Experts say you should never hit your children in anger. When is a good time? When you're feeling festive?...

Answer 1

I read the other answers too and I just gotta say Lighten up People. The asker was not asking when is a good time to actually hit your kids, he/she was questioning the validity of the saying.

Answer 2

Okay, I read people's responses and I have to roll my eyes...you DONT spank your children when they piss you off or when they do something stupid!! You spank your children when they openly and purposefully DEFY you!! Think about it..you touch the stove burner, it hurts..your brain remembers that..It makes me nuts when I see parents that use empty threats with their kids"You better stop Johnny, or else!" Or else what? It doesnt always have to be a spanking that disciplines...when my boys were 4 and 2 and completely misbehaving in the grocery store , I told them"You either act like you're supposed to in the store, or we will leave this cart right here and go home with nothing." Guess they didnt believe me cuz they took off running! Boy were they mad when I took the cart to an employee and said"I'm sorry, we will have to come back when the kids decide to behave ." I never had another issue with my boys while shopping cuz they realized that going home without their granola bars and juice boxes wasnt a whole lot of fun! My boys are 13 and 11 now..all their teachers tell us how respectful, and well behaved they are in the classroom ...Kids today have no consequences for their actions because so many parents are afraid to discipline their kids and think that they have to be "friends" with their kids(you need to find a happy medium)..and people wonder why this generation of kids are so out of control...?

Answer 3

Spanking your child is great form of discipline, it has worked for centuries and it worries me that so many people are against it. I feel lack of spanking is why america's youth is so out of control.

When they say, "don't hit your children in anger", they mean don't use it as an emotional release. when using spanking as a discipline tool, you should be calm and collected, have adressed to the child why they are recieving the punishment and then follow up with love and support.

too many parents feel that they can stop thier children from doing stuff by just hitting them when ever they do something wrong. That is abuse, the child learns nothing put that the parent has anger and a temper.

Answer 4

There's rare times when a young child needs a carefully considered spanking when they are absolutely defiant or out of control -- some kids may not need it more than once or ever -- but it needs to be known that the option is "on the table" as an ultimate consequence for very bad behaviour

Answer 5

What they mean is that, if you're angry you will most definitely be very violent.
So, you need to hold yourself, and just don't do it.
I agree with a firm spank when children really misbehave...I got spanked a few times when I was a child and I don't have any psychological problem because of that, actually, I'm thankful for them, they always made me stop doing for good - whatever I did to deserve it.

Answer 6

I always wait 10 minutes before spanking mine just so I know that anger isn't a part of the punishment.

Answer 7

And they wonder why kids are disrespectful. Spank them when they do something wrong. Forget the experts.

Answer 8

Did you know that kids can Bounce off the wall?

Answer 9

Yes, all kids love a good whack when they are making you happy and doing good things, like helping you clean.....Excellent positive reenforcment!

Answer 10

Yea I think they only want you to hit your kids when it makes you feel good, not when your feeling anger.