I have a wonderful girlfriend who I love very much. We have been in a serious relationship for over two years and talk of moving in together has been coming up. My problem is that I am an Adultbaby or to most of you I have a diaper fetish. I know a lot of you think I'm nuts and thats fine, to a certain extent I agree with you. Please know that I did not choose this, just like being gay its how I have felt since I was very young. I've come here to ask you guys because of the fact that normal people think this is weird and bizzare and I know thats what my girlfriend will think. My question is if you had someone who you loved very much and they came to you and told you that they liked wearing diapers and being treated like a baby; 1. How would you take it? 2. What would the best way for them to approach you be? 3. What would be the best way for them to tell you? I am in no way trying to get her to participate in this. I just feel that it is something she should know. THANKS!
2007-01-29 21:32:09 · 12 answers · asked by kurt c 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Sorry I guess I need to rephrase that. I am not gay I was just saying that this is the same as someone being gay in that I did not have control over this and has been with me since I was very little.
2007-01-31 07:22:45 · update #1
Alright one more note! Thank you to everyone who has repled good and bad. I have still not really received an answer to my questions, I hope somebody can actually those and respond! Thanks!
2007-02-03 14:10:09 · update #2
The way you ask this question shows you to be a very kind person. A couple of issues you should keep in mind:
- Your behavior is a personality disorder. One, you should see a counselor about it. Two, I agree you should be honest with her about it, but you need to know that most healthy-minded women would refuse to commit to a relationship with someone who has serious psychological problems. Don't be shocked if this turns her off and she leaves you.
- As for "being gay its how I have felt since I was very young"...does your girlfriend know you're gay? You need to understand, once again, that practically no healthy-minded woman would willingly get romantically involved with a gay man.
Certainly you should get help coming to terms with your fetish. And maybe...you should listen to your feelings and date guys instead. You deserve to be happy! Being happy is a challenge for every human being. I wish you the best!
2007-01-31 02:14:59 · answer #1 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At first I think I would be grossed out by it and maybe I wouldn't want you to wear them when I'm around,but I would never stop you from being you.Dear Lord please don't let her find out by any other means,you must tell her yourself. Maybe you could play around with the ideal,like ask her what would she would do if you came out with a diaper on/or saw a real hot looking man in a diaper.Feel her out.Her first reaction will most likely be the real deal on how she feels about it.Just remember if this relationship doesn't work out because of your choice of expression then maybe it wasn't what you thought it was to begin with. I can say this because I have been there, not a diaper,but close and I love my husband very much and I say what ever makes you feel good makes me feel good. I know it will be hard for you to throw yourself out there wide open for ridicule, fearing that this could be the end of something you really want,but it will be worth it in the end. Weather she likes it or not. Good Luck!!
2007-02-06 02:13:12 · answer #2 · answered by Sidetracked0260 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Paraphilic infantilism is the desire to wear diapers and be treated as a helpless infant. [1] One who engages in infantilistic play is known as an adult baby (AB) or teen baby (TB), depending on age. About one in three adult babies is also a diaper lover (DL)[2], so they are collectively known as AB/DLs[3]. The majority of infantilists are heterosexual males[4]. (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Paraphilic_infantilism)
It sounds like this is something that you do not want to eradicate from your life, and I don’t really know enough about it - if it’s even necessary to eradicate it…. To answer your questions:
1.How would you take it?
I would be taken aback, and frightened, thinking this is abnormal – perhaps harmless, but abnormal, because I never heard of this before.
2.What would the best way for them to approach you be?
I would slowly break the news, in a discreet, comfortable setting, and arm myself with some documentation about AB/DL’s, and either prove that while yes it’s not something usual, it’s harmless, well known, and not something that’s a psychologically evil deep-seated mental ill or something you are about because of maltreatment in childhood? See, it’s the lack of education is what I think is the part of the problem, and I’d head that off if I could. A copy in hand of a psych evaluation showing you’re not nuts, but a decent person, just with a desire for this activity? (I can think of worse things to desire, like pedophilia and that’s not what AB/DL’s are about according to the source above – that’s a common misconception). I’d want to hear from you that if it bothered me, you’d go seek therapy and try to lose the AB/DL for me if I reacted not wanting a part of it in our lives because you love me that much and willing enough to try - and ask for her support in this direction, and that it (AB/DL desire) is not more important than me/our relationship. If someone of medical authority told me something like… “we all have unique desires, fanatsies, roleplays, and although this one sounds possibly disturbing, it isn’t and it’s harmless…” I’d feel better about it, and might be able to deal with it and not jump to conclusions too quickly and take flight from you because of it. Good luck!
3. I think your question 2 and 3 are both the same.
2007-02-06 02:13:51 · answer #3 · answered by Sage 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Iwould recommned you change this beahviour by seeking help. Certainly your girlfriend will be crossed with it!
I think Jennifer J has some really nice advise, could you Jennifer J get in touch with me on mwaurad@yahoo.com.
2007-02-06 20:19:03 · answer #4 · answered by mwaura d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey pamper guy. i think you are gay. how can you be in a serious relationship with your girlfriend for two years and she not know you wear diapers. by the way , have you ever checked what she wears under thoes skirts. you never know, you might find huggies under there.
2007-02-03 12:41:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Break it to her slowly, if she freaks out remain calm and tell her that if it bothers her you will either stop or do it when she is no longer around. If she loves you it shouldn't change your relationship,
2007-02-02 16:06:15 · answer #6 · answered by Joey G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think everyone has there own fantasy's and fettishes so bring up a conversation that you maybe saw a tv show with ppl on it about it. lead it into asking whats hers and mention yours.
2007-02-04 04:37:03 · answer #7 · answered by Miss Casey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a very sick twit. Instead of telling my girlfriend this, I would seek some professional help and hopefully get myself cured.
2007-02-03 06:34:49 · answer #8 · answered by pnn177 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I remember seeing this years ago on a talk show. I thought that it was sick then and think that it's sick now. What are you smoking?
2007-02-06 01:24:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe I should turn you over my knee and spank you. Would you like that? Powder your bum, and burp you too.
2007-02-06 10:12:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋