I experienced something hard and it seems to me that most people love only in a certain period of time as long as they have certain feelings. I know it is very natural and people get bored after having someone or something. But does anyone believe that love can sustain? i ask this question speciall form people over 40 who have had the experience of marriage and loving
2007-01-29 21:56:26 · 12 answers · asked by parsmard 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I love my husband, but not the same as I did when I married him. We've experienced wonderful and sad things in the past 30 years, and you find a respected love for them that you couldn't imagine at the beginning of a marriage. A different profound love.
2007-01-29 22:06:35 · answer #1 · answered by K.W. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'm not over 40. But I have been in love. Love is forever. It's when we have a long term infatuation that it fails. Why? Because, love is accepting the whole package warts and all. Growing together, and individually. Supporting each other in the worst of times, knowing that no matter what you do they forgive you and knowing that the other would never do anything to hurt or deceive. Having the ability to tell them anything and everything without fear of rejection. Of course there will be differences but love is both people giving and taking. Infatuation is when you want to love and be loved by some one, but they aren't what you want or need in a lifelong partner, so you try to mold them into something they are not. And the person that they are trying to change either has to do it for themselves or resentment, anger, mistrust, and deception grows.
2007-01-29 22:07:03 · answer #2 · answered by sonkysst 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i m 48 and still married and loving and i think we will keep loving for long time to come. there r many married luving couples. mutual understanding and respecting the views of your partner will go the long way. at times it surely happen that after married their love starts fading away coz each other does not fit into their expectations as one comes to know many things abt each other only after marriage, it also matter how one handles their marriages and if one takes it casual then also there is possiblity that both r sailing in different boats. to overcome the boredom one also should be innovative and charming.
2007-01-29 22:09:21 · answer #3 · answered by s l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 41...and just left my husband and i am willing to forgive and forget....i want to work things out and he doesn't. I think like most of the answers below...it takes to it takes communication give and take respect trust and all that.....but like i said it takes 2. Not that my husband is bad ...but i think he lives in a lie. He is emotionally unavailable and he is unaware what he is doing actions speak louder than words. Love is the feeling....but action shows the love.
2007-01-30 00:36:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what is love? wow, it's a wonderful feeling. it can sustain anything but love just like a flower. it needs tending and watering and sunshine and care to keep it blooming year after year after year. if love is not nurtured... like a flower, it will wither and die. my husband says he loves me but cheated on me. how can someone love a person and hurt that person he loves at the same time. now it's my turn to ask...
2007-02-02 16:22:41 · answer #5 · answered by Lola 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem with marriage is that once done, people start to think "this is it, this is the last person I will ever be with". By project their lives into the future and see "no change" they get resentful that resentfulness leads to anger, which leads to falling out of love.
While people are dating, they see a way out "I don't really have to be with this person. I can end it at any time". With that sort of mind set people are still looking to please the partner, and when you please your partner you please yourself.
So the bottom line is....
Marriage is the leading source of divorce.
Good luck
2007-01-29 22:23:36 · answer #6 · answered by ted j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is willing to accept everything, sacrifice and giving.
All decisions we make have consequences..
and if you felt that your in-love take time and reflect on
why and how this relationship does in you, how it makes you
feel wonderful, if this can stand every challenges it encounters.
And pray to God for guidance to help you find your true love
who is willing to be with you true thick or thin.
God bless.
2007-01-29 22:15:33 · answer #7 · answered by mplus2004 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well am not that old as asked,but can say that it differs from case to case.Have seen couples wherein love grows with age n can't live without one another even in their old days.
Have a nice time.
2007-01-29 21:59:07 · answer #8 · answered by DJ101 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my first marrage was a night mare my second has been 25 years and no it's not been easy but it get's easier over time and you quit sweating the small stuff, and you can't make some one love you it has to be there !my husband is a diamond in the rough!
2007-01-29 22:07:19 · answer #9 · answered by Tina Tegarden 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course love can sustain
i have been happily unmarried for many many yrs
you have to work at it tho it just does not keep going
love is like a plant
you have to nurture it talk to it feed it water it
you have to keep love going as soon as you put it on auto pilot its dying
2007-01-29 22:13:23 · answer #10 · answered by elite_women_rule_the_rock 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋