i am a 13 year old gal. depressed and alone. it's amazing that people sometimes say i have the perfect life when the fact is that i always end up wishing it away. in school i socialize alot but i just cant reach out to them. tend to have temperamental mood swings(suspected bipolar disorder) been cutting myself since last year, i really feel empty inside. i cover up my emptiness with lies and deceit. yet, people can see the emptiness within this heart of mine. ive been trying to make my life better but i feel what's the point. i m doing quite well in studies surprisingly cause my parents force me to..
2007-01-30 02:40:21 · 23 answers · asked by ika liana 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
talk to your parents or if you feel that you can't
talk to your counselor at school
or to a best friends parent
if: yet, people can see the emptiness within this heart of mine.
why isnt anyone doing something to help you?
2007-01-30 02:49:34 · answer #1 · answered by Mopar Muscle Gal 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I'm soooo sorry that you're going through this. I've been through it too. Feeling hopeless, depressed, feel like no ones really cares, and yes, cutting. Believe me when I say, it will get better! There is light at the end of the tunnel. There is ALWAYS hope. You may not want to hear this, but part of why you're going through this, is because you're focussed on yourself. I don't mean selfish, but you're thinking too much on how things affect you. The world we live in keeps telling us that's what we're supposed to do, but it couldn't be more wrong. When's the last time you did something nice for someone (without any incentive to yourself)? What did it feel like? Even just telling one of your gal friends that they look really pretty some day will make them feel really good, and it will make you feel better too. If you start to change your focus to other people, you life will seem a little less terrible and depressing. There's a lot more to this, so maybe we can email sometime, but it's a good start. Give it a try. And if something backfires, remember, the focus is not on you.... just let it go. Easier said than done. Try it for a week and see how it goes, then let me know!
2007-01-30 11:42:54 · answer #2 · answered by Lindz 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First off remember that people love you and that there are people that will help you. The people who are saying the horrible things I think are trying to use reverse psychology, though it is done in poor taste.
Talking to someone is the best thing for you to do. Try talking with your teacher, school counselor or parents. These people care about you and will want to help you. Talking with your friends can help too but I think you really need to get an adult involved in this.
Also people that inflict self injury are found in all ages but it's easy to treat this behavior. Everyone gets depressed and everyone feels alone sometimes. We even feel that emptiness that you feel but it gets better, remember that. From what you've wrote above I can tell you are a smart girl and I hope you take the good advice thats been offered here to heart.
Remember again that people love you and that there are always people willing to help you. Don't be afraid to ask for help! I assure you people will be happy you had the courage to ask for help. In fact you already did by coming here and asking.
Ignore the people that have posted the negative hurtful things and remember they only do so because they are to afraid to ask for help. Be glad you are strong enough to have the courage to do so. I think you are on the right path just keep walking forward.
2007-01-30 11:41:28 · answer #3 · answered by Eric H 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Find something positive to focus on--a sport, religion, reading group, social group, something extracurricular that interests you. You are looking for meaning; it is not surprising you don't find it at school. My husband taught for a short time in a local high school, and he said it was more like prison than school nowadays, as compared to 20 years ago. It is no wonder you have trouble finding meaning there. Find something positive to be passionate about, to fill the emptiness. Cutting is a cry for help, and I have heard of people of all ages that have this problem. It is not the solution to your emptiness; there is so much information out there to help you, and so many options. Cutting will hurt you eventually, but let's say you take up basketball or running or fiction writing. Those things give back to you, where cutting does not. Experiment with new ideas, or if you feel lost, ask to see a counselor or psychologist (don't count on instant cure though-these guys make you do most of the work, but only you can cure yourself, really.)
2007-01-30 10:56:53 · answer #4 · answered by Black Dog 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hey Nana...My son was a cutter and now, at thirty years old, his scarred arms are a constant reminder of the emotional pain he endured silently for many years. Cutting is a form of self-punishment i.e.: guilt, feeling insecure and unworthy, anger, a drastic cry for attention, etc. You need to talk to a professional and find ways to deal with whatever is eating away at your spirit.
If there is an adult in your life with whom you feel safe and comfortable talking honestly (your mom or dad, a teacher, etc.), you need to tell that person what you are doing. Cutting can become an addiction when things are going poorly in your life. The tragedy, other than permanent scarring of not only your physical body but your emotional self, is that each time you cut, you open yourself up to infection.
I provide foster care assistance and have the honor of working with some great teens. One of our girls was a cutter and the last time she cut, she developed an incredible infection in her arm. It swelled up almost twice it's normal size. She had to be hospitalized for five days and almost died from blood poisoning.
Upon her release from the hospital, her doctor ordered counseling.
That was four years ago. This precious young lady has become an enthusiastic advocate for counseling. She was able to realize why she was cutting within a month after counseling, and then began to work on her issues. She speaks to kids in our local high schools about her past and swears that had she not gotten professional help, she is certain she would have died. I have to agree.
You deserve to live a happy and productive life. I truly hope that you will seek out the help that you need, get to the root of the problem that is causing you to cut, and then get your life on to a path that will lead you to a promising and healthy future. You will be in my thoughts and prayers. Annie
2007-01-30 11:26:56 · answer #5 · answered by Annie 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There are many ways to help yourself and I advise that you do them. First of all go to your Parents and if you feel you can't then find another adult that you can, like your guidance councilor in school. You are 13 and have a long life ahead of you. My sister God rest her soul was 15 and committed suicide because she was depressed and never let anyone know and it was hard to see because she like yourself put up a great front. Life is precious my friend and you need to see that your life can be great and you have a lot to look forward to. Please think of all the people who will hurt if you keep doing the things you do. Do you have any siblings? I am sure they look up to you and would be in some real pain if you are gone, especially the way you are heading. Get help even if you have to go to the nearest hospital and explain to them that you are depressed, they will help and all will be better.....I promise. Don't give up on life and life won't give up on you.
2007-01-30 10:59:36 · answer #6 · answered by Ghostly Ghost! 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I strongly urge you to make an appointment with a counselor and continue with your Bipolar testing...
There are medications out there that can help with what you are going through...
Right now... the world seems black and empty... but, you have to know that it's not always that way... and there is help out there... you do need to talk to your parents and be completely HONEST... and tell them about the cutting...
I want you to truly be able to enjoy your school years...
2007-01-30 11:25:10 · answer #7 · answered by Tearjerker 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't listen to those who would tell you you are right and you might as well end it! Misery loves company, and they are just happy to see someone else suffering! You are only 13 years old, and you have so much more life to experience. Despite what some would say, life can get better and it will, especially if you're willing to try and make it better. Take it from someone who knows!
2007-01-30 11:02:47 · answer #8 · answered by nightracker303 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Young lady, do not despair. You need to see a psychologist to diagnose you and get you on proper meds. They make a world of difference! Counseling will allow you to bring out all those repressed feelings and thoughts that you've been holding inside. Cutting is bad news, but I know (from experience) how you feel. You're proving to the world on the outside how terrible you are feeling on the inside, and you get pleasure from seeing the blood, right? The good news is this can all turn around when you do what you need to, and get back on your feet again. PLEASE call a counselor today! PLEASE!!!!
2007-01-30 11:57:51 · answer #9 · answered by Bud's Girl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to seek help. I know that it's hard, but I've bee there and it's not worth hurting yourself. Find an LPC in your town, your parents probably would help you. Most Licensed Practicing Counsels need whats called Pro Bo-no, or charity, hours, so you could talk to them for free. If it's bad enough they can get you on meds that will make you feel better about yourself and make you a happier person. I sincerely hope you at least think about getting help because cutting is not something that is easily over come alone. it takes support of friends and family who love and care about you.
2007-01-30 10:53:10 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Hey hang in their. Like they all said find a trusted adult to talk to. For me when i was depressed God found me when i was looking for love an meaning. He has really helped me have hope and love. God took away the emptyness and pointless life i felt i had. I would definately recommend that. Also find something you enjoy. dont keep this all a secret inside tho..it is tearing you up. Find some people who can encouage you.
2007-01-30 11:03:14 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋