my boyfriend and i have been together for 6 months and he is already asking me to move with him and marry him. i think is kinda fast , i already got married twice and i have a daughter from the first one. i think i love him , but i don't want to get to that level yet ..i feel he is nice and he got things that i love about a man , but i cannot decide whether or not i should marry him. i think that how about if he is not the one , how about i can find someone better than him ..stuff like that ...also , he's house is in foreclosure because he bought it alone and couldn't take the mortgage payments and i am not sure if he is only looking for someone so he can buy another house and have someone to share the expenses with ..he never showed me that , but who knows ..what should i do ....
2007-01-30 01:54:11 · 19 answers · asked by yaquese 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If you have to ask yourself if you want to Marry him or not, the answer is more than likely going to be not. If you think he just want you to move in to share expenses than talk to him about what you suspect. But don't marry someone if you have that many questions on if you should or not....
2007-01-30 02:00:10 · answer #1 · answered by christy_2125 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should sit down and talk with your man, both about your relationship now and where it is going in the future. If you have to ask us if you should marry him or not you already know that answer and are just looking for confirmation. Well just to make sure that you get what you need, do not marry this man at least not now. It's only been six months that is hardly enough time to really get to know someone. Maybe you and him can talk about a long engagement, that way if you ever feel that it is not right or working out the way you need it to be then you still have an out. Doubts in moving forward are not all necessarily bad they make us think one way or the other and we all need that. Sit down and talk about everything and then follow your heart.
2007-01-30 10:08:04 · answer #2 · answered by freyja5683 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to read any further than "I think I love him" in your question to know that u should not marry this guy. You can't marry someone u think u love, or someone u have this many concerns about. When u marry someone it should be someone u honestly see spending the rest of your life with, someone u can't live without. I doubt he is asking u to marry him so he can buy another house, but I wouldn't doubt he is asking u out of insecurity. You are not near ready to make that step with him. You have already experianced a bad marriage twice, don't make the same mistake again. If further down the road u have the feeling of wow this guy is the one and I love him so much, and u don't have any questions or concerns about the future, then u know u are ready for a big step like that.
2007-01-30 11:47:07 · answer #3 · answered by Amber 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't feel comfortable with going to that level yet, tell him and stay living seperate. If he really loves you, and really is the one, he will wait. Six months is kinda short unless you have forty years oflife's experience behind you. And think of your daughter. There are horror stories about what has happened in families which moved too fast. Take your time. If you are meant for each other, he will leave the proposal as an open offer and wait until you are ready to make a comfortable, well thought out, decision. My wife had been married three times when I met her. We each felt perfect for each other, but we took our time. Even after we felt comfortable, we still lived together for several years before getting married.
2007-01-30 10:06:34 · answer #4 · answered by fishing66833 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If his home is in foreclosure because he can not make the mortgage payments then he is in no position to ask someone to marry him. You have a child where is the stability? Think you should hold off on the wedding until you know you love him not think you do. Good luck.
2007-01-30 10:15:30 · answer #5 · answered by Kat G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come on now, you've been married twice and you don't know the answer to your own question? Listen to your intuition dear, its telling you that its to soon, so abide by that quiet inner voice of yours and wait awhile. And if you have a suspicion that this guy just wants someone to help bail him out of foreclosure, then that is a miserable reason to get married. What is the rush?
2007-01-30 10:05:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too fast.. Marriage isn't like dating. You don't marry and break up a year later. Take your time.. especially if you've been married before. You might have a pattern in your history. If his house is in foreclosure, tell him to put an ad in the paper for a share rent.. He can do with out you and then you can date with out the added stress and determine if this will work..
2007-01-30 10:00:44 · answer #7 · answered by xjaz1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you do love him and he loves you you all can wit to get married. I think you should live with him for a while and see how it goes, no need to rush. If you feel like accepting his proposal before you move in that would be fine also, just don't set a date yet for the wedding until you are sure.
2007-01-30 10:01:59 · answer #8 · answered by kdm615 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell him that you are unsure about the situation. That you want to find the right person, nothing against him, and stay with them forever. Tell him that you have made mistakes in the past and they have hurt you, obviously, and you want to take it a little slower. If he loves you and wants to move in/marry you then he will be considerate and understanding. Otherwise dump his ***.
good luck!
2007-01-30 10:07:16 · answer #9 · answered by aricalyn10<3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont move in thats abad move you two are still in the beginig of the relationship you need to get to know eah-ch other more give it about another 8 or 12 months you dont want to rush into anything besides if he loves you he wont mind and will be willing to wait.
2007-01-30 10:03:04 · answer #10 · answered by ermosa_milagros 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋