - Disciplinary spankings are, for the most part, the sort of spanking that is given for the day-to-day breaking of rules. They are firm, but metered, given with the intent of changing one’s behavior over a long period of time, rather than immediately. When trying to break someone of a bad habit, this is the sort of spanking that they should receive. A disciplinary spanking is given with the knowledge that the person will occasionally slip up. Thus, a disciplinary spanking is more of a warning to do better, than an immediate demand for change.

Punishment - In heavy contrast to a disciplinary spanking, the punishment spanking seeks results NOW. A punishment spanking is given when the act that earned it is too great to risk a second offense. Thus, while the punishment spanking will be much more severe than a disciplinary one, it is intended to be the last time that the offense in question is committed.

Once you know what you're looking for, you'll be ready to approach her for your request. Good luck, and feel free to ask me more questions if you need any further help or encouragement.

Answer 2

Just try talking to her frankly about it, but keep the conversation very light. I wouldn't write her a letter or make it into a big deal. Even if it's very important to you, it might be something that she needs to think about for a while and not feel pressured into, so be mild about it. If your wife is open to kinkiness in general, you could just say, "Sometimes I've thought it might be hot if you spanked me." If your wife is pretty straight-laced it will be harder to introduce the topic.

Answer 3

hi Pete, you do no longer think of the play game is over do you? Come on Pete. If she remains enjoying, she assist you recognize this evening whilst she invites you to her love nest. she will cuddle and straddle you and say sorry for being long gone see you later. She'll thank you in techniques you will never think of. yet in spite of the undeniable fact that, in case you probably did genuinely hit her too hard she will take your gadget in her speaking container bite down quite hard and in seconds, hand you the gadget's head on your hand. The anticipation feels like relaxing would not it? Smooches.

Answer 4

I would start if off by.. pick up a movie or two, if she is ok watching pron with you, then gently ask her what she thinks.. or ask her about role playing, it takes courage to tell your desires, but you can at least attempt to ask her and see how she responds.