hes not my normal type, but is such a lovelly kind person and treats me so well.
we only had 2 dates but there is something about him i like, although his looks are not what i usually go for!!
what do you think is more important, a guy not ugly but not great but a blinding personality, or shall i hold out for someone i am imediatly attratced too??
2007-01-29 23:01:00 · 20 answers · asked by sweetness 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
just so you know its not that i think im too good for him because i said before there is something about him i do like! i just not sure if it can work if the 'oh my god your gorgous' attraction is not there from the very beguining!!
2007-01-29 23:27:05 · update #1
I personally am in the same situation. I met a guy a several months ago who is really different from the other guys that I have ever met. He is not the kind of guy I normally go for, but has the best personality and treats me so great. When I am with him I forget about all my worries, and just enjoy my time with him. After a few weeks of dating him, I did not even notice his physical features and just started liking more and more each time I saw him or spent time with him.
I think its better to be with a person that brings out the best in you and makes you feel like you are on top of the world then be with someone that looks good and makes you look good but treats you like some toy or a pass time. There comes a point where looks fade away....but a persons inner beauty stays for ever!
I hope that helps!! Good luck!!!
2007-01-29 23:13:44 · answer #1 · answered by icu_baby_99 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Looks that first attract you are great, but it is the person inside that will make you stay. Naturally, if you don't fancy this guy at all, then no matter how lovely he is, it wont work. However, if, despite him not being your usual physical type, you still find him attractive as well as liking him as a person, then lucky you! Also, do bear in mind you are only two dates in, as you find he has a 'blinding personality' that very fact could make you more and more attracted to him. I personally think my boyfriend is absolutely gorgeous looking, but it is his humour, intelligence and deep moral sense that keep me really attracted to him. Go for the whole package every time, and remember, looks fade. Good luck to you!
2007-01-29 23:22:16 · answer #2 · answered by peggy*moo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Funny question coming from a female. Thanks for being honest.
Ninety percent of my initial attraction is looks. After a few dates personality gets more and more important. After a year or so it's almost all about personality. The love of my life was the least attractive girl I ever dated.
Bottom line for me is I won't date someone that I'm not dieing to kiss. There needs to be at least that physical attraction. Maybe women come at it from a different angle.
2007-01-30 00:41:23 · answer #3 · answered by tenbadthings 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was married to a devastatingly handsome man for 22 years and then he had an affair with somebody a third my age.
Personally give me a man with integrity, loyalty and common sense rather than looks any day. In time, looks tend to fade anyway, let's be honest.
Looks really don't matter but I agree with you that they are part of the attraction initially. However, delve beneath the surface veneer and look for the treasure inside. Far more important.
2007-01-29 23:13:22 · answer #4 · answered by Ladyfromdrum 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give it a go! Sometimes attraction comes later on. Once you start to get to know him better, you may find certain qualities about him more appealing that just good looks. Besides, you go out with him and if you don't feel attracted to him or don't feel the right kind of chemistry, then just let him know that and you can move on. You wouldn't have lost anything if you just give it a chance.
Good luck
2007-01-29 23:24:19 · answer #5 · answered by Kk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I too was in that situation and we have been together for 6 years and have a beautiful daughter - he is my soul mate and I couldn't ask for more. My past b/f's have been gorgeous looking guys but hard work - my partner is not my usual type but one of the funniest, happy and most loving guys I have ever met. I am so glad I gave the relationship a chance 6 years ago
2007-01-29 23:12:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You've partially answered your own question, he's a lovely kind person, he treats you so well! and there is something about him you like. Don't be so shallow as to think you have to have a drop dead gorgeous looking guy on your arm. In my experience, (a lot of it too!) those sort are more concerned about themselves than those they are with. But if it bothers you, if you think he's not good enough for you, step aside, let him go and find someone who'll appreciate him for who he is, not what he looks like.
2007-01-29 23:13:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I go for personality over looks. Stay with this guy for a while. You may find yourself more attracted to him as time goes on. You obviously sort of fancy this guy or else you wouldn't have gone out with him in the first place! If you sraight out don't fancy him at all, then you shouldn't have dated him in the first place!
2007-01-29 23:13:56 · answer #8 · answered by genghis41f 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to date girls for their looks, but then one day I met someone, not beautiful, just suddenly realised that we were getting on like the proverbial house on fire. Suddenly I realised I was really attracted to her, yet she had not stood out physically particularly (she wasn't too bad)
If you are looking for a permanent relationship, you need to be friends as well as lovers.
Go for the not so hot, but lovely chap, the added advantage is that you won't have to fight off other women!!
2007-01-29 23:16:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would see how it goes look are not everything & personality goes a long way. So give the guy the benefit of the doubt & see what happens. Good luck & hope it works for ya!
2007-01-29 23:10:27 · answer #10 · answered by richardwales79 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋