Why do I attract these type of guys?!?

Question

Why do I attract "manwhores"?
It just always happens that way, I am not even close to easy and i don't fall in love easy and i do not fall for "the usual crap". I don'tdress trashy or anything and I'm confident. I also do not tolerate cheating so I don't know why this is. These guys are very sweet, because they know how to be, but always seem to have a past. Very, very, charming. I wanted a "good boy" or whetever you want to call them, but they never come to me! Do you think some people just attract certain people because that is what fits them?
i have no sort of reputation, never had sex and they say you are what you attract, but i don't see the connection here? Maybe people are meant to attract certain people

Answer 1

I remember a book entitled, "A Good Man Is Hard to Find." It was fiction...very funny. Unfortunately, it's true.

Two suggestions...one is, make friends before you get romantic with a guy. Making a friend is a big step. First you become acquainted, and then - if you like what you learn about him - you become friends. You'll learn a lot in the friendship. Based on that, you can promote the friendship to romance, or you can demote it back to acquaintance. Sound like a plan?

Two, be patient. Another way of saying this is, don't settle for less than you desire and deserve. You never know how the search is going to work out. You might get lucky quickly. On the other hand, I know a wonderful woman who dated many men over a period of 19 years before she found the man she really wanted. She has been blissfully married for 11 yeears. Along the way, I'm sure she met her share of "manwhores." Comes with the territory, I guess. A good man is hard to find.

But you can do it. Good luck!

Answer 2

If you want a "good boy" you probably have to hunt them yourself down as they tend to be too nice to bother you. "Man whores" are trying to dip into everything so they play the numbers game. Most likely you will be approached by more of these types and the nice ones won't (shyness tends to rate high on their social tendencies). It's probably not you or the type of people you attract.