Where is the love...why DIVORCE so often?

Question

More than half of American marriages end in divorce. What do you think are some of the reasons for this?

Answer 1

Because its so easy. It's now the norm. My first marriage ended in divorce. Mainly because I was too young and "uneducated" to realize that I could have saved it. Had I known 4 years ago what I know now, we would have been going on our 9th year. But with all do respect I am 29 and got married at 20. So married and divroced by the age of 29. Not cool in my books, but I was just too young. Another reason is growth. If you can't GROW with the person it is bound to fail. That's just my two cents.

Answer 2

I think the biggest reason is that people are too quick to jump into a marriage with the wrong person for the wrong reasons. Most people marry when they are too immature to realize the mistake they are making.

Most people will say that it's because it's easy to divorce and people don't want to work on things. The problem is that if take the time to grow up and find yourself first, you will find a better partner that you will not have these big issues to work through.

My marriage is a perfect example...I was 25, she was 23. She comes from a reliogious background, I do not. She's very family oriented, I'm a loner. She wants kids, I don't. She was given everything growing up, I had to work for what I had. She's a morning person, I'm a night-owl. I could go on.

In the end, we've now had a miserable marriage for a year and a half and I finally moved out. There are way too many differences to work out. Going into it, we thought all we needed was love, but that wasn't the case. You have to at least be somewhat compatable to spend your life with someone and not be miserable.

Answer 3

I love this question!!!! The reason why more then half of American marriages end in divorce is because people do not love the other person the way they should when they marry and they get married for selfish purposes and not selfless ones... They go into marriage thinking what can i get out of this marriage and what can the other person do for me ... Which is almost instant doom with that way of thinking from the start BUT if they would go into marriage thinking what can i give to and in this marriage and what can i do for the person or my spouse to make them happy we would have much more successful marriage from the start... God also has to be the center of the marriage and prayer and forrgiveness of each others faults is a key factor to successful marriages along with communication. We also try to change the other person instead of changing ourselves to be the husband or wife we need to be to our spouse.... We need to treat and love the person the way that we would want them to treat and love us! We should love each other unconditionally and for who they are and not what they are!!!!!

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Answer 4

In my opinion, many people fall in love with each other
but are not in love with each other: Marriage is a life-long
committment of two people that are in love with each
other and want to have that love un-conditional. Marriage
today is not as easy it a lot of people think especially now
as there are so many temtations in various forms, than
there was before. SO for two people to stay in a marriage
these people have to be a certain breed as the proof is
the divorce rate of just anyone getting married. Marriage
can work but only if 2 people, not 1, are committed to
each other and knows the values and vows that it takes
to make a marriage rock-solid. I can speak from ex-
perience as My wife and I are married going on 20yrs,
and we don't let any outside interference get in our way.

Answer 5

I feel the same way you do. I had two parents that believed in marriage and love and stayed together down some very tough roads. I was always taught to be a fighter and never quit.,and this will make you stronger and I believe your marriage stronger. My husband came from divorced family and his view is" if your not happy just leave, you no where the door is, " Divorce is more acceptable to him because it is apart of him and is as a reality that he lived through. There alot more kids out there from divorced families , so when they are adults there will be alot more people who have accepted it as a reality in their lives so in turn alot more people who be susceptible to get a divorce. Don't get me wrong I believe cheating and abuse are definite grounds for divorce, but spilled milk, come on people.

Answer 6

Your beginning up assertion is categorically incorrect. All study have flaws and this one is not any different. the final consensus between such study while seen altogether is that divorce quotes are statistically the same the two in the church and without. Granted, that reflects poorly upon the church. She could be conscious of better. I even have acquaintances who declare to be Christian yet they needless to say violate God's regulations concerning fornication, divorce, and adultery. it is going to take Almiighty God Himself to variety with the aid of all this mess on Judgment Day. No guy can ever do it. Your beginning up assertion seems to advise that atheists and agnostics someway have it together and Christians do not. And yet it incredibly is sparkling untruth. you may make a sturdy Hitler.

Answer 7

My divorced was caused by my cheating wife! I don't know what the percentages may be, but it seems that most of the people do not have the same kind of values instilled inside of us like our grandparents and parents did. I think its our society that has lead us astray. Its alright for a person to have many relationships and not be a total cad. Promiscuity has become a total fashion for our nations youth! Its taught to them everyday by what they read, see in the news and television shows, music and peer pressure!

I think as long as we keep teaching the right to do whatever to our children marriage is going to be a thing of the past.

Answer 8

People don't think before they say I do, the marry for all the wrong reasons. Love isn't enough, if you can't communicate, if you can't manage your money, if you married out of obligation...

Sometime's it's best to think and be sure. And once they marry, people quit trying. It's easier to give up. Marriage is work. Working on one's relationship, communicating with one another, putting the other's needs\wants before one's own. People now are days are selfish and just don't want the effort. Divorce is easyer...

Answer 9

Because we live in a time of instant gratification. WHen want something and we want it now. So when we want to do something like marriage we don't think it through we just plow right ahead, not thinking if it could work or not. I think for the most part girls want the big wedding and we don't necessarily care who gives it to us. Plus if we get divorce it just means we can have another one soon after.

Answer 10

People today are self center in their lives. And when problems show up they cut and run. Marriage is a sacrament made by God. But mankind and especially in the USA want more control of it. I believe we all will have trials through our marriages. The people who choose to stay will work it at. The self center will cut and run. I'd had many problems in my life and running from them never gave me the right answers. I hope this answer your question.