When a man is caught in lies and deception,?

Question

I’am married?
I love you and I am getting a divorce.
I love you so much and want you?
I am getting a divorce waiting for her to decide what she wants.
I’am sorry she is sick and I can’t leave her when she is down.
When she gets better I will start the divorce!
I won’t lose you!
Who do they really love? Wife or the girlfriend.
Is the girlfriend a side dish?
Why all the lies and deception?
Why do they fake life they dream to have?

Why do they do that?

Answer 1

sounds like he wants his cake and eat it too.

Answer 2

Why? They really think they can pull it off (never will), they think it will come true (can't) they think that is what they want ( not really but the thrill sure feels good).
He may not love his wife but he will still stay married to her no matter what. Divorce? Never going to happen. Wife may suspect but he stands to lose plenty if he leaves her. Hence, there will always be some excuse. Wife has time on her side. She's betting that girlfriend will get tired and go away. If girlfriend is smart, she will. Instead of wasting the best years of her life, girlfriend can get her life back. If by some miracle if he gets the divorce do you think he's going to really marry the girlfriend (aka home wrecker)? If he does marry the girlfriend can she be sure that she could ever trust him?
So, the girlfriend remains a side dish; the meal he can't get at home.
All the lies and deception are a trap so the girlfriend won't give up hope. This is the reason why, that no matter how much she wants to, she won't end it. Either will he.
Why do they do that? Because they can. Because their girlfriends let them do it.
Because of the tangled web they weave...
they fake the life they dream...
Lies and deception. Hopeless and pathetic.

Answer 3

Do you want a reality check? Here it comes. This guy is married, has his job, wife, property, maybe kids, if this guy gets a divorce he will more than likely end up penniless. Even if he makes good money, he may have so much child-support/alimony to pay out he won't be able to live the life style he's living now. He would lose most everything he owns in a divorce especially if their are kids involved.

He would more than likely have to pay all the debt owed by he and his wife in order to save his credit rating.

So basically he's staying married giving you excuse after excuse after excuse while at the same time coming to you for sex and other fun things.
Any woman who would get involved with a married man, doesn't look at the circumstances that would prevail once he is divorced and ultimately those types of relationships will fail simply because of financial pressures.

Another thing to look at, if you marry the guy, 10 years or so down the road into the future, some little young thing is going to catch his fancy and you'll find yourself in the same situation as his current wife is in.

Open your eyes and look at the BIG PICTURE before you proceed further in this type of relationship.

Answer 4

Most men have or will cheat on a woman at some stage in a relationship and if its a 1night stand I would ignore-more than once- then worry.

You can learn to accept it, which is sad but true, or you can change your attitude towards him. Don't show that u care as much as u probably do about him, live Ur own life, (they find it attractive and need to chase u for ur attention-otherwise they just get bored, keep ur sex life interesting all the time, never say no when he wants it- unless ur ill or something of course, (if u frequently say no-he'll jst replace u with some1 else). Most importantly learn how 2 communicate without nagging (he'll look at u as a mother not lover -not attractive)!

Answer 5

he does that to keep u just where u are, giving u just enough hope that u won't move on, so he can still use u to meet his needs. sometimes it's the wife who gets deceived, sometimes it's the girlfriend. he may love u, but not enough to leave the marriage, this is why u don't get involved with someone who is married, because sooner or later u are going to want more out of the relationship, than what he can give, so he than has to come up with the lies, and excuses, because if he told u the truth u wouldn't be there, if u knew there wasn't any gain for u.

Answer 6

Men sometimes find that the grass looks greener on the other side---so they stroll like a proud Bull to the other side to taste that greener grass---once there they find that that greener pasture is thistle, weeds, and thorns disguised as grass.

Sick or not---file for divorce....Put your health first and let the rest take care of it's self.

Women as well as men live their lives sometimes in deception and deceit. It takes a wise person to figure out what is best for them emotionally and physically!

Answer 7

It's what we knuckle draggers do, honey.

Don't blame the guy entirely, you, after all are messing with a married man. This kind of crap is the consequence.

End this, stop seeing him. He will either get the divorce right away, or you'll see him on the street with his next victim.

Answer 8

Missy he only loves himself. He cares only about his own needs and you are just easy pickings. If he will cheat with you he will cheat on you and you are just allowing yourself to be demeaned into the place of the other woman. Get rid of this loser.

Answer 9

Greed.

Answer 10

Because the person they are telling that to is dumb enough to stick around to hear it.

Answer 11

sadly the grass on the other side is always greener