i have known my best m8 for about 7 years and she has always been a natural flirt, but she always becomes a lot more flirty with guys she knows i like, i have told her about it in the past but she just says she doesnt mean to and i always believe her and still do (i think) but i have recently got together with a guy and i thought things were fine coz for once she doesnt seem 2 be like normal, but he has told me that she has made passes at him when i have not been around, when i asked her about it she just denied it, now i dont know who to believe, i feel whoever i believe i am going to loose the ohter one. please help
2007-01-30 00:26:32 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Oooh that's a tricky one. First you need to consider the facts. What exactly did your boy friend mean by 'made a pass' at him? How well do you know him? On the other hand, it doesn't sound like your best friend is especially trust worthy. Perhaps you should give your friend one more warning. Telll her if you ever hear or even suspect it has happened again then you can't be around her anymore. Make sure she knows that is final. A friend you can't trust isn't really a friend at all.
Good luck, hope things turn out for the best!
2007-01-30 00:38:56 · answer #1 · answered by roberta 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm..tough one this ! She has a " history" of flirting, so it's probably safe to assume that she did probably flirt with him at some point ! However, some guys do get the wrong idea when it comes to girls who are a little more flirtatious than they are used to ! Is it possible that perhaps he misunderstood her?
I was a natural flirt at one point ( luckily, I have grown out of it now) and people always assumed I was " flirting" even if I was ONLY being friendly, I remember once being accused of the same thing as your friend, but I was only being friendly! He got the wrong idea and told my friend that I made a pass at him( which was a lie) but I can now see why he thought that !
At this point there's no need to choose a side, talk to your friend again, explain to her that your boyfriend got the wrong idea...basically let her know that you know and hopefully that will be the end of it ! With a bit of luck you'll get to keep your friend as well as your boyfriend .
Maybe she's not aware of how far she goes ????? I suggest a good heart to heart with her , and tell her that she needs to tone the flirting down a bit .
Sorry, that's the best I can do I'm afraid , good luck anyway.
2007-01-30 03:10:11 · answer #2 · answered by Paris69 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough choice, but if she has flirted with guys you like in the past I think it is perfectly normal to assume she will have done it again. Whether she made a 'pass' at him or not you can't be sure, she may have been flirting and he has read into it a bit more.
Personally I couldn't have a friend i didn't trust 100%. I dont think she is someone you can trust totally and at some point she will probably go too far.
2007-01-30 00:32:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask the guy your interested in to describe the manner of flirting and specific actions your m8 exhibited and if they sound like your m8's MO, then you know that you have a right to be more suspicious of her around your bf and at that time I would start setting boundaries.
2007-01-30 00:36:59 · answer #4 · answered by jlsmith 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This same thing happened to me. She, as sad as it is to learn, is not trustworthy. No real friend of yours would ever disrespect you lik ethat. The fact that she has denied it repeatedly to your face, means she is also a liar/dishonest. You need to really sit her down and talk it over or just cut her loose. If she is always flirting with your boys, that can't bode well for the future.
She's probably jealous.
2007-01-30 00:32:59 · answer #5 · answered by Mimi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to leave your man alone otherwise u will beat her!!!!!! lol.. Just keep an extra close eye on her whenever your all together.. Let her no that u dont want 2 lose her friendship but if it carrys on then thats it..
As for your fella i cant imagin him just randomly making it up, if she does it again make sure he makes it clear to her that he ISNT intrested!!!!
goodlook xxx ps She cant be much of a friend 2 be like that nyway
2007-01-30 02:15:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a confidence thing. Girls who flirt do it for reassurance! They need to know that they are desired all the time. It's totally subconscious, but can cause problems between friends.
I would advise that you sit her down and just mention that you know what is happening and why and ask her if she need s to talk about anything.
Boy's are not worth ruining your friendship over.
2007-02-06 02:09:14 · answer #7 · answered by fairyprincesscorinne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Recent research out suggests women find men more attractive when Other women like them..........So it may be biology ........that said ...........you friend should still know better. If a guy tells you someone made passes at him he isn't lieing. Hes being loyal to you. Your friend is not a friend you may not keep this current guy but do you really want a mate you can't trust
2007-01-30 00:32:14 · answer #8 · answered by The Guru 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I had a friend like that she was jealous of me ,we were friends from school and her parents never let her out without her older sister ,this is at age 14 ,she took my longterm boyfriend they would drop me off at my house and go back to his house ,then not long after she got pregnant and her mum and dad kicked her out ,and then i met up with her again cause i felt sorry for her and she tried to get off with my husband!!!!!!she not a friend get rid of her ,she wants your life cause shes not happy with her own believe me i know good luck xxxxxx
2007-01-30 01:00:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's time you stay apart from this mate of yours... she certainly isn't the ideal mate to be with.
If you can get another guy too, just in case this one lied, cuz you can never know... but i don't think so seeing how she was before.
Anyway hope you took the best decision whatvever it is.
Nad
2007-02-06 18:43:44 · answer #10 · answered by toupou 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋