I have heard my daughter call me crying her heart out. She has been divorced over a year and half....both have remarried. Her ex has kept on and on involving their son into it....he is buying him cars, motorcycles, whatever he asked for, and then keeps telling him what all "she" took. She left with none of his money, a couch, chair, and a bed just to go.
He is worth probably a million dollars now with his job and property left to him, but she asked for a small amount...he wouldn't sign the papers if she asked for anything. She just said ok whatever I am gone. He has had affairs over the years but she had kept all this from the child to protect him from loving his dad ...Its so sad really, but like I told her Divorce is ugly, you can't make it nice.
He sent her a bill for $8.50 past due on insurance 1/2 on the son that he says is due....2 years ago!! I made a online draft payment with my online banking to send him 8.50 every month in hopes he will not worry over that again.
2007-01-30 00:14:06 · 6 answers · asked by Gypsygrl 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He is using their child as a continuation of his abuse of your daughter. He is controling and disrespectful of women.
You need to stop that $8.50 payment and your daughter needs to fight him in court over any amount that he claims is due from her. She should owe him nothing. If the court did not order a payment, it should not be made.
Your daughter unfortunately picked an abuser to marry and he is still abusing her. She needs to understand that she cannot stop him from trying to buy her son's affections. She also needs to understand that her son knows that she did not take anything away from him. Her son is smarter than his father thinks and knows a lot more about what is going on then anyone thinks he does.
My wife lived with an abuser for 19 years before we got together and fortunately she did not have any children with him. That enabled her to be entirely free of him after it ended. Your daughter cannot be free of him, but she does not have to continue to be controlled by him.
Take care,
Troy
2007-01-30 00:29:38 · answer #1 · answered by tiuliucci 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
bc the child is the only thing they have left in common and one of the things they most care about. it sounds like the man didnt get his way and is trying childishly to lash out in any way that he can. since he only has contact with her thru the child then that is the only way he can lash out. the son will soemday understand what went on and hopefully make the right decisions. until then, dont play the same game the father is playing. be civil about it and move on
2007-01-30 00:17:53 · answer #2 · answered by jenivive 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a real PRIZE!!!! She should be happy, unfortunately, he won't be until the child is a grown up. She probably didn't have a good enough lawyer as well. Did she have one??? Good Luck to her.
2007-01-30 00:19:34 · answer #3 · answered by winona e 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't give him a damned thing.
At some point in the future, perhaps the child will learn to think for himself and see what the real deal is. (and you can help that along)
2007-01-30 00:19:59 · answer #4 · answered by Jed 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
one can ever be fully free of someone when there are children involved. he may not have wanted the divorce, so he will continue to punish her for as long as he can. and usually nothing will change his mind. he is angry that she choose to leave him, it hurt his ego. whatever he can do to her he will and not much u can do.
2007-01-30 00:51:20 · answer #5 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As you can see, whoever raised him didn't raise a fool, they raised a jackass. If it were a game of chess, an expert would of taken him out a long time ago.
2007-01-30 00:24:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋