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its my ex and she's freaking out as i'm writing this because she thinks her bf might have gotten her pregnant but she hasn't taken a test yet. she is freaking out though and i'm really scared she'll do something and keeps saying how much she wants to die. nothing seems to be getting through to her. what should i do? 911? keep talking to her?

2007-01-29 20:20:31 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Friends

ur right i know that the last thing she wants is for the police to show up. yeah i think her bf is pretty useless since she's coming to me, and i can't talk to him cuz he hates me and thinks she no longer talks to me anyway. she'd prefer that i dont tell her parents. i'd see her right now, but i go to college a hr away, but i am willing to go after classes today if she needs me 2. i'm not sure if her bf is helping her. one of you misunderstood, she's me ex-gf and i didn't just meet her, in fact i've known her for four years now. we're actually going to florida this weekend, though i doubt she could have a good time now. Maybe getting away will be a good thing though. i just don't want her to do anything and i'm trying to do everything i can to make sure nothing happens. i know that if that test is positive that she'd lose it, she's doing well in school and would have to probably drop out. i told her to make sure she doesn't take the test alone and that she's with a friend.

2007-01-29 21:10:53 · update #1

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call her mother and father and tell them to come over and speak to their daughter. then, stay with her for a while, don't tell her nothing and specially do not promise her anything when she is crying. Stay with her as long as you can and just hold her. She will get calmed in a while. If she tries to hurt herself, stop her. If she continues, then you call a police officer who will take her to get some help. You just met her. You should not be having this early on your relationship any problems.. You can let her know later that you think it is best that she calls you when she is over this other guy. It is her problem. Do not feel compeled to fix it for her. she did not call you for help when she was having sex with her ex-boyfriend. she did not ask for your permission. So, if she tries to make you pay for something or promise her something while she cries, you tell her. NO, I AM YOUR FRIEND YOU DID NOT ASK ME TO HELP YOU WHEN YOU WHERE HAVING SEX WITH YOUR EX, DONT ASK ME TO HELP YOU BEAT HIM UP or whatever you think it is best. the police will probably call an ambulance and they will take her to the city hospital and then she will be released in 2 to 3 days. from the hospital... If you totally like this lady , just hold her and let her cry it out.. she has too much in her head.... to fix it, you need a doctor. but you can always show her love by taking her out so she does not think of her problems... try for her problems not to be yours... or else you can get into a cyle of fixing her problems and getting mixed up on what is truly love. she should take care of her own problems so she does not hurt you if she loves you. just show her once but don't make it a habit and date some more ladies

2007-01-29 20:45:30 · answer #1 · answered by bankone1111 5 · 0 0

This girl needs help. You're there now, so be her friend. Kindness, Love, and Patience are among our greatest gifts. Women are emotional first and then practical. Stress buildup will let itself out in strange ways sometimes. If she's that wound up, when she lets it all out sh'ell probably be exhausted and fall asleep. Over the next few days be calm, but stay consistent in what you say and do. This is a situation that calls for more help than just you can give her, that doesnt mean you fail, but if you cannot see all the options, how can you counsel her? She needs to find a professional she can trust. Her doctor, someone at the school? The girl needs to work on her emotional skills if you think she could go that far over the edge. That doesnt make her crazy by the way or a psyco, just someone who needs help.

2007-01-29 22:16:11 · answer #2 · answered by Ann S 3 · 0 0

Keep talking to her, the last thing she will want is the police turning up. Explain to her that she may not even be pregnant and that she needs to take a test. Even if she is pregnant there are ways that she can get help, like going to see her doctor and he will be able to advise her. You appear to be a good friend to her but remember there is only so much you can do. Good luck

2007-01-29 20:31:16 · answer #3 · answered by donna c 1 · 0 0

911

2007-01-29 20:23:20 · answer #4 · answered by Hello!!!! 3 · 0 0

well take a test, buy it from the pharmacist.
The test is i think more than 50% accurate.She can wait,do the monthly math,and see.Then only decide to have a real pregnancy test in the clinic.For the time being,ask her useless boyfren who made her pregnant ,to talk to her.U see her too.

2007-01-29 20:33:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

No, that's not a cry for interest and that's not a cry for help. in spite of the undeniable fact that that's doing no longer something to help her concern. You seem to have typical approximately those suicidal ideas for a together as now, and you're doing genuinely no longer something to help your pal. anyhow, I doubt she is going to kill herself this weekend. Come Monday, only attempt to teach her that there are human beings available who care approximately her. there is quite no longer something you're able to do to persuade the opinion of somebody who thinks they have no longer something to stay for -- that's a actuality. yet only attempt to teach her she's substantial to somebody, and what ever you do, do no longer take the 'invasive action' direction. ... And it style of concerns me which you do no longer understand her age...

2016-11-23 13:38:19 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0 0

Suicide should not be taken lightly. Call the police.

2007-01-29 21:04:36 · answer #7 · answered by shaunaxo 2 · 0 0

tell her that suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. time heals all wounds. tell her to relax. keep talking to her.

if you really think she is serious, then you should call the police.

2007-01-29 20:28:05 · answer #8 · answered by zzzzzzzzz27 3 · 0 0

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