My friend got married in 1999 and has a sweet son of 2 yrs old. Last year she lost her husband in a road accident. She is not willing to marry. How can I convince her to get married again? She says, she had a very happy life with her husband and she does not want to loose those memories.
I feel, she needs moral and financial supports. I dont know how to convince her.
2007-01-30 00:16:06 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Remind your friend that she will always have the memories. Also, there is nothing that says to be happy again she has to get married. Opening her self up to the possibility that she could find happiness again is not going to be achieved by trying to convince her to remarry. They say that one has a better chance at finding love when they are not looking for it. Just being open to the possibility is what I would point out. Then there is the little boy. He has a better chance of growing up well balanced in our society when he is exposed to the male element of our species. If mom could be made to see how much better the child's life could be to have a loving and supportive male role model, it may ease her heart strings and allow herself tp become more receptive to the possibility of dating again and maybe even remarrying. It is something that has to have time to runs it's course. The passing of her husband is still pretty raw in her heart and I don't think that I would be very receptive to someone even bringing up the subject of marriage so soon. Give her time and support her current emotional needs with understanding and consideration.
2007-01-30 00:32:00 · answer #1 · answered by jlsmith 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some never get over their first true love. Give her time, leave her alone and just be there for her. The last thing she needs is pressure from a friend. I was left to raise (4) children on my own, now all grown with children of their own, I have yet to remarry. :) Good Luck may God bless. In your last sentence you state, "YOU" feel she needs financial and moral support. How does "SHE" feel?....It's her life, her heart, her children. Direct her to an agency for financial help, and a support group may be the ticket to help her cope, but if your her friend, just give her time.
2007-01-30 08:28:24 · answer #2 · answered by whateverhohum 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only time will heal. How can she move on if she's not over it? Her husband died in a car accident 1 year ago. For most women, a year is nothing. She'll eventually move on, but she can't move on until she's ready to start fresh. No guy wants to date a woman that only talks about that. It is a traumatic part in anyones life, but if she's still suffering from her loss, then she can't possibly move on.
You can't convince her, but you can introduce her to someone.
2007-01-30 08:20:51 · answer #3 · answered by Rica 82 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if she says she is happy being single why do you want her to get remarried ? if only for financial reasons then dont let her get married for that . If she has a happy life now then leave her alone about it . People can be happy being single you know . Not everyone needs to be married to be happy . good luck .
2007-01-30 08:53:17 · answer #4 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It isn't your place to convince her to remarry. When and if she is ready, she will move on on her own. Some people grieve longer than others. What she needs of you is a supportive friend who is there for her, not someone pushing her in a direction she is not ready to travel yet.
2007-01-30 08:20:24 · answer #5 · answered by fly guy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't and shouldn't try to convince her. She is a big girl and old enough to know what she wants and needs. Just be a good friend for her and one day she may decide to get married again. It is her choice.
2007-01-30 08:19:06 · answer #6 · answered by Kitt 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't. If and when she meets the right person the desire to remarry will return. In the meantime offer her support for her choice and stop nagging. Marriage is a commitment of love; not a business merger.
2007-01-30 08:19:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let her be! She will know when she is ready it is not up to you to decide. Just be a friend and be there for her. I know if I lost my husband it would probley take me at least 5 years to be OK with seeing someone, but I sure would not get married for a long time. Please quit pestering her (you are probley upsetting her more)
2007-01-30 08:21:58 · answer #8 · answered by ?Sherbear ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just give it time. Sometimes time is what people need to heal and move on.
2007-01-30 08:41:47 · answer #9 · answered by vato 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when she finds a man that can change her mind..she will. it just seems like shes not ready for it yet.im sure she will think differently when a man who is worthy comes along.
2007-01-30 08:19:19 · answer #10 · answered by ♥Chastons Wifey♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋