I thought I knew he was the one for the first 4 months of our relationship cause it was out of this world...Now I question myself....Does that mean that he is not the one?
2007-01-30 00:08:16 · 15 answers · asked by dawson190154 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Not necessarily. You simply fell hard in the beginning and are drifting back into the reality of the relationship. It doesn't mean the he isn't the one or that you would not be happy with him. You have simply reached the first hurdle in the run. Take some time and get in touch with yourself. Find what you really want out of the relationship. If the problem is that the initial rush has worn off, add some spice to your relationship. Do things together that you have never tried before. You may find that you need nothing more than a good night out to renew all of those feelings.
2007-01-30 00:16:39 · answer #1 · answered by fly guy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, it doesn't mean that at all. We are constantly second guessing ourselves which is why you are having these thoughts. Look at everything long term. Can you see yourself working out arguments and going through rough spots together but still being together in the end? 4 months is a short amount of time. Do not worry about these thoughts. Keep dating and you'll really see if he's the one or not.
2007-01-30 00:15:21 · answer #2 · answered by tx_earthangel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well yes it could very easily mean that. I beleive it takes a little while to know if hes the one or not. You will always think he is at first {after all why would you date him if you didn't} but then you get to know each other better and the answer may change. At the same time though there will always be some things you don't like about the guy you are with but do they outweigh the things you like? Remember, not everyone is always perfect.
2007-01-30 00:14:35 · answer #3 · answered by Jamie G 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No. It is a fallacy that love is an instant connection. Usually when one feels that it is a connection with the person at that point in time. However, it does not take into account the changes in behavior that occurs after both parties relax into the relationship. One more point is once you start living together, or at least staying over night more often, the little habits that we have to learn to accept become more apparant. These little habits destroy alot of budding relationships. Nothing worse than finding out your significant likes to suck their teeth while watching TV at night. LOL
2007-01-30 00:14:52 · answer #4 · answered by Richard Bricker 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It just means you have got to know him a bit better and realised he is an imperfect human, the same as all of us. In the first flush of love it can be a very intense time, but once everything settles it all comes down to whether you can put up with the other person's bad bits, and whether they can accept yours also. The relationship is still fairly new, so it would be hard to say if he is the one or not, don't tie yourself down if you are not sure.
2007-01-30 00:13:11 · answer #5 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Feeling come and go, rise and fall. And that, in any relationship. Should a person just KNOW? It doesn't happen but sometimes. There is a decision and a commitment to that decision. That's the basis and is also a partial definition of what love is.
2007-01-30 00:14:26 · answer #6 · answered by Jed 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel, but I think it is very normal after 4-6 months you get into a comfort zone in a relationship and all the new excitment fades to contentment and feeling settled and happy.
if you are not feeling this then maybe you do need to question your feelings.
2007-01-30 00:12:54 · answer #7 · answered by happy girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just knew from the moment I saw him that he was the one! Just because you are questioning your emotions doesn't mean he isn't the one. But I say that gut instinct is the best instinct you'll have. Just ask yourself why you all of a sudden feel that way? Follow your heart, you can't go wrong. Good luck!
2007-01-30 00:12:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dawson, the first four months of anything are usually great, even a job, sounds like the honeymoon is over, once you get to know someone things change, sounds like that is where you are at. No one is perfect but if it feels wrong, it probably is...that is what dating is for, getting to know someone...good luck...
If he is the right one, you will love him more after the courtship, not less...
2007-01-30 00:14:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
not neccessarily ,hard to tell without more details,relationships are always most fun and exciting in the beginning they still can be but you do have to nuture a relationship if it's to grow,all have there ups and downs,give it a bit more time then see how you feel
2007-01-30 00:15:39 · answer #10 · answered by jewel 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋