She hasn't seen my kids (her grandchildren) in almost two weeks because I was away in NJ (my little sister was in the hospital). Anyway she came here yesterday and didn't say nothing to them at all. They are the ONLY two grandchildren that do see her fat *** because her other grandkids or their parents (including her own kids) don't want nothing to do with her.
2007-01-30 02:34:48 · 28 answers · asked by summer ♥ 5 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Your mother in law and my mother in law should get together and go bowling....glad to hear I'm not the only one who deals with this crap... Mine moved to our town (from an hour away) almost 2 years ago so she could be closer to her grandkids..she has yet to call and say she wants to see them(without inviting me and hubby too).She babysits my nephews all the time..I get that they are small and cant be home alone, but does that mean my kids never get to see her since they dont require a babysitter? When we DO see her she makes the kids go in another room so we can have"grownup talk"..Christmas was a joke, she made us all sit there and watch "A Christmas Story" and none of her grandkids were allowed to talk and socialize with there cousins..I felt like shooting her eye out!! She complains that my kids are closer to MY Mom and I suggested she call the kids sometime just to talk to them and see what's going on in their lives...good thing I didnt hold my breathe..I would have been dead a few years ago..
Bring it up to her..or dont let her get away with it..help the kids start a conversation with her..if that doesnt work..it's her loss..
2007-01-30 02:59:50 · answer #1 · answered by ~LAX Mom~ 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Are there different subjects going on right here? you do not seem such as you get alongside inclusive of your substantial different's mom for the reason which you probably did motel to call calling .Did your babies attempt talk over with grandma first or work together together with her in any respect? Did she have a sturdy relationship with grandma previous to this experience? Do you talk undesirable approximately grandma interior earshot of your babies?It merely seems unusual that grandma is ignoring her grandkids.don't get me incorrect, i'm merely throwing out suggestions. some grandparents do not stay as much as our expectancies.i might attempt to work out what occurs on the subsequent pass to. do not rush to judgement,possibly she had something on her strategies that day (or wasn't feeling properly).What does your husband think of of the placement?
2016-10-16 07:24:50 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know what i am so sorry about that situation, sometimes in laws can make it hard for you. you could do either 1 or 2 things
1. still treat her with respect, and kindly talk to her and tell her in a nice way that she may have hurt the kids feelings by not spending time and speaking.
or
2. FU*& her, you are FUC^&*G her son not her, and if she choose to be like that, thats her problem she is the one that will miss out on her grandchildren
good luck
2007-01-30 04:07:06 · answer #3 · answered by pudden 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If the kids are aware and were hurt let THEM tell her, kids have a way with words and actions, you are the adult and if you try to tell her something you will end up being the "evil, hostile, rude, daughter in law", kids will be seen as "brutally honest, cute, and sincere".
Something like, so grandma, are you going to talk to us this time or will you ignore us again...
or
when she asks them for something, they can aswer oh...you are there, I thought we were playing the invisible game again, the one we played that time when you came and you didn't even say hi.
Good luck!
2007-01-30 03:00:46 · answer #4 · answered by White 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well, it is very sad to say the least. I would encourage your husband to talk to her since it is his mom. I would wonder just what kind of mom she was. I would explain to the kids that grandma is different than most, not bad different but different none the less.
You can't change her at all. Just be the best mom for the kids and remember that she is odd.
Oh, and know that she has to live w/the person she is.
2007-01-30 04:15:52 · answer #5 · answered by sideways 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't say Anything to Her. She has so many personality problems that you can't change her with words. Just say Ho-Hum and get through it!! I have a Mother-in-Law that won't leave me ALONE!! There are soooo many Mother-in-Laws in this world, just survive!! Your husband is the one that is important to you. If you are happy with him then Blow Her Off!! You can't talk her into loving your kids as much as she does the rest anyway. Your kids are lucky they have YOU!! Good Luck!! @8-)
2007-01-30 03:13:16 · answer #6 · answered by Dovey 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know what they say-What goes around, comes around. Meaning, it will come back to bite her in her fat *** sooner or later. Won't it just be a crying shame when she is old and needs help and none of her kids/grandkids are willing to put themselves to the trouble?
2007-01-30 02:41:52 · answer #7 · answered by Pam C 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I feel very bad for you, but mostly your children. My mother in law is that way to. She is so wicked. None of her children or grandchildren care for her. she is a very selfish woman. Your children are themost important, so I would definitely watch out for their best interest. I would confront her and tell her how you felt when she came over and did not speak to your children.I would tell her straight out if she does not talk to your children she is not welcome. I had to do that to mine. I am not sparing anyones feelings when it comes to my children! My husband agreed w/ me as well. I wish you the best of luck!
2007-01-30 03:10:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would love it if my mother in law didn't say anything to my children, her grandchildren. My husband is black and I am white. She is always telling our children that they don't fit in society because they aren't black or white. They are "Oreo" children. She always are cutting them down. We keep getting into fights because of her comments. I wish you the best of luck.
2007-01-30 04:07:16 · answer #9 · answered by kim_in_craig 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Time for that little heart to heart. Let her know what she did hurt not just you, but also your kids. Lay down a few (wishes) that you would like should she ever come to visit again.
2007-01-30 02:40:12 · answer #10 · answered by imahlah 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋