I really need to know where i am going wrong i can not seem to hold on to a friend i dont know what i am doing wrong. Any friend i had i fell out with sometimes we may have had a little argument or sometimes there might not have been a argument and they would just stop talking to me and stop going out and meeting up wtih me (as friends do) i have had a few close friends in the past and everytime this happens i get so down and depressed, pls note that i am a 25 year old girl its not a silly teeneger phase.
At the moment i have a few close friends but i worry mysel;f to death that something will happen and we fall out or they get fed up of me. I know i must sound really deperate but i just dread ever haveing to have no friends again, i feel a argumnet brewing with one of them now cos i feel she is getting a bit sneaky and dropping me, sometimes i tink its all in my head cos i worry so dam much about being on my own with no friends to call to or go out wit, please dont say talk to them
2007-01-29 21:19:53 · 11 answers · asked by Pinkywinky 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
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I can call on a friend if i dont have any?
2007-01-30 01:26:26 · update #1
You seem to mention some valuable hints that others may have mentioned---talking things over---whatever--but you may be doing stuff that causes problems--I am not there and I cannot see it---maybe you try too hard---or get too involved in things that do not concern you---that means mind your own business. To have friends you have to be a friend----hope you can work this out. At 25, you should have the maturity to see what the truth is--then work on it. Are you a drama queen--that can get old real quick. I don't know--you need to evaluate yourself. Good luck and SMILE.
2007-01-29 21:28:35 · answer #1 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that having friends are an important part of life. And in time true friendship will come. The thing about female friends are they are hard to find and keep. So many women who claim to be your best friends will turn around and have sex with your man in a heart beat. As sad as it is, I would recommend keeping your deep dark secrets that you wouldn't want anyone to find out to yourself because these so called friends giving the opportunity to hurt you in one of these spats will spew your business in the streets. If you are stressing about being alone, I think it is time to fill up some of your free time. Try volunteering at an organization that you like. Maybe something with children, or the elderly. You will find other women there that like the same things as you do.
I personally had a friend and while she and I both worked together things were great. But when we stopped working together she would call me all the time and just really wanted more time from me than I was willing to give. She became a pest and I wanted out. That's why its so important not to live your life off of others. Stay busy with work and other things so that you and your friends will cherish the time you do have together but allowing both you and them a separate life as well.
2007-01-29 21:47:40 · answer #2 · answered by aprildin 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry too much. I was once like you and still am... I kind of have some good friends but somehow, we fall out with each other. Sometimes I end up with no friends at all for weeks before getting to know new friends. Don't try too hard to keep a friendship going, things might just get worst. Might be the way you speak and do things that your friends don't like. You saying not to talk to them is WRONG. It is only through talking with them that you know what they don't like about you so that you can chane and keep the friendship going. Avoiding these problems will only make you lose your friends easily.
2007-01-29 21:39:47 · answer #3 · answered by Happy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My opinion is you need to find yourself first. I mean figure out what it is you want to do with your life and what you want your life to mean. Stop worrying about all these friends. Real friends will accept and like you for yourself. If they leave you then it probably wasn't that great of a friendship to begin with. Get a job or volunteer position that requires you to be busy and helping others. The rest will fall into place naturally.
2007-01-29 21:28:02 · answer #4 · answered by zp055att 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your'e lucky if you really have one good friend. People usually end up hurting my feelings, because I thought we were better friends than we were. I don't know. You sound kind of needy, they probably see that too. Don't let them hurt you so bad just brush it off and call someone else, You seem like a social type person. Make new aquaintances and when your friend doesn't want to hang out call someone else.
2007-01-29 21:27:04 · answer #5 · answered by beatch38 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to trust yourself and love yourself more.. okay, you know these so call friends drop you as soon as you argue with them... anaylize what you do when you argue with them, do you threaten their life...that would be a good reason to dump you... okay..do you push them or scream at them....that would be another reason.. okay...lets say you do not do any of that.. the next thing i would consider is what kind of friends do you have.. it is better to have friends that you can disagree with and still they respect you.. you definitely do not want a friend that only wants you the way she wants you, to change you, or to use you, or to feel superiour to you by humilating you... NOPE those friends are not your friends.. you will find that you can meet more friends in different places.. and you might try to analyze if you try to use them or change them or humiliate them , then they have a reason to dump you.. friends should be mutually respected...if your friend wants to drop you... then the fault is yours if you feel she is sneaky.. you has every right to drop you....so you have to respect her wishes.. true friends are not controlling, and possessive.... this also can affect your relationships with men...
2007-01-29 22:00:51 · answer #6 · answered by bankone1111 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think of human beings could be chuffed to have the opinion that they desire. they could be able to precise there opinion, and people who pay attention (which could be a super number of folk) could have an open strategies, and doubtless substitute there opinion. some critiques would possibly not develop into something, despite if it doesnt advise there valueless. despite if no person treasures your opinion, you may. Its what makes you who you're.
2016-10-16 07:13:17 · answer #7 · answered by pantle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there is no actual argument don't worry. Find some activities where you'd have a chance to meet new friends.
2007-01-29 21:24:53 · answer #8 · answered by Rocky 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You said, please don't say talk to them, but thats not a bad idea. If they are good friends then maybe letting them know how your feeling could do some good. Between you and them, you might be able to figure out why this happens to you.
2007-01-29 21:28:55 · answer #9 · answered by roxsup 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are u a conservative type of person? Find out urself and u will get the answer why such things happen with u.
Best of luck
2007-01-29 21:32:12 · answer #10 · answered by sweetie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋