I don't have any particular reason to know, it's just for my own curiosity and knowledge. Is it rude to ask? Is it the kind of thing where if you're close enough friends, you will know, and if you don't, it's none of your business?
2007-01-30 01:48:23 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Yeah... in general it's rude to ask because like you said you have no need to know. The catch-phrase to go by is to "let people self-identify." If you're close enough friends he'll eventually tell you somehow, even if it's just by carefully "letting slip" that he thinks a certain male celebrity is hot.
You can make it obvious that you're supportive either way by using gender-neutral language when talking about significant others. So as an example instead of asking him what "she's" like if he mentions a date, ask instead what are "they" like. Play the pronoun game, making everything neutral. Stuff like that.
But yeah, if you don't know and he doesn't tell you, it's none of your business.
2007-01-30 02:01:58 · answer #1 · answered by Jen 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well the thing to consider here is that it isn't so much rude as it might be insulting. Consider that your friend might be upset that you thought he was gay if he is straight. It can be a blow to his psyche to know that he is not viewed by you, his friend, as straight. Try suppressing your curiosity and realize that no matter what the answer is it will not alter your friendship.
2007-01-30 04:58:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are truely close to your freind it is not rude to ask. Just make sure you do not ask with any negative tone. If he is not "out" yet he may be very sensitve. Make it fun like when you are at a club ask him if some guy you are looking at is cute. That may help break the ice. Good luck
2007-01-30 02:03:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it rude? a little
But if you truly want to know and he is your best friend, then ask, just be sure you're ready for whatever answer comes your way.
Tricky business this.
2007-01-30 01:53:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've got it.....if your friend wants you to know, your friend will give you clues or come out and say so. In the meantime, it's none of your business.
2007-01-30 02:27:33 · answer #5 · answered by behrmark 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he is such a GOOD friend there would be NO need to ask...it would be obvious. By spending time with your friend, and getting to know the people in his life you will have your answer...
2007-01-30 02:09:02 · answer #6 · answered by hefnergang 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you've no desire to develop your friendship into anything more, then I would suggest it's down to him to tell you.
You can ask, though, if you're a good friend. He may be glad to have you there to confide in.
2007-01-30 04:03:15 · answer #7 · answered by unclefrunk 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If hes gay and not told you, hes probably not ready to tell you, so maybe you shouldnt ask.
2007-01-30 03:20:32 · answer #8 · answered by sweet_treat101 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you question your relationship with this person. If you are doing that then ints intrusive to bring it up.
2007-01-30 01:55:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so, ask away - ONCE.
2007-01-30 01:53:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋