i m depressed.?

Question

i m a normal housewife. im pregnant now.i had a normal education.i dontlike to stay in home.i want to do something of my own. but my hubby does not want me to work outside. he says i m there for u to do work.what u want i will fulfill ur wishes.he is a very caring husband.i love him too. i dont want to hurt him at the same side,i want to work.his relative is working .he does not say anything to her. i feel bad sometimes.i dont know whether working is important or family life with children is imp?i m depressed .plz help?

Answer 1

Communication is the key here. Tell him what it is that you want. Perhaps explain to him that you want to help him out with the bills and or start saving money. (only you know what it is you want) Do know that if something were to go wrong between the two of you you would have some work experience to fall back on. Perhaps explain to him that you were a working woman before you married. You're pregnant and not crippled! You will know when to stop working if he's worried about your pregnancy. I worked until the day before I delivered doing cna work. Good luck. I do think that he means well, but stress your point perhaps he will understand.

Answer 2

I heard a story of this situation b4 & it ended up in divorcing!
My thoughts r if he doesn't want u to work & u don't want to hurt him & on the other side u also want to work. Try doing something at home. Like teaching for example.U said he's caring & if u put this idea in front of him he might agree. U'll have something to do & he won't be mad cause u r not going out to work! U know u r pregnant & after u have ur baby u might not have these thoughts . Try to compromise with him don't push on what u want that way he might feel insult cause he's a man & want u to listen to him. Compromise is the only way to stay happy. This way u can get what u want but have his way, too. take it easy. Don't get mad too much U have a new life with u, too. think abt that angle. Baby'll give u a lot to do & if u start working out side u won't be able 2 take care of the baby properly. Don't be depress. Good luck. & remember arguing won't help!

Answer 3

I don't think you want to work to support your family. Its more of a career thing, you want to achieve something. The feeling of self-worth.
If that is so then your husband needs to know. Try a part-time job. Maybe teaching at a local school.

But as you are pregnant now, its best to wait. Plan to let your child be a little older. The forming years are very important. Then maybe you can take up a job in a creche and have your child there too. That way you get to take care of your child and work at the same time.

The important thing is to speak to your husband about it and set a time-line of when this should happen. Make your husband understand that working is one of your wishes and put that way he may lean towards fulfilling it. But ensure that you don't fall apart on such a trivial issue. Life is bigger than this. Once done your mood will be much better.

Answer 4

I consider myself a writer (at least, I write) and I'm not depressed. But frustration and even sadness is something that comes from writing, because, as someone else said before me, you're not just feeling your own ups and downs, but your characters as well. I'm a very emotional person, I will admit, and I get worked up over stuff that maybe I shouldn't. Does how writing is going for me effect my mood? I think so. Writing is, for people who are passionate about it, a form of release of their innermost self, and when all of a sudden something happens and that release gets up on hold, it gets all bottled up. I guess that's why I call Writer's Block a disease. You're being slowly tormented to death by the ideas that you can't write. Haha, so yeah. Are all writers emotional people? I think so. Are they all depressed? I'm going to have to disagree with that one, although they certainly all can be depressed at different times.

Answer 5

Ok, well while you are pregnant let it go and busy yourself by getting things ready for the baby!!! Go and visit friends and family and get out of the house!! After you had your baby enjoy the time with the baby and then when you feel the baby is old enough to go to daycare or a babysitters talk to your husband and tell him you just want a part time job. That when your working you feel important and that you are doing something. If he is caring enough he should be able to compromise with you!!! It never hurts to sit him down and be a little stern when you tell him that you want to work!! Tell him you appreciate that he works and takes care of you and the baby and that you know you don't need to work!! But let him know that being a house wife is not something your happy with!! Working part time meets in the middle of what you both want!! Hope my advice helps you!!! Good Luck!!!

Answer 6

I can sense that perhaps there are some cultural reasons behind your husband's decision. Is it that you want to have your own money? Or you feel the need to have outside interactions? Perhaps you can do community service or volunteer work a few days a week? There are also classes that you can take where you can meet other pregnant women. You are going to be so busy when the baby comes you should just try to enjoy not having that responsibility right now.

Afterwards, try a home-based business or volunteer work. Good luck.

Answer 7

Taking care of the family with love for the job indepth in the best work on this world. Playing the role of in-laws, husband, as a mother, as good host. No other job on this world can beat this one. But it depends from person to person. If you prefer to work you can stay at home and do some part-time jobs, still staying at home, or start your own business of your interest in a small way. If you are able to succeed well, then you can extend you business simultaneously taking good care of your family. Good Luck.

Answer 8

Hi,
First of all, you should be proud for your husband, who's putting lot of efforts to make you feel comfort. As of now you are Pregnant, now your concentration should be towards your child in womb. Right now your first job is to read GOOD BOOKS which will divert your depression & keep you healthy. I feel you should read BHAGWAT, which is all about Lord Krishna, just read this book & see you will definately feel notonly good, but great. Do this you will develop yourself & your child will also develop & see the happiness after that.First take care of yourself, once you give birth to a child, then you can think of doing job as well you can even communicate to your loving husband & finally get into the job or business, which you would like to do. Don't be depressed, that's a kind & a humble request.
Do take care yourself & your family. Good Luck.

Answer 9

There are some women like u out there.. Not to hurt ur hubby at the other side.. Explain how u feel.. Tel him ur feeling of being lonely and u wana work.. Maybe u can get a part time job.. so that u still have time for ur family and ur loving hubby..
Be happy gal!!

Answer 10

Of course family life is more important than work--even if you work it, family should be #1 priority. With that said, find something to fill your time while at home. Many churches have bible studies for stay at home moms, or find other moms in your community who feel the same way and plan a monthly or weekly lunch date and even play dates. Once your baby gets here you won't have time to be bored! You can join Mommy and Me classes, Kindermuzic, etc.