my now feiancee keeps getting in these moods and yes i know he just got fired from his job and he has no money in his pocket but i have no problem at all supporting him for a while untill he gets another job (which is really hard to find in the city we live in) but hes still not happy and im not shure if its because he cant get a job and dosent like the idea of spending my money or what like he will get home from looking for a job give me a kiss and then just sit there he will talk a little but i know hes upset and when i ask he just wont answer or says baby dont worry about it...
what am i supposta do? i work 14 hours a day and when i come home i dont want to go out and help him look for a job this is making my life hell im 2 mths pregnent and the stress of him is making me sick hes normaly one of the most happy people iv met...
any help would be greatly appreacited
2007-01-30 01:28:00 · 9 answers · asked by Day Dreamer 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
ok for the few people who asked or commented on him looking for a job hes out there looking all day long but as i added in the question its REALLY hard to find a job here i live in the dominican republic hes qualified for all the jobs here but the people in this country tend to be racist to the haitianos here as they come from haiti and take all there woman and jobs (yes retarded) but the bosses if dominican hire un qualified dominicans over a more qualified haitiano... its retarded as i said hes trying hard to find a job but nothings coming up...
oh and for the others that said its not good for me to be working 14 hours a day i love what i do and i like working that long of hours i work at an internet cafe and most of the time i just sit here so im shure me and the baby are going to be ok working the long hours
2007-01-30 01:47:30 · update #1
the fact that you can support him for a while is good financially but I think his problem is for the most part not about finances. he might be feeling useless...disappointed in himself that he got fired, can't find a job. with his situation it is hard not to be down.
being that you are pregnant I would try to speak with him. it is not good for you to be stressing out and his not wanting to talk is the cause of your stress. ask him to try and cheer up. you have to encourage him...and encouragement isn't saying "I can pay the bills for now". let him know that you believe in him and that he will soon get a job. you don't have to go out and job hunt with him...but your support is vital.
also, he has to think about you...being that you are pregnant. let him know that his being down is stressing you out and definitely continue to encourage him.
good luck!
2007-01-30 01:57:02 · answer #1 · answered by Johanna R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should worry about it, especially if you are pregnant with his child. Has he been applying anywhere? Help him get on his feet for a while, then let him do it on his own. A pregnant woman working 14 hours is not good. That is too much stress on the body and for the baby. Don't let your fiance become a leech that could suck out your finances and life. Tell him that you need him to get a job, because I bet you won't want to work (assuming you work on your feet or even off your feet) 14 hours a day.
2007-01-30 01:35:34 · answer #2 · answered by Lixender 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HI Kaliee ,
First of all dont tell him to use your money!. . . its some what man-ish-ego!( " I "). . . better not to talk on that topic
U can do 1 thing Read the " requirement " article for the Job of him!. . . i hope u will get the rest as well as help!. . . . . .Also tell him 1 thing. . . . ." Smile on your face is more then a million doller to me ". . . . keep repeating above words. . . . .
If possible go out with your money and have fun! with him . . as nothing has happened. . . try to bring him on road back. . . . he is in a frustration.
For u i can say only 1 thing, " Only you can do it ". . . . . .no 1 other from this planet can do it. . . . also dont get stressed you should also take care of your self. . . . .Itsa bit hard time for you two. . .. . if you crossed this. . . . . . you can cross any time. . . .
With best hopes and warm wishes for your future ,
Dr. Shukla
2007-01-30 01:42:28 · answer #3 · answered by Mac 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While he may be feeling down due to a loss of a job, he needs to get his act together. YOU are pregnant and working 14 hours. That is ludicrous. He should "man up" and start looking for a job and stop giving you the third degree. Sit down and talk to him (since you're engaged). You guys will really need to communicate since you plan on spending the rest of your lives together.
2007-01-30 01:33:50 · answer #4 · answered by Mimi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
men internalize things like emotions. he's going through a hard time right now as you well know. some men truely identify themselves through what they do, that may play a part in things as well. give him time. i'm sure once he finds a job he'll be back to his old self. the time spent waiting won't be easy but if you love him through it i'm sure it will work out in the end.
2007-01-30 01:37:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him his space he will come around sooner than you think. Just pray for him! I know that it may seem hard right now but he needs some time. In know it may stressful but you need relax and know that everything will be alright. Don't push him! He'll come to you when he is ready!
2007-01-30 01:47:38 · answer #6 · answered by Tricee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are stressed imagine how stressed he is. Leave him alone and let him get it all together. He will find a job and then he will be himself again. Just be there for him.
2007-01-30 01:35:03 · answer #7 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
men react to failures, of losing a job. Give him time, men normally are not good communicators. Just support him and let him know you are there for him.
2007-01-30 01:31:36 · answer #8 · answered by No More Abuse 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea cause he knows your judging him, he should have just ran away.
2007-01-30 01:31:10 · answer #9 · answered by mcrowe93 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋