how do people stay married?

Answer 1

They work at it... being married is work not matter how much you love your spouse.
It is a give and take thing and a respect thing.

Answer 2

We've been happily married 36 years, and I guarantee you, some of the key elements of a successful relationship - married or otherwise - are:

1) A long list of common interests; things you both enjoy doing TOGETHER as opposed to separate interests, which all people will have.

2) A lot of tolerance for each other's differences. As much as you share in common, you're still going to rub one another wrong from time to time. Be mature and deal with it. Separate the small $h!t from the serious stuff.

3) A sense of forgiveness, for, as I said, you're both going to screw up on occasion.

Answer 3

Ive been married 26 years. Im a woman, wife, mother , grand mother and business woman. My husband and I have raised his children, my children and our children. Weve been through many years of ups and downs. I look back now and I tried to narrow it down to one thing that has kept us together. I couldnt think of anyone one thing but I did notice over the years when others were divorced and we were still together. I think it came down to respect. Hes never cuss me nor I him. Ive never seen the inside of his wallet nor him my purse. When I said I was going somewhere I was there. No games no lies. We still say thank you to each other when ask to get something. He nor I care if the toothpaste was pushed in the middle. Or the toliet paper roll was turn the opposit way. We had our roles he was a man and I made it clear I was the woman. If he or I did something we didnt know at first made the other mad it only happen that once. We live to love and learn to live with each other. Learn to handle whats at hand and never let the children get between you. Because believe it or not your children dont have anything to do with you or your husband. Our children are the love of our lives but they arent our love. My husband is still served first unless we have guest then he serves them. When chores are to be done then what does it matter if the trash doesnt make it to the can when he went out. TAKE THE TRASH OUT! Learn to realize that your spouse might have things going on in their head and so they forgot to run the dish washer. The other matter was debt. Dont go out and be in so much debt that it takes a toll on you both. Realize there is a budget. If you stay true to a budget then lots of time you can have later on what you so wanted now . For a much better price. When you disagree then really think to yourself are you really that upset about the problem or are you going on and on about a problem that could of been solved by honesty.
When ask by my neice what kept her Uncle and I together all these years I replied with what my grandmother ask me many years ago.
If your husband to be and I was walking across the road and a truck were going to hit one or the other and you could only save one of us , which one would it be? Well, I sat there and said well Granny I love you but Id have to save my husband then she said. Well Im proud to hear that because if you had said you would of pick me Id a told you not to marry him.
My niece did not marry that man and soon married another man and has been married 16 years. I hope this answered your question.

Answer 4

That is a very difficult one! I mean a difficult question to answer and a difficult thing to stay married. I've been married for ten years now and I think the most important thing that has worked for me is: to put myself in his shoes in whatever situation I am unhappy with. Try and understand why he is acting the way he is and then help him come up with a solution to his problem. We all take out our frustrations out on our partners which is very unfair but we must work as a team to help each other.

Answer 5

people in bad marriages often stay together because after so many years that's all they've become accustomed to. my parents are like this. I think they're both too afraid to see what it's like on the other side.

that being said, I'm all for people staying together and believe too many people get divorces too easily. but this was is a gonner. something should've been done a long time ago.

Answer 6

Drink is helpful but love is better. Read the words of St Paul, Love is not jealous etc etc. If you can understand and live by these words then staying married not such a hard question.

Answer 7

It takes work. Once all the bells and whistles and glitter goes away it takes hard work. If you are married or thinking about getting married, look at the person and decide if you could still be around that person when all the "warm fuzzies" go away.

Answer 8

Leading a happy married life for the past 33 years. Well it is question of give and take and a lot of understanding and patience.

Answer 9

Because they love each other, they like each others company. When the marriage is not going well they stay together for the sake of their children if any, or when one of them is not in a good economical condition. We don't say that the last is the perfect solution but it happens.

Answer 10

Trust. Honesty. Compromise. Love. Friendship.