Actually, it was two. The first date, he came to where I go to school and we went into the city and got a nice dinner and walked around the city. The second date (yesterday), I went to his house near where he goes to school, we hung out talking and got dinner in some cute little side-of-the-road place. It was a great time. When it came time to make my train, he drove me to the station, but I didn't kiss him goodbye. Is this a problem? I guess maybe I'm a little old-fashioned not kissing on the first two dates. I am interested, I just am a little shyer in that area. Is it taken as a sign of lack-of-interest if there's no kiss?
2007-01-30 02:31:38 · 19 answers · asked by Doug 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
If you communicate between dates, and you actively show interest in him through flirting, he will definitely know you're interested even though you didn't kiss him. Just be sure to keep in touch between now and your next date, and let him know (whether outright or subtly) that you are definitely interested.
2007-01-30 02:35:05 · answer #1 · answered by Julie K 3 · 8⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, I'm old school, skipped the kiss and went right for the goodie package after a cocktail-filled first date. But that was 4 years ago, and we're still together...bought a house, even.
My point is there's no formula. If there is truly an attraction to you -- on both the inside and the outside -- it'll work. Whether or not you kissed on date 1 or date 2 won't matter. In fact, some might find your being demure refreshing...
2007-01-30 02:39:21 · answer #2 · answered by cardinalboy97 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations on this being a first! I hope that feels great and please by all means be open with him that you are a little old fashioned. I don't think he should see this as a sign of disinterest BUT when I dated a guy for three weeks before he kissed me I was concerned. He was just shy too though. But now I am marrying him so its cool.
2007-01-30 02:36:59 · answer #3 · answered by JenaMarie 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you stay in contact and arrange another date, he knows you're interested. He didn't kiss you, either, apparently. But the second date shows there's mutual interest. And some people just aren't kissers.
I'm glad you're actually dating and not just hopping into bed together. Let the romance bloom first. Good luck.
2007-01-30 02:40:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hard to say as with gays - sex usually comes before first date. You meet, have sex, and then go from there. Being as you are British, and probably still in school, dating is the way to go and you should explain to him your feelings and then kiss him only when you are comfortable doing it. If you are honest with him and then he says no, you should not feel bad as it is his problem and not yours. I bet it works out OK though so have fun, best luck, and we are all for you here.
2007-01-30 02:38:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just a long as you call him and make sure he knows you are interested. Kissing in public isn't normal for gays because of the attention we are trying to avoid! You'll kiss him! Don't worry!
2007-01-30 02:42:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The wait will make the event that much sweeter. If the two dates went well, then they will negate an impression that there is a lack of interest.
2007-01-30 02:41:31 · answer #7 · answered by unclefrunk 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Take things slowly don't rush into anything you will regret later, You will be shy at first but then once you get to know him you will be good to go. Don't be shy to kiss someone you like if they want a kiss they will show signs.
2007-01-30 02:37:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My hear just melted - it sounds so sweet! I have been with Joe for 16 years so it has been a LONG time since our first date. You do what you feel is right and you will get to enjoy the relationship grow slowly. You will have very fond memories of this time. Enjoy yourself!
2007-01-30 03:01:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
He might feel that way if he usually kisses early in the game. . but if you two hit it off on your first two dates then he will know you are interested. maybe if you initiate the next date...
2007-01-30 02:58:54 · answer #10 · answered by sweet_treat101 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋