when i was growing up, i was used to being criticized as a show-off, so i thought myself 2 be invisible.But, as an adult i find out now extroversion comes natural to me, as well as introversion.The problem, each time i'm my outgoing, flirtatous self i feel guilty when i return to my quiet self. It's a struggle. I want to be one - either reserved or otherwise & be comfortable with myself being that person. Because, as it is, i'm not happy. When people describe me as warm, i feel like a fraud cos i know i'm not really. And when some others say i'm introverted, i feel like a fraud too, cos i know i'm not exactly that. How do i resolve this?
2007-01-29 20:16:49 · 4 answers · asked by Hmmm 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
old as I am, I have come to the realization that I have been many different people in my life, and you just come to terms with it. Different people know me in different ways. I present as shy at times and in total control at others. The wall flower and the life of the party (altho parties are few and far between these days, they did not used to start til I got there even when I had to force myself to go) I am both deciseve and unable to make up my mind. I am a risk taker and a compulsive nay sayer. All depends what cycle you are in. Nothing wrong with which ever one you present. It is what makes you who you are. In time you develop more control and can present the front that you need. That is one thing life gives you, time to practice. Nothing so dramatic as a mutiple personality, just a personality developing
2007-01-29 20:45:52 · answer #1 · answered by granny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear trinity,
I share your feelings too. This has been myself over the years.
Aometime back I used to wory about it so much that I almost developed ulcers. I however with time pracitised being natural and strongly fronted the best personality. Its difficult especially to behave different to people who knew you before. ith time you gadually get used to the more permanent personlity. It has a cost of losing afew friends, being depressed but you catch up and soon build new friend. Try also to perfect on your weak areas in terms of knowledge and also be focused in what you want to do and be in life. This will naturally create a path and picture to others accordingly.
Granny, may I have your personal contact email please?
2007-01-30 05:55:22 · answer #2 · answered by mwaura d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nobody is one way all of the time. It sounds like your moods are kind of extreme but that doesn't mean there's anything wrong with you. Both moods are you, be comfortable in both modes instead of always worrying about why you aren't feeling the other way. You don't have multiple personalities or there would be a lot of problems in your life, believe me.
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2007-01-30 04:51:14 · answer #4 · answered by marisia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋