My husband recently asked for a month long controlled seperation after a week he started visiting alot, asked me out on a date resulting in us having sex and him sleeping over, the next morning I woke up to him doing the dishes. Then he left and I got the kids, he came back and stayed for the day. Then he was back the next day, again. But he didn't even kiss me goodbye and he made a point of thanking me! He hasn't called today and I'm confused again. Is he coming or going???
2007-01-29 21:16:43 · 5 answers · asked by ilovekeroppi2 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Mostly lies about money, he felt like we were living seprate lives and that he wasn't in love with me anymore. He thought if he left for awhile he'd know what he wanted. I had sex with him to see how I fet. I know it sounds lame but I never thought that it would get us back together. I thought it would help me decide. Dumb move on my part.
2007-01-29 23:06:40 · update #1
think you need to point out ti him that u appreciate the effort he is making but that by disappearing again he is giving you mixed signals and explain how it makes you feel, communication is the key here, good luck
2007-01-29 21:22:55 · answer #1 · answered by ♠ Merlin ♠ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is coming for the sex and that is it i hope you know... He is going cuz he is getting it and you are putting out... Basically you are a booty call for him... Stop giving him sex for a while and see what he does then.. Then you will see if he really loves you or not. He did not kiss or thank you because he only wanted sex!!!! It was a wham bam and not even a thank you maam... Very selfish indeed and what a jerk for doing this to you! HE really needs to go to marriage counseling with you... Why are the two of you seperated if i may ask?
2007-01-29 22:09:40 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you know why he wanted the separation - what is wrong wont change unless you talk about it. It has been my experience that what went wrong the first time will happen again unless something changes! You need to sit down and talk about it - it sounds as if he is confused and it is not fair on you that you have to second guess what is happening especially if kids are involved. Get counselling
2007-01-29 21:30:09 · answer #3 · answered by onecrowdedhr 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
think he is wanting to come back, as evidenced by his actions. he seems to want to show u things have changed, that he values u and is thanking u for giving him the opportunity.
2007-01-29 21:30:26 · answer #4 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on find a better man dump his butt
2007-02-02 08:11:14 · answer #5 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋