Why, when there are so many people in the world, am I so lonely?

Question

I look ok, I smell ok

Answer 1

Janet, don't mug yourself!
Look at it in the sense of everyone doesn't know what they're missing & I'm sure you'll be fine ;)
Don't think 'ok' either - think 'amazing'!
:)

Answer 2

janet we all get lonely, even when we are with friends and family we can often feel alone.
the only thing you can do is try to be happy with your own company, try something or learn something new everyday. make new friends talk to people when you are out and about in your local area. talk to people at random online. however always keep your guard up never give out personal details that could be used to find you such as your real name, adddress and or phone number. only once you know someone well should you consider giving out a throwout number such as a throwaway cell phone number (a new pay as you go sim card for your handset) or a number from online companies such as skype.

I too am lonely. I'm 33 no life (to speak of), I will not go in to all my details here as it is not the right place. but if you want to talk then email me.
good luck and keep smiling.
remember looking and smelling ok as you put it is not the problem. peopel are funny in who they choose to speak to. you may look too good and people are intimidated or jealous of your looks. i don't know the real answer neither does anyone else on this answer forum.

but lonelyness is one of lifes toughest chalenges to overcome. how you do it is up to you.

good luck and my email inbox is alway open.

Answer 3

Are you lonely for friends or a fella.Get yourself motivated into a positive state of mind,join the gym, go swimming, try dancing, judo,language classes,or something, you have to put yourself out their to meet other people.When you do, arrange to go shopping, to the pub,and enjoy it,an upbeat attitude and self confidence is all it takes,sounds hard, but you only need to take a small step,and the rest will follow on.Go on ,give it a try, good luck.

Answer 4

You may look okay and smell okay, but you don't THINK okay. You are what you think, do and say you are..literally. If you keep saying your lonely, you will remain that way. Throw away the old, destructive thoughts and THINK: "friends, companionship, a social life,..whatever you FEEL it will take to get out there are succeed. DON'T give up! It will work for you. Change your thoughts, change your life!

Answer 5

if you don't want to feel lonely, you've got to take active steps to counteract it... the best way is to expand your circle of friends...

flick through your local free newspaper and they'll be lots of adverts for evening courses, find one you're interested in, like art, cooking or photography etc.. and enrol... its cheap, fun and they'll be people on the course who share similar interests, oh, and with it being an evening course, lots of times people tend to socialise a little afterwards too... you'll make new friends in next to no time..

contact a few people you haven't seen in a while.. we've all got friends who've moved out of our immediate circle... bring them back in... you'll probably find they'd love to hear from you and catch up... give yourself a makeover, try on those clothes you've bought but never worn, and perhaps a new hairdo etc...

pop out to a few galleries and museums with your new look... perhaps start up a conversation with the cute person by the rothko... ask their thoughts on the piece in front of you and keep the banter going... (if all else fails, ask for directions to a particular painting or sculpture miles away, then look confused and ask them to show you, repay their kindness with a coffee and cake.. ) they'll be loads of people there i'm sure you'll be able to talk to and befriend

lastly, do a few things to occupy your time as well, loneliness is partway linked to boredom, thus, make a few goals to get fit or dig out that tennis* stuff you bought tried and never went any further with... chances are this will also get you out and meeting people too.. good luck...

*replace with whatever it was that you tried and gave up on..

Answer 6

Everyone will be left alone one day, so you should never feel lonely, God's love everybody and whenever you feel lonely just sit and think of so many beautiful things God has created for u, what God gives us no humanbeing can give, so why u should lament on being alone.

Answer 7

Every one gets lonely - no matter what their circumstances.

You have to learn self reliance. Some thing that isn't taught in Western Society!

So try and learn to be responsible for your own happiness. This is what growing up is all about.

Answer 8

Get a dog; you meet all kinds of people when you walk a dog. And do some kind of evening course to get you out about. Above all, remember that we all get these strange, lonely times.

Answer 9

Sometimes we are a little blue and feel as though we have no one in our lives although there are actually many people who love us. Look around honey. I'm sure there is someone you can connect with. I'll be happy to talk to you!

Answer 10

Do you belong to any church groups??? Try volunteering somewhere!!! Sometimes, you can feel lonely in a crowd of people. It can be difficult making friends sometimes, sometimes people are just unsure of letting someone else into their little circle. Good Luck to you.

Answer 11

Listen, I'm surrounded by people and still I'm lonely! I don't really know what advice to give you as you don't give many details - you can e-mail me if you want - there is always someone to listen, I hope you feel better.