is it bad that your bf is lying to you about money?

Question

Were getting married soon.. but I feel mad at him yesterday, bcoz i found out that he stil have money on his wallet... pleasse advice.. becoz i dont like dis kind of attitude inspite that im informing him all my money... and I dont like that because of money we are not in good terms.. tenks in advance!!!

Answer 1

Yeah, kinda...
He's lied to you now that you're not yet married how much more when you're already very much married. By that time, the more that he'd take you for granted.
You can't just change people's behavior right there and then, not even in years! So, you better have a heart to heart talk with him. Tell him you were badly hurt by his odd behavior.
Tell you, unresolved grudge will create problem in the long run.

Answer 2

Think about it for a second, if he is lying right now and who knows if he is not hidding anything else, what makes you so sure as to trust this man, I say confront his *** now on the situation and see if you like the way he will communicate with you over something that matters to you, if he acts like an *** about it, then its your call. How much are you willing to take is totally up to you. And that goes to all you Lady's out there, take a second to realize you are making a lifetime decision not a lifetime of what If?

Answer 3

If you are arguing about money now, you should seriously think about attaching yourself to this man permanently.

On the other hand, money in a wallet isn't something that has to be disclosed exactly, right? Well, I guess I mean a few tens or twenties. Did he have several hundred in his wallet? Maybe he's hiding something if he did. .....I guess I wouldn't get upset, though, really. In my marriage, I don't know how much my hubby carries around and he doesn't know how much I carry around, but we both can look online and see exactly what's in our checking and savings accounts.

Answer 4

Maybe this is a good thing. He's the kind of guy that likes to budget his money. Nothing to worry about if I were you. After you guys get married you won't have to worry about your bills, they will all be paid.

Answer 5

HOW OLD ARE YOU?

The way you are typing is advising me that you are way too young to be thinking of marriage.

You should never let money come between you. If he has money in his wallet, so what! Make him buy you something if it really bothers you.

Answer 6

Okay i think that this is bad because you don't know if he is lying about anything else!Just talk to him...and tell him "we don't have a lot of money,and i thought that we agreed to tell each other about our financial status,i am really sorry to say this but i would like to be treated equally so if u are not going to inform me i will not tell you as well"

Answer 7

Arguing about money is one of the number one causes of divorce. Deal with this now, before you get married. It's not too late, but I think you both need to get some couples counseling before you tie the knot.

Answer 8

First you should really write more clearly so people know for sure what you are talking about. 2nd if it is bugging you that much talk to him about it. 3rd It's not the big of a deal if all the bills are paid and rent and/or mortgage is paid.

Answer 9

Someone cant use all his money and stay without money.You must be spending alot that is why he told you he has no money He is being prudent by not spending every thing and if telling you would mean you nagging that he spends it ,then it is better not to tell you.

Answer 10

Not a good sign if there are money issues before the wedding!