for me marrige is not about power to the arther or beging to the arther,is about leasining to the arther ones dreams and helping earcharther with life problems if the wife has more money dont give money to the hasbend give ideas then help the ideas with the money you can help with
2007-01-29 21:08:13 · 18 answers · asked by carol r 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
whatwhatwhat? I'm sure you could benefit from some therapy sessions
2007-01-29 21:13:00 · answer #1 · answered by jazzmen4u28 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your question is a good one. All i can say is that life is short. Don't fill it with hatredness or sadness. Instead, fill it with love and happiness. In a marriage relationship, there has to be trust within each other in order to make love grow and bring happiness, so that the family always stays happy.
However, if the marriage is not very successful, there are only two ways in my opinion.
Firstly, which may sound very easy, but be quite hard is to break the relationship. Some relationships grow so weak that there is no more existance power. So, you answer me. What is the point of staying in a relationship for a longer time that has ended ages ago? What is the point of continuing to make your life miserable when you can be free of it?
Well, the second option can be applied to less serious cases, where there is still chance of re-binding the relationship. I mean, you'll have to talk. Talking with one another face-to-face is nearly the answer to most questions regarding relationships. But marriage is such a relationship where talking about problems with one another is a must, in order to solve problems.
Remember one thing, marriage is such a powerful relationship that can make people love you a lot, or make them hate you a lot. Your job is to try to convert the hatred to love. How? Show your partner your love. Show them your care and understanding by every actions. Discuss your problems with them and help them with their problems. Feel the love, and make it grow day by day. Then, impossible is nothing! Sometimes, we have to change oursleves a little to make the reltionship better if we find the opposite person is not willing to change even a bit.
Try, try and try. Don't give up! However, if you have already tried a lot from your side, and find that no improvment can be done. Then, the best is to seperate. And, one more thing. If you have children, think twice before seperating if that's your choice, because your one decision will affect their entire lives!
All the best! I hope your marriage can be very successful and always be happy!
2007-01-30 05:21:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the problem with your maariage revolves around finances and suport for each other if I can read between the lines. My querry would be, why base your love for each othe on money? Did marry beacuse of that? had you discussed about what both of you want to do and how you can support each other? If not, I advise you to revisit these issues.
That besides, you need to checkout if their i a thir party in your relationship. One of you may be having an affai outside and so the love has grown cold. Sit and squarely face the problem by way of discussion. You wil surely get to the root of this. Sort it out because you may never truly get someone else better than her or him.
Have a lovely day
2007-01-30 05:40:17 · answer #3 · answered by mwaura d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your marriage was arranged for you. Too bad you couldn't have chosen your own partner. Is divorce an option? If you truly are not happy, walk, run away from the situation.
Counceling is a way for the councelors to make money and poke their noses in people's affairs and attempt to micromanage other's lives without the vaguest clue of the root problem.
2007-01-30 05:22:30 · answer #4 · answered by reynwater 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seriously Carol,you really need some lessons in spelling and grammar. Most married couples do not hate each other and if they do, then maybe they need to get some help through a marriage counselor. Hate is a very harsh word. If you hate your spouse then you better get some help or get out. Try seeking the word of God and maybe that will help you. Try reading Corithians1:13 in the Bible. It is a good place to start..I will pray for you as well. Good Luck and God Bless!!
2007-01-30 05:19:48 · answer #5 · answered by Shortydeb 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What I do when I at times I feel as though I hate my husband? I just let it pass. Marriage is so full of emotional ups and downs it's hard to keep track.
2007-01-30 05:22:50 · answer #6 · answered by Laela (Layla) 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like it's all about money; if you're having problems with money or with anything else in a marriage, it's good to seek counseling.
2007-01-30 05:16:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think hate can come in times of stress or great stress and usually passes. The real "hate" is indifference or just not caring anymore.
2007-01-30 05:18:51 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Better don't expect from your wife too much.Just improve yourself and treat her better.
Remember more the things you like about her.
Don't let money issue get in the way.Continue loving her as your own body, unconditionally.
2007-01-30 05:16:14 · answer #9 · answered by ranya j 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Marriages work when there is commitment, if it fades away later, you need to find why. And there the answer is.
Solve or let go!
2007-01-30 05:13:36 · answer #10 · answered by Cspeedy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was initially interested in your question, but the atrocious spelling and convoluted wording has me turned off. Go to school and learn some things, then approach your marital problems.......
2007-01-30 05:16:25 · answer #11 · answered by Juliette 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋