Last Saturday my wife and I were at a local bar, where she works. Everytime this certain guy comes in I could be talking to my wife and her head is like a magnet. It follows him everywhere. I got mad and went home, where she followed me and started yelling saying I'm just jealous. I'm not a jealous person at all. After she finished yelling she left the house about 12am and did not come home til 6:30am. She told me she was at her friends house ( which is a girl) but then I found out her ex-boyfriend was there also. She told me she did call him up to meet her there because she needed a friend to talk to. I guess they have been best friends ever since they broke up. But am I wrong for being mad?? and she said that she is not going to talk to me till I say sorry. Me say sorry, for what??
2007-01-30 02:05:54 · 17 answers · asked by itsgino28 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She was not working, and I have been going to this bar way before I met her. We always go there together on Saturday night.
2007-01-30 03:00:24 · update #1
no you are not wrong and your wife should be ashamed. i would not say i was sorry at all. i would let her go and let her ruin her life her way. she will see what kind of man she had and will know she is wrong.
2007-01-30 02:20:36 · answer #1 · answered by young grown man 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that you are wrong for being mad, and I don't think that you should say sorry. However I think that you both need to sit down and discuss things. So your wife fancies this guy, there is nothing wrong with that, people fancy other people all the time, the thing is you obviously were jealous otherwise you wouldn't have got mad and gone home.
I think that the two of you have blown this situation up to more than it needs to be, and I think that the two of you need to say sorry to each other for taking it this far.
Also consider this, the two of you obviously love each other because you have blown this thing way over the top, but you need to sort it out before she starts regularly meeting with the ex-boyfriend to discuss things within your relationship.
2007-01-30 10:22:16 · answer #2 · answered by Baps . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st thing, your wife works in a bar and you are at her job. why?
If she worked as a maid in a hotel would you be there? If she is working in a bar I am sure most of her pay is tips, you need not be there. You are wrong. If she left the house at 12 was because after being on her feet and dealing with drunks all night she needed to listen and deal with your insecurities. If you think you are a great husband and do all the right things then why would she need to look outside her marriage.
2007-01-30 10:26:00 · answer #3 · answered by Kat G 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think this is a serious problem. A communication problem. If she needed to talk with someone it should have been you. Maybe when you both cool down and the emotions were not so raw.
Hell yes I would be mad. Couples who are truly committed to their relationship might need to get to a point to talk but not the kind of space she is taking.
2007-01-30 11:58:38 · answer #4 · answered by reddemonwi55 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You apologize? Sure! You should apologize for letting the door hit her in the *** on the way out. This chick was not out until 6:30 AM just talking. But, before you go nuts and bodily throw her out, have her followed and get photographic proof of her nocturnal activities.
2007-01-30 10:18:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you are not wrong. The fact that she's eyeing someone particular means she's planning something in her head. If I were you, I would pay close attention to her habits. Any changes to the usual is highly suspect - buying new lingerie, infatuation with getting in shape, etc. If anything, she owes you an apology, since we all know what would've happened had it been you staring at another woman in the bar.
2007-01-30 10:17:24 · answer #6 · answered by Xfactor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest drawing boundaries. Things like this will happen when your spouse is workign in a bar, around DRUNK people mind you. Maybe suggest she find another job. You do need to appologize though, you should have talked to her and not yelled. She NEEDS to appologize too, especially for staying out all night with an EX bf!!!
2007-01-30 11:57:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are jealous but it was prompted by her total lack of understanding that her behavior was inappropriate.
Tell her you are sorry that you were jealous. Also tell her you are sorry that she does not have a clue why you were angry.
You might suggest that she find another place of residence so she can spend more time with her friends. Apparently you are not one.
Arfe you sorry for buying into marriage with her yet?
2007-01-30 11:23:33 · answer #8 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry for going to where the wife works, Yes! As for the argument there is not enough information or background.
2007-01-30 10:14:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Turn the situation around. You are out till 6:30 am with a "friend". What would she think???
2007-01-30 10:25:12 · answer #10 · answered by Lila 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to either leave, or kick her sorry @ss out.!!!
Plain and simple. She is more than friends with the ex!!
Trust me, you need to give her a choice.....you, or him.
And stick to it!!!
And DO NOT say YOU'RE sorry, she is the one that needs to apologize, and if she refuses to apologize, just leave her!!!
When she went to her friends house, wasn't that to talk to HER?
Why didn't she just go to her boyfriends house? And I say boyfriend, because it isn't over yet!!! Hate to say it, but she's still sleepeing with him.
2007-01-30 10:13:29 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋