I asked a question about the femininity of british girls/females yesterday ...
It has been deleted ... some one obviously didn't like it...
I find it strange double standards in a society where females are so (dismissive) quick to put guys down... that some of you girls can't take your own medicine
I'm sure in a democracy that its ok for some girls to like french accents, for instance... just the same way that its ok for some guys to like femininity
Females are so quick to tell a guy to stand up and be a man etc... but when the tables are turned and we ask the difficult questions
Its hard to get any answers...
so ill try again..
Has Shilpa Shetty (big Brother) highlighted the differrence in femininity between british girls and their overseas counter-parts...?
Is femininity no longer important...?
please feel free to rid your prams of all toys...
women are also welcome to answer...
2007-01-30 01:43:19 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Emma C .. I can see that you are just the type of little girl that this question was aimed at ..
Thanks for confirming... you reacted by throwing your toys out..just like the little 'GIRL' you are..
2007-01-30 02:13:47 · update #1
Take you point Bluebell ... but I'm not sure that its a case of men not treating women in a feminine way ... but more like not being allowed to .. as a result of equality demands...
There is nothing wrong with being equal and retaining femininity .. its just that power currupts ...and the balance is lost.
if a woman acts feminine .. she will probably be treated that way ...as they are overseas ...
2007-01-30 02:26:40 · update #2
Shimmering ... Sexy and feminine are not neccessarily intertwined...
I know girls that are feminine but not neccessarily sexy and vice versa... but good point about perception ;-))
2007-01-30 02:35:24 · update #3
Damari ... you really did not know what I was on about ..
There are lots of women ...who are not from 'very good backgrounds' that are feminine... and we all know why jade was put in there ... shame she didn't ...
..and I totally disagree with your point about Kate Winslett ... that is crap!!!
2007-01-30 02:40:38 · update #4
Cassandra ... well said ..
ps .. My oven is not for cooking anyway ... and its occupied ...
2007-01-30 02:57:44 · update #5
Emma .. speaking your mind is ok...
but try opening it up a bit more ... this is not shilpa's opinion its mine ...
ps. like you ... I don't wrry about being liked If I did .. I would not post this type of question ..
..and everyone is entitled to an opinion.. even people who are not british... like Shilpa ...
thanks for your opinion...
Dr BAd
2007-01-30 06:31:57 · update #6
It is very important for a girl to be feminine, and not act like a **** or ladette.
How can a female be attractive with a stream of profanities coming from her mouth?
I don't watch big brother but I've heard enough to know it's not for me.
I think it is also important to let a man, still feel like he's a man.
I know a few women who like the men in their life to think, anything they can do, they can do better.
What's wrong in letting a man feel you need him.
If I finish a relationship with a guy, I am happy as long as I leave him feeling a million dollars and we are still friends.
I don't do shouting and screaming stuff
On the continent, they don't seem to have the same problem we have here, of women drinking too much.
Of course, women are more independent and won't be walked on, and that is a good thing.
I hate cooking, and don't want to spend all day staring at an oven.
Some men would consider, that is something a woman should do, it's part of their femininity, mine stops at the oven. Oh dear;-(
PS, one word has been removed by yahoo,I wasn't swearing. it may be a taboo word in America so that's fine.
2007-01-30 02:19:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Femininity???!!! What are you on about?!
First of all Shilpa did not highlight the difference in femininity. The show presented someone who has a very good background (education, financially secured, a bright future etc..) not to mention looks, against some people whom don't. It's shows such as BB that make people go against one-another. Most people have a laugh (without offending anyone!!) regarding accents, but when someone who says and does what she feels (and when she feels like it), it is racial discrimination or lack of femininity!
By no means I'd say that what Jade did was right, but it wasn't wrong either. Jade was put in there for a purpose, to bring more viewers and more money to the pockets of those in charge. When it wasn't working and everyone saw the change in Jade (from the original BB) they broad casted the "uncut" version, the moment where she was the same as in the past. but with the difference of some money in her account.... Isn't that just a coincidence?!!!
If you were to put Kate Winslate and Shilpa in the same room, you would find more femininity, humanity, respect and honesty in the British than "the overseas counter parts"
2007-01-30 02:16:56 · answer #2 · answered by damari_8 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, this is not really an answer but a question - can we really take one example of a non-British female ie. Shilpa Shetty and compare her with the difference in femininity? I think there are good and bad examples in all cultures, but if Shilpa is a typical Indian she certainly had dignity and poise, but to the point of being arrogant. I do think femininity is important, but I fear that in this day and age of equality then femininity has gone out of the window and maybe, just maybe, men don't treat women as feminine anymore and therefore this action alone might stop them remaining feminine because they are not treated that way. In other cultures women are the inferior sex so on that premise I would say they are more feminine because they are reacted to that way. Hope this all makes sense!!
2007-01-30 01:58:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that she has highlighted the difference in femininity between British girls and overseas counterparts in any way shape or form, because if you say that then you are implying, by default, that all British women are unfeminine and that is not the case by any stretch of the imagination.
Poise, decorum and a sense of self worth are no bad thing and not all women, British or not, realise that they do themselves no favours by 'letting it all hang out' and 'putting it about a bit'. That said, femininity is not defined by a lack of sexuality but by being ladylike, graceful and tender, all of which it is possible to be without returning to bygone eras where women were seen and not heard-to be feminine does not, and should not, equate to being subservient.
Femininity is an asset to those who possess it, feminine allure has been snaring the opposite sex for centuries and there are hundreds of men out there who have 'chased a girl until she caught them'.
Men and women are intrinsically different and to put not too fine a point on it,(and to spare my feminine blushes), there's a good reason for that!
2007-01-30 02:51:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good Question- It doesn't upset me!
I think femininity is definitely cultural interpreted, and is constantly changing- as is masculinity (with the idea of the 'new man' being one in touch with his feelings, and caring about his appearance). But with femininity in Britain- it is down to perception! Some men may perceive women dressing as tom boys, rather than pretty in pink girls to be sexy and I think nowadays it's more about what is sexy rather than feminine. Do you think u are most attracted to women who are sexy or feminine- or are the two intertwined?
Some things we view as feminine behaviour (and indeed masculine)- can be just stereotypes i.e women not to use bad language, well groomed etc..but Shilpa mainly highlighted that it is simply manners and an etiquette of acceptable adult behaviour that is important!
2007-01-30 02:02:48 · answer #5 · answered by *Twinkle* 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A lot of younger modern women can be quitee unnatractive, i saw this lady sovereign album cover the other day and she is rasing her middle finger in the F*** you insult.
Some modern younger women piss, vomit & fornicate in the streets, totally unfeminine and revolting, but they have been trained from a young age to act in the ways that young men are supposed to act. so its hardly surprising.
2007-01-30 02:29:49 · answer #6 · answered by naturemonkeyirrepressible 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you can judge the whole of Britain like that.......
I would never act like Jade but I do find it funny....
I like to think I am a lady most of the time, but that does not mean I am some weak women, if I am crossed I would fight back but not in public
Its all about image
2007-01-30 01:53:01 · answer #7 · answered by xXx Orange Breezer xXx 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am not a little girl thank you!
Shilpa isn't British...so her opinion doesn't count.
I can give out as good as I get, and still remain 'dignified'
I've often come across cases where I'd rather 'bite my tongue' than lash out inappropriately......I' rather keep my pride and just 'smile' then react to certain situations... However when needs must, and situations get a little heated, I DO tend to speak my mind (when it comes to people disrespecting my family) I don't get nasty with it though, its just that no-body's perfect, and people who say stuff about others should take a closer look at themselves!
I'd rather be hated for who I am, than loved for who I'm not!
2007-01-30 01:48:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 4⤋