And have written a short childrens book. I have contact for a publisher. I have worked really hard, yet my husband does nothing to encourage me . He tells me I live in a world of my own. He doesnt see that its just like him going fishing or drinking, neither of which I do. I feel asthough he is trying to control me, I never go through the door anywhere without him, yes, I am english. I would especially like blokes points of view.
2007-01-29 23:58:22 · 9 answers · asked by The Way 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I will add I am aslo a clean and tidy person, and each day before I sit down, I always spend an hour or two cleaning. I never write while I am meant to be doing anything else.
2007-01-30 00:08:42 · update #1
I also have a talent for writing, just haven't gotten proper motivation to show it. Maybe you should try writing something for him, maybe a naughty little email or note in his lunch box of what you will do to him or want him to do to you. I think you might be surprised at how you can showcase your writing talents. Hmmm Valentines Day is coming up, I think we both need to start writing. As far as control goes, maybe a little sex game where you take control?
2007-01-30 00:04:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must be a bad writer because you spurted out a whole paragraph of words that contain at least two grammatical errors, one spelling error and you neither asked a direct question or made much sense. He is probably right, or would you say wright?
don't start a sentence with And
I have a contact
doesn't
as though
English
I never go through the door anywhere without him, yes, I am English (what does this mean)
like the blokes or a blokes
2007-01-30 08:12:57 · answer #2 · answered by Guy R 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I really have a feeling that there is some controlling there. He would let you go to places without him if you needed/wanted. My boyfriend but should be hubby we live together and everything else lets me go whereever and whenever I want. I usually dont go out without him just because I like spending time with him. However, if I wanted to go alone he would let me. He has never told me that my writing wasn't good enoguh or told me I was in my own world either. I would just try very hard if I was in your point and publish that book. I think once he sees what you can do either he will have more respect for you and if he doesn't I'd think about leaving him. Also tell him that you want to start going places without him just because you want sometime by yourself even though you still love him.
2007-01-30 08:04:48 · answer #3 · answered by Jamie G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He can't relate to your method of relaxing and therefore he doesn't understand. If you can't leave the house without him with you than yes that's very controlling and you need to have time with your women friends. You may see things very differently which is why he may think you live in a world of your own, but he needs to realize that your an individual and all your opinions and needs are not going to be his. Keep working hard at your books and get them published. Even if they are not selected to be published; writing a book is a huge deal. You need to be proud of what you have accomplished and keep writing.
2007-01-30 08:10:31 · answer #4 · answered by tx_earthangel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not certain what you can do. Your husband does not see your writing as important. He thinks you are wasting your time. It also sounds like he has a control issue. You don't go anywhere with out him? Try going a few places with out him and see what happens. I am not suggesting you hurt your marriage, but it sounds to me that you need to exert your will a little more to ensure that he knows you are your own woman and that you are equally as important as he is and wha tyou do is equally important.
2007-01-30 08:38:13 · answer #5 · answered by Richard Bricker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While he should be more supportive, it's quite possible that he has become frustrated with this 'hobby' of yours. Exactly how much time do you spend on it? Are other things not getting done because you spend so much time writing?
I was in a relationship once where I felt like I was doing everything. I ended up frustrated and supported her with nothing because of it.
2007-01-30 08:05:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what someone like Madonna would do. Divorce him and marry a publisher.
2007-01-30 08:03:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I LOVED YOU MUCH AS YOU ARE A SCHOOLAR,ME TOO ENJOY WRITING.WHAT THE BEAUTIFUL WORLED IT IS!. I APRECIATE YOU MUCH;VERY MUCH.TRY TO DRAW HIM NEARER TO YOUR WORLD
2007-01-30 08:19:13 · answer #8 · answered by muhammad elian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would leave him......he obviously doesnt love you !!! If he did, he could encourage you no matter what.......
2007-01-30 08:07:25 · answer #9 · answered by Falling to pieces 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋