is it bad to be 13 years old and still not made out with someone yet?

Question

and also how do you make out with someone?
what do you do if you and the guy doesnt know what to do?
is it gross if some one fingered you??..some one that i know..(not me)

Answer 1

...Are you fat? That might be why guys don't find you attractive.

Answer 2

No its not bad.
Each person will develop sexually on their own. Nature takes care of itself.
Some people are intosports or other stuff where they keepbusy.
Like the parents that give their kids positive things to do so their kids dont fall intogangs and drugs.
Same with sex.
Why jump into it so young, when the risks could effect the rest of your life.

Especially when there are so many other things young people can do that arent actually intercourse penetration.

As far as making out, the best thing to do is think about what making out is to you. If its with being with someone you really like then let nature take its course. You close your eyes and things will happen naturally, and over time youll even get good at it.
Theres always books you can read, or teen articles out there,but the best is go from your heart.

A kiss can either be akiss that says I love you, or just a way of showing what a good kisser you are almost an achievement.
Its up to you what you want your affections to be about.

Asfar as "fingered" you
well, tough question because thats something young kids should be doing instead of actual intercourse.
Gross..thats up to you and what you believe.
Personally I think its a great alternaive to sex, and even when youre older its a great way to keep things different.

Sharing pleasure with someone you care about is absolutely normal.
Knowing there are risk to sexual intercourse, and even some types of alternative play is smart.

Make sure someone has clean hands if you allow them to touch you, or if you tough someone else.
And knwoing that some STD's can be tramsitted oral is only smart.

Be responsible, read up on it yourself so you can be aware.
Sexuality is beautiful thing when its about expressing your care for someone else.
Let it happen when its your time, and not when others feel its your time.

Good luck
enjoy

Answer 3

No, it's very very good to be 13 and haven't made out yet. You need to wait as long as you can. Too many kids these days are rushing into things like that. It's much much better when it's someone you really like and care for. When you make out with someone, you kiss and touch and feel each other. It's not hard to figure out if you don't know what to do. Do what feels right. And no, it's not gross to be fingered or to finger someone.

Answer 4

Absolutely not. It's not bad at all. You are too young still. I had my first kiss at 16 and I thought it was so gross that it gave me a headache :). Don't ever feel pressured by anyone. Don't do anything that you're not comfortable with. When you are older, you'll be happier with yourself. Don't be that girl with a reputation of being premiscous. Be true to yourself.


If the girl and the guy don't know what to do, then they shouldn't be doing it. They're not ready.

And yes, it is gross for a 13 year old to be "fingered". Too young.

A lot of girls I knew who started making out that young ended up either having bad reputations or became pregnant teenagers. Don't put yourself in that situation.

Answer 5

First off, it is not bad at all to not have made out with someone when you are thirteen. That is really good actually. No matter what your friends might tell you. The second thing I will tell you is kissing and the rest will be a learning experience for you and the person you are kissing.. It will come uncomfortable to you but somewhat natural. No one had to teach me how to kiss. The last thing I will tell you is being fingered is more an adult thing. You will probably enjoy when you are much older. But I dont reccomend doing it now.. You are still young. Dont be thinking about sex or sex acts ( such as fingering ) for a few more years.

Answer 6

Most of your friends probably haven't made out too. Most of them are lying so people think they're cool. Most people tell small lies like that to feel better about themselves and to fit in. Don't worry about it.

Why the rush? Making out can be wonderful if you are with someone special, or horrible if you aren't. Wait until you're ready. And maybe he'll know what to do and can teach you. Or, if he doesn't, you can help each other learn. Just don't do anything you'll regret later, like having sexual intercourse. You can become pregnant or catch a sexually transmitted disease. Bad news. Don't let him take any pictures. Don't let his friends watch. Don't do it in front of other people. Don't let him do anything that makes you feel uncomfortable. It is OK to say, "No!" If your mom (or dad) would get mad if they found out then you should probably not do it.

Is it gross if someone fingers you? It can be. It depends on how ready you are. It will be gross (and painful) if you don't want to be touched. It will hurt if he rushes. You really should wait on doing stuff like that.

Good luck!

Answer 7

Not at all, I would not feel bad if I were you, in fact, keep waiting for someone special to do that with , the later in life, the better now days......

Question 1: Do not feel bad if you have not kissed a boy yet, it is very normal for us to be more mature and need these types of emotions satisfied instead of winning a football game or soccer game like the guys might dream of.

Question 2: Make out with a guy means kissing, usually with your tongue if you are comfortable with it. I have found that some guys do not like kissing and are more into....something later on for you, but kissing to me is the most passionate part of a romance and someone who will not kiss me is someone who will not experience me.

Question 3: If you both do not know what to do when you have both shared your emotions with each other about how you feel toward each other, then you should just follow your natural instinct and lean close to him and let him hold you for a while. It is natural for a guy to embrace you and for you to endear yourself to him....there is nothing in nature that says you have to do anything!!

Question 4: Yes, at your age of 13 it is considered disgusting if someone fingers you. It is not appropriate for your age group to be doing that and is why there is an age limit on pornography.....because people do that sort of thing on pornographic media (tapes, cds, computers). Please urge your friend to stop that relationship because it is only hurting her own self confidence as a young woman.

I hope this helps you; you seemed like you had more than one question in there that I had to address them all. I am more than willing to help answer any more questions you have in this category especially if you feel distanced from your parents. Believe me, your parents, if they are responsible adults, would be thrilled to hear you ask them about such things, it might even bring you closer to them.

Answer 8

Hold on there---13 and worried about all this??? Welcome to the world of young love. First off--get a book on teen age relationships---what they should and should not include----millions of kids are just like you---discovering the opposite sex and the attractiuons. Kissing and all that is natural exploration---you will find out how it is done--NATURALLY---like everyone else. But the touching is a questionable activity at this time. NOT READY AT !3---sorry but no one should be sticking anything anywhere---have some dignity and self respect---you don't need to let anyone do this---it is your body and others should respect it. It is only a thing that leads to a bad reputation and the chance for disease or injury---so get these thoughts out of your head. Better worry about school first---nature has a way of catching up--but YOU are in control of what you do---better be smart about it. take your time, have fun and be cool---good luck

Answer 9

Lol...there was a time when I thought that proving myself as being a man included "making out". As I got older I saw that peer pressure was the only thing that I looking for approval from. It is very difficult for me to tell you that you have plenty of time when I did not follow that path. But it is true. Imagine next week you decide to "make out". Holding hands...kissing...cuddling and exploring the grownup world of intimate relationships. Your boyfriend decides he wants to take it to the next level. Again you don't want to be the last to "do it". So now you are 14 and a mistake is made...you are pregnant! Now a mother at 15! No one to support you but your parents. The boy has left you and others now see you with a child and think twice about being with you! Maybe I have gone too far...you are still 13 and asking questions. That shows you care about your self and your future. So...is it bad you ask...no! When the time is right you will know...if you don't ask your parents...they are the ones who truly love you.

Answer 10

It's perfectly normal to have not made out with someone at 13. Half your friends who say they have are lying.
Making out just comes naturally, you'll figure it out once you get started. It doesn't matter if the two of you don't know what to do, it just comes naturally.
Fingering is not gross so long as it's consensual (both people want to do it) and it's something you're into. Not everyone likes it.

Answer 11

It's not bad.It's smart! You'll know when it's right for you because you won't have any doubts or questions left. When that time comes it won't matter whether you "know" what to do or not.It will be very easy and natural.
No act shared with love and pleasure is gross,but by the same token any act that is not done with both of those ,and for both people, is very gross. Curiosity is not enough of a reason to spoil something for yourself and neither is "everyone does it".