My friend meets a lot of boys on this chat place and shes getting a little obsesed with doing so.She is dating half the boys on the site and i feel scared.Should i?Am i being a bad friend?
2007-01-30 02:26:22 · 12 answers · asked by Shelby W 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You are certainly not a bad friend. Just concerned, which makes you a great friend! Internet dating can be risky. I had a friend who ten years ago, met her now husband on the internet. I had the pleasure of escorting her to their first meeting ;) They are very happy and have two kids now. He's truly her soulmate. But they also chatted for a year before meeting. another friend met a guy overseas and when he came to visit her for a week, it was a disaster! After being here in the States, alone for two days, I took him to a hotel by the airport because she didn't want him in her home anymore. I guess he pretty much attacked her and almost wouldn't take "no!" for an answer. His thought was "I came all the way here, I'd better get laid!". He was a jerk. She didn't exactly ask him to come visit, he offered. Anyway, there are worse stories too. More than good ones. You're right to be concerned.
2007-01-30 02:41:59 · answer #1 · answered by panthrchic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are an absolutley GREAT friend!
And you have an excellent reason to be concerned!
It sounds like your friend is more than just addicted to the chat rooms....
It sounds to me like she is addicted to attention. You said shes been talking to MANY boys. It looks like she thinks she needs to be constantly reminded that there are guys out there that want her.
Sit down with her and tell her how you feel. Ask her why she needs to talk to so many guys so often. Let her know that you'd like to spend more time doing stuff with her if only she'd get off the computer once in a while. Make sure you let her know that you're concerned about her or she might accuse you of being jealous.
2007-01-30 04:04:16 · answer #2 · answered by hopek2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A bad friend wouldn't care enough to even ask. I would be concerned for her safety and even her health depending on what type of girl she is. You never know who's really on the other end of the screen. If she's determined to meet boys through this channel, then make sure to tell her to be smart about it. Always tell someone what the date plans are and meet in a public place. Pervs come in all shapes and sizes. Be careful!
2007-01-30 03:57:11 · answer #3 · answered by dsntmater 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is she dating them in real life, or just online? Because "online dating" is a misnomer - it should be used for MEETING people online, and then dating them in person. Chatting and messaging online do not count as real "dates."
Ask you friend if she is being honest with these boys - has she led any of them to believe that thre is a real relationship, that she isn't chatting up other guys? Do they know that their relationship is limited to online chatting only? Encourage your friend to be honest and open.
Also, remind her gently that the virtual world is not as fulfilling as the real world - no online romance can compare to a real-life one. By spending too much time on these sites, she is shutting herself off to a real relationship. Encourage her to focus on the few boys she likes best, and meet them in person to develop their mutual feelings. She may discover that they are NOT all she imagined them to be. Also, if she does meet these boys, go with her to make sure she stays safe, and doesn't put herself in the hands of some psycho or sexual predator.
You are being a good friend by looking after her well-being. Talk with her and express your concerns for her safety and emotional development.
2007-01-30 04:15:21 · answer #4 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-23 14:01:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes u should definately be scared and i think u should talk to her about it. The reason why i think u should be scared is because SOME people on the internet can be REAL cruel. Meanin they are crazy than what they say they are or wat they speak about on the chat line or phone. No u are not being a bad friend to me u are bein a good friend because u are jus concerned about her datin on the net.
2007-01-30 03:26:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be concerned. Try to get her to let you know when she's going on these dates, if you can't stop her, so that if anything should happen, you at least have some kind of information. But strongly encourage her to refarin from physical meetings.
2007-01-30 03:21:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah I think you should be worried. How old is she?
If she's under 15 I'd be worried. There are a lot of pervs out there.
2007-01-30 03:20:05 · answer #8 · answered by Gary W 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you must talk to her and tell her how you feel and that your scared for her saftey if she doesnt listen then she must learn the hard way just make sure that your there for her when she does
2007-01-30 03:56:40 · answer #9 · answered by vicki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's one of those that need to learn the hard way. All you can do is tell her that if she plays with fire, she's gonna get burned. The rest is up to her.
2007-01-30 02:37:00 · answer #10 · answered by Xfactor 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋