women only I love my wife but she complains about everything, I can hardly take it anymore What do I do?

Question

I feel everything I do is never good enough. I ask what she wants I do it I give and I feel all she do is take. I don't want to leave her, we have a young child and I believe in our marriage, I will say this if we didn't have a child together I would have left her. My son means everything to me, but I am to the point where I am ready to give up any suggestions besides counsling I have asked her but she wont I know shes not cheating please help

Answer 1

Dont give up! You say you love her, you say yr son means everything to you...you have the ultimate right there! Instead of asking her what/how/when she would like you to do, ask her why she is so unhappy. It sounds to me that there is possibly a communication break-down. Additionally you sound as though you could have low self-worth? Can you go to counselling on yr own for a while to receive personal help, telling her that you have reached breaking point/cross roads. Be honest with her without blaming her or putting her down. You will find that there will be a valid reason for her behaviour, this not meaning that it is justifiable. You say that you would have left her if you didn’t have a child together, are you sure you haven’t already given up? Marriage is a two way street, a child is the best reason to try even harder, but will emphasize again, both have to be mature, willing and rational in there expectations from each other and the marriage. Another thing, if yr son is this young, could it be possible that yr wife could be suffering depression/hormonal changes/fluctuations etc… good luck.

Answer 2

Well, my case is the same only reversed, My husband is the complainer and has been since the start, its never gotten better and its destroyed the marriage, I dont love him, I resent him and we have two small children ourselves. Does your wife know how u feel about this? does she know youre at the point of breaking? if not, then u must tell her, if she knows ur at that point it might make her take a good hard look at the marriage herself, Ask yourself too is there something that shes struggling with and not telling u? please, talk about all this with her, its hard but the problem wont go away til u do

Answer 3

Talk to her, tell her your feelings. I had the same situation. I was miserable and instead of trying to find out why my husband withdrew from me and had an affair. If he would have just talked been honest and gave me some attention it would have never gotten that far. I loved my husband and we worked it out. Try before anything. If not you must do what makes you happy. If you want out do it right. Your children will survive. Tell her you may leave sometimes the shock helps. Maybe she does not want to be with you anymore or feels overwhelmed. Sometimes in this situation counseling is the only answer. Good Luck!!

Answer 4

Sit down and have a "serious" talk. Without the child around. Never argue around your child. Then tell her exactly what you just wrote. It may be that she just isn't happy with her self. Which is something she needs to work on. You can not make her happy.
Tell her to get some help because you "will not" continue to live like this...and mean it. If she loves you, your life, family, she can do something about it.
Believe me the child will suffer the most in situations like this.

Answer 5

I was the same way not too long ago and I really didn't realize I was being negative or that i made my husband feel nothing he did was good enough. The only thing that worked in my case was counceling and marriage workshops. Our marriage is great and I learned how to be positive and show him that I really DO think he does great things for me and the kids.

Answer 6

if you truly love her, you have to trust her. Women loves to complain..sometimes for nothing. Deep inside, I'm sure she doesn't mean it. Perhaps, she's facing some problems or depress over something. Give her a surprise gift. Take her out for a nice dinner, just you and her. You got to try before giving up. How I wish my husband is so sweet to me.

Answer 7

why not have a certain amount of time, that the two of you can sit down and talk things out. Communication is the vital area of marriage and often spouses fail in this area, breaking down the communication, to where no one talks. You both need to express yourselves, your feelings, and have each other's attention.

Answer 8

Actually, I've been thru exactly the same with u, m with 2 kids but since u r seeking a lady opinion, I won't elaborate further but good luck!

Answer 9

A woman that bitches is a very insecure woman and if you make her feel more secure she will P U R R

Answer 10

have a face to face discussion with her, find out her problems and sort on ways to make it up to her.